findingmyway

Okay, so.... I am wondering how single parents do it, how they survive and take care of their children. Hopefully I can get some advice since that is something that I am going to experience in the next 6 months or so. I have 3 step children, and I will soon have temporary custody of them while my wife will be away for 6 months or so. This all happened quick, and I am not prepared for this. My wife and I were separated for a while, and I moved out closer to my work. We were on the brink of divorce before this incident happened. I am trying to find a (safe) place for me and my children to move into, closer to my work, find a babysitter, find a way to take care of kids and pay all the bills, and I am a little stressed about this. This will be quite an experience and it leads me to wonder how people do it. My family lives in a different state, and cant really help, not too much friend support (yet), my job is not good enough, summer break is almost here and kids will be home all the time and stressing over finding a safe, affordable place to move into, and someone trustworthy to watch them. Can anyone give any suggestions ? 6 months is not a long time, but I guess I am just stressing on how to do this since this is my first time. My wife managed to raise the children, and she says if she can do it, I can too. She did receive support though, from the state and from the kids father, plus some side work she did. Again I am new to this, and seeing I dont have a lot of legal rights when it comes to the kids, I have no idea how this is going to work and I am left with a lot of uncertainties. I am learning a lot, and any advice will be appreciated.

Downers is where Jesus Christ did his ministry. I cant be positive and always hang around positive, when I feel down I seek positive, when I see someone down, I try to be the positive. If someone is struggling, I find it helps to tip toe 360 until they are comfortable and ready to talk , but at the same time be positive and to show by example, letting that light shine. I am reminded of the To do and To be talk here. Phoenix...... Youre unique. We all have our struggles and each person has a level of difficulty they deal with. Whatever is bringing you down, or any person down, HF said he wont put us through something we cant handle. We can get through anything!

Sweet.... I like it when people follow through and report. Please continue to be humble, as boobies dont bring eternal happiness. Theres still more work to be done, more issues to resolve. Im glad though, that I could see you smiling and happy just from reading your latest post. Compared to your original post which was a little sad. I hope that you remain happy and always continue.

.02 - Twort, best of luck on your journey. I wish you happiness. You've gotten a lot of advice and it seems you've made your choice. Reading this post..... it reminds me of my sons slinky thats all tied up and is very difficult to untangle. I've seen people pull hard on it and it untangles a bit, but it also causes more damage. Seen my kids get tired of untangling and just throw it away out of frustration. I did enjoy slowly untangling it and after working at it for a while, voila! and its back, and it works, very rewarding. Youre family is all tied up..... dont buy a new one til youre done untangling that mess you caused. Im not in any way condemning you, I would be condemning myself. I just want you to feel free, no matter how much it hurts. Again, best of luck friend. We'll be here if you need us.

You will always love him, that wont go away. I hate it sometimes when people say you need to love them unconditionally, that includes when they are doing something wrong. You can love him and still put your foot down, or put it to his behind! The porn addiction is a disease that he can overcome, and its just wrong to give up. How long and how far is he going to take this ? Dont be afraid to do the right thing, sometimes the right is the hardest thing to do. If you fear doing the right thing, youre not trusting Heavenly Father. Im sorry, I just want you to be happy and not stress so much. This life really is short and theres more to it than this. Men (or women) are that they might have joy! If youre not experiencing joy, please..... you need to. Its not in porn or any kind of wickedness, (wickedness never was happiness), youre husband knows that. Maybe he is just blinded. Dont give up, open his eyes, show him true worth of a woman, how much youre worth! Heavenly Father does not enjoy watching his daughter depressed, lonely or sad. I suggest you talk to the bishop and get a blessing to help you. I hope you find joy and not be depressed..... I know the feeling, and its a bad place.

Yay.... Texas! Welcome, glad youre here. Where in Texas are you from ?

Just imagining a tyrant having facebook and doing this is humorous. Its unreal, thats why I found it funny..... If it was real..... actually it might be even funnier. But Im laughing about facebook not about killing someone. Noone wants to laugh at someone getting killed.

Pass it around...... just reading here is giving me a headache too.

Crush comes and goes...... lock your heart for now. You'll see some fine young women , before and on your mission, but the appropriate time is after. You'll be blessed.

Welcome friend. Inspiring story...... and the journey keeps going. Glad to see you here.

Yes , you must be a Texan! Glad to see you're here.

YAY!!! Congratulations on your son getting his mission call !!!

Getting divorced should be free. Money should only be spent celebrating the getting married part. Also adopting an animal from the shelter should be free

Things that should be free. Basic cable Basic Internet I think if you own a tv or computer, much like the radio, the basic channels or the basic internet should be free.

I was gonna try not to post so much, so as not to be considered senior..... but I saw it too late. If 100 posts you become senior, what could you be considered if youre over the thousands and thousands of posts?

To win at least one fight in the ring To own and fly my own little airplane and give tours in my country my resort To play the guitar acoustic and electric and perform on the street To see my kids grow and go on mission or married and see grandkids ....... just a few

.... So we announce secrets too?..... I said I was sorry !!!!

Hello and Welcome friend ! I hope and pray things will get better for you and this site will be of help to you.

Awesome. I used to stay up late and have deep doctrinal conversations and was just amazed how deep the gospel can be...... Its also amazing the small and simple stuff in the gospel. Welcome again, glad youre here.

Sweet.... me too. Im not ashamed of being LDS/Mormon. I'm also not too prideful to be one. I love it, but Im humbled above all else of the blessings that we receive. Welcome welcome welcome.... Im glad to meet you!

How about Tyrone Wells: More

Well, a people should govern themselves. If one is online checking out someone elses photos, page and feel wrong about it, or trying to hide a conversation from their spouse, then they shouldnt be on facebook.

I got mine a week ago. It took about, just a lil over a week, but I am so glad.

Thats why I spent more time here.....

From what you said, She married you for the wrong reason. Why did you marry her ? Is it because she joined the church ? Is that the basis of your marriage ? I ask, but Im sure you do love her and want her happiness too. I want to ask you if you two had plans. If you two had goals, something to look forward to, to work towards.... Any goals, like a family, children, or even the temple. I find, if I have nothing to work towards, then I stand still, and dont progress. Life can be meaningless without a purpose, and thats when we have a void that needs to be filled, and some try to fill that void with what they know thats made them happy, or with fun and adventure. Your wife is trying to be happy here, and so are you. She may have started looking for fun times going away to NY, or talking to an ex, or even sexy panties to make her feel good.... but you have also started to look towards another woman that will make you happy, with a testimony, and a love for the gospel. Yes, there is a woman like that out there for you....... but focus on the one you have now. She has not blatantly said I want a divorce or say I dont love (I assume). She may still love you very much and still want this marriage. Youre moving too fast, asking about singles. Dont let your love be weak.....Work on your marriage first, give it your all until you can really say, I did my best. Whatever happens, divorce or not, I pray you BOTH will be comforted. Trust in Heavenly Father, and he will show you what you really WANT. Divorce or not, If you dont love her as a wife, you can still love her as a friend, and a daughter of Heavenly Father.