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Thus is sorta the same thing.  My parents started a family out if faith and struggled for years.  Pretty much all of our growing up years however they always made ends meet. Barely but always. 
Infact, while my parents were driving my oldest brother to the MTC we received a phone call at home from my dads work.  A few days later when he gor home he called them back and they offered him a promotion that was just enough to pay for my brothers mission.  
Yes, the Lord provides. All 5bif us went on missions sone iverlaping eachother and my parents supported all of us.    

Do we use the tools of prayer, fasting, & priesthood blessings OR do we try to rely on imitations/substitutions/counterfeits that may appear easier or produce faster false results? Is it that hard to recognize a counterfeit? Why have we never heard that we should attend "healing/spiritual/energy conferences" in General Conference? Why are they not promoted in Church manuals/handbooks? Why don't General Authorities endorse them? Because they are counterfeits of the tools that we have already been given by our Father in Heaven. They are imitations of the Gifts of the Spirit.
James E. Talmage Articles of Faith
“Satan has shown himself to be an accomplished strategist and a skillful imitator; the most deplorable of his victories are due to his simulation of good, whereby the undiscerning have been led captive. Let no one be deluded with the thought that any act, the immediate result of which appears to be benign, is necessarily productive of permanent good. It may serve the dark purposes of Satan to play upon the human sense of goodness, even to the extent of healing the body and apparently of thwarting death.”
Elder Dallin H. Oaks “Gospel Teachings About Lying
Satan is the great deceiver and the father of lies, but he will also tell the truth when it suits his purposes. Satan’s most effective lies are half-truths or lies accompanied by truth. A lie is most effective when it can travel incognito in good company or when it can be so intermarried with the truth that we cannot determine its lineage. Satan can use truth to promote his purposes. Truth can be used unrighteously. Severed from their context, true facts can convey an erroneous impression. 

lds.org Old Testament Manual
When Aaron threw down his rod, it became a serpent. The Egyptian magicians threw down their rods, and they also became serpents. …
“… The Savior declared that Satan had the power to bind bodies of men and women and sorely afflict them [see Matthew 7:22–23; Luke 13:16]. If Satan has power to bind the bodies, he surely must have power to loose (heal) them. It should be remembered that Satan has great knowledge and thereby can exercise authority and to some extent control the elements, when some greater power does not intervene.” (Smith, Answers to Gospel Questions, 1:176, 178.)

From Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse by Richard G. Scott.
Caution
I caution you not to participate in two improper therapeutic practices that may cause you more harm than good. They are: Excessive probing into every minute detail of your past experiences, particularly when this involves penetrating dialogue in group discussion; and blaming the abuser for every difficulty in your life.
While some discovery is vital to the healing process, the almost morbid probing into details of past acts, long buried and mercifully forgotten, can be shattering. There is no need to pick at healing wounds to open them and cause them to fester. The Lord and his teachings can help you without destroying self-respect.
There is another danger. Detailed leading questions that probe your past may unwittingly trigger thoughts that are more imagination or fantasy than reality. They could lead to condemnation of another for acts that were not committed. While likely few in number, I know of cases where such therapy has caused great injustice to the innocent from unwittingly stimulated accusations that were later proven false. Memory, particularly adult memory of childhood experiences, is fallible. Remember, false accusation is also a sin.
Stated more simply, if someone intentionally poured a bucket of filth on your carpet, would you invite the neighbors to determine each ingredient that contributed to the ugly stain? Of course not. With the help of an expert, you would privately restore its cleanliness.
Likewise, the repair of damage inflicted by abuse should be done privately, confidentially, with a trusted priesthood leader and, where needed, the qualified professional he recommends. There must be sufficient discussion of the general nature of abuse to allow you to be given appropriate counsel and to prevent the aggressor from committing more violence. Then, with the help of the Lord, bury the past.
Something along these lines?

My account is working now!  Pam was posting for me. 
Thanjs for the help.  I thougjt there was a conference talk because i remember watching it on tv being broadcast from the conference center.  Wonder if he was reading this...anyways. Thanjs for the help!!

Court is next week, please keep praying!  Even if they boys get to move away....pray for peace for all involved and that the boys will staill have a good relationship with their dad. 

The answer to your question I think lies in the lost of perspective.
 
From what we are taught and believe we have existed for a long time before this mortal experience and we will exist for a long time after.  This makes mortality a mere moment in our existence.  Yet it requires faith to understand and accept this.  When our faith is weak(and we are all weak from time to time especially when suffering)  mortality looms large in our thoughts as the end all and be all of existence.
 
So lets reference a few of the many examples of this.  In the Old Testament lets go with Job.  He was a good and righteous man.  He lost all his lands and wealth, his kids died, and his friends turned on him. He was brought low and he suffered.  It must of seemed like forever while he was going through it.  Yet in the end he recovered.
 
Then we have the New Testament...  Let go with Paul.  He had his thorn in the flesh (which he wished would go away) he got imprisoned, stoned, and persecuted.  Yet he seemed to hold the perspective to the point where he claimed his sufferings were an honor to have.  (Seriously???  An honor??? That is hardcore faith there)
 
In the Book of Mormon we can go with the First Nephi.  His brothers attacked him, he was forced to leave his home behind, he knew his people would fail.  Yet he continued on is faith and prevailed.
 
Now lets go more modern to Joseph Smith.  Again persecution, attacks, imprisonment, and so on.  In Liberty Jail he pretty much asked your same question.  And I think we should all take the Lords answer and liken it unto ourselves
 
This is an awesome promise from Christ.  Who also did not deserve the suffering, the betrayal, the imprisonment, and death he faced.  Christ even asked if there was some other way to do what needed to be done, so he didn't have to suffer.  Yet in the end he endured and gained the promised blessings.
 
So don't feel bad that you are suffering and wish there was another way, that is common.  But do hold on to your faith and know that even if it lasts for all of your mortal existence, it is but for a small moment.
 
Believe Christ will turn to your suffering to your blessing and he has it all under control.  This knowledge can bring Joy and Peace even when we also suffer.

Prayers continue

There is no member prohibition on being in Girl Scouts, so that question is solidly aimed at her parents, so go ahead and tell her why you won't let her be in Girl Scouts (assuming the organization itself isn't refusing her).

My bisop told us that sibling CAN watch siblings be sealed.  I don't know if adoption is different, I don't see why it would be, but I have personally seen it happen with half siblings...so a second marraige happens.  That couple is waiting to be sealed due to previous sealings need cancelled.  They have another child in the meantime.  Then when they finally all get sealed, the older children from previous marriage get to see the new baby sealed to parents.  They do not get to see the parents sealed, they are brought in at the time of the baby and get to see that part. I don't see why it would be different for adoption, but maybe??  

If we can make the guys wear white shirts, can we get the women to stop wearing flip flops? 

I think it's coming from the list of what he isn't paying for in the original post. 

I eloped.  That meant I paid for everything.  There was no reception or honeymoon.
 
You are not entitled to someone else's assets, money, or anything else - regardless of what "cultural tradition" or anyone else says.  It's the entitlement mentality that's the problem here.  
 
He told you what he's going to do.  You can both either:
a.  accept it,
b. whine and complain about it.
 
I recommend that you take the situation as it is, make the best of it.
 
Life is a series of adjustments.  How you handle them, shows the kind of man you are, and will continue to become.

Seriously?  If you don't have the money for the type of wedding you want, then shrink it down.  It is a one day thing.  Heck, go to the temple and rent temple clothes.  Why does your dad in law have to pay for anything??  
I don't think it is worth a relationship to try to get him to pay for anything.  You can do it on your own. You have over 6 months, you can save for the basics.  If you can't maybe you are not yet ready to support a wife and kids.  It isn't about the reception, fancy dress, flowers and such.  It is about you and your soon to be spouse.  
I know that came off harsh, but I don't think you should depend on anyone for that.  

I don't think being a people-pleaser is a personality flaw. I often act the same as you. The only time I would see it as a flaw, is if I'm lying and generally not behaving with integrity. For example, if a friend is bashing the church, I'm not going to agree with my friend. I will defend the church.  But, if it's something as benign as what to do for a girl's evening out, I usually don't have a strong opinion one way or the other, and will go along with what she wants to do. I'm just happy to get out of the house and actually doing something.

I'm sorry about this and I particularly feel for your husband, having been the spouse stuck in the middle before.  I'm happy to say everything is fine now, but it's awful.
 
Apologize to your in-laws... and then limit contact until if or when you feel safer of attempting the relationship again.
 
That being said, I don't blame you at all for telling them off.  You are their son's wife and they ought to respect you more.  Unfortunately, they aren't here for me to tell them that.  So, yes, limit your contact.  Your relationship is with your husband, not his family.

Seriously?  If you don't have the money for the type of wedding you want, then shrink it down.  It is a one day thing.  Heck, go to the temple and rent temple clothes.  Why does your dad in law have to pay for anything??  
I don't think it is worth a relationship to try to get him to pay for anything.  You can do it on your own. You have over 6 months, you can save for the basics.  If you can't maybe you are not yet ready to support a wife and kids.  It isn't about the reception, fancy dress, flowers and such.  It is about you and your soon to be spouse.  
I know that came off harsh, but I don't think you should depend on anyone for that.  

Kids forget, don't pay attention or simple haven't been taught.  It happens.  Sometimes I think when they talk to the bishop for the interview, either he assumes they already know or they are so nervous about "passing the test"  (we know it isn't a test but they think of it that way) that they don't really hear everything.  Also depends on the ward.
They are blessed to have a good teacher that taught them.  I am sure that the eye opener was a good start for them. :)  They are lucky to have you. 

I agree with everyone else.  Someone needs to take up a collection, or find a away yo pay it back.  It looks bad when we teach accountabliity and we are not being accountable! 

One of the terrorists that was released - there is a picture going around where he is posing with five heads that he cut off himself.  Just awful.  These weren't just any prisoners.  They are the worst! 
 
It seems pretty evident that Bergdahl did desert his post based on the fact that he mailed his things home a week before and the email conversation where he expressed his disgust with America and his dad told him to follow his conscience.  I think he is possibly mental ill or extremely naive, thinking he could approach the Taliban as their buddy.  It's amazing they didn't behead him a long time ago based on what has happened to so many other people, but then he turned out to be very useful to them.
 
Still, that's not the big issue to me.  The big issue is that we negotiated with terrorists, which shouldn't happen.    

We also go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread a day....yep, 4 boys.  Sometime two loafs of bread....

I eat carnation instand breakfast in the summer and oatmeal in the winter.  
I also like left over mexican food.  :) 

I eat carnation instand breakfast in the summer and oatmeal in the winter.  
I also like left over mexican food.  :) 

When a small amout of butter can cause a person to be spiritually lost, I think not talking to someone over a washer and dryer is fine.  Like ou said, you will forgive and move on.  But forgivness doesn't mean you have to put yourself back into a situation.  Seems she is being petty, and feels it is worth losing the relationship, so I guess you didn't lose much....

When a small amout of butter can cause a person to be spiritually lost, I think not talking to someone over a washer and dryer is fine.  Like ou said, you will forgive and move on.  But forgivness doesn't mean you have to put yourself back into a situation.  Seems she is being petty, and feels it is worth losing the relationship, so I guess you didn't lose much....

Sometimes life stinks. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers.
 
A few things I learned as a step parent in a difficult situation:  It sounds like you and your husband are dealing with a toxic ex. Be the best example of loving parents and united parents you can be. Let your home be one of peace and understanding where the children will feel loved and accepted. Don't stoop to her level. Buoy up your relationship with your husband. Before you know it, your children will be grown and gone and it will just be the two of you. Your relationship needs to come first. (Unless, of course, there is abuse going on with the children). Write everything down. Keep a diary/journal of everything that happens with the children. Talk things out with your husband, and if it's appropriate let the children know what is happening. Tell the children how much you love them, and then show it. A remarriage is a "special needs" relationship. And, it takes more effort on both spouses to make the marriage work. Divorce in 2nd marriages is high, nearly 70 percent when children are involved. That is why your marriage relationship needs to come first. What good is it going to do the kids if the husband and wife can't keep their marriage together? Have faith, even when things go wrong, that all will work out in the long run. The Lord knows of your situation. Sometimes, things don't happen the way we want them, but if you are keeping the commandments and doing what you should be doing, then it is NOT your fault when things go wrong. You will receive peace and comfort in knowing you did your best. <Hugs>