Panos04

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  1. @ryanh I apologize, I guess I mistook your objective realism as a negatively charged personal attack on myself. I have already forwarded the "Family" link a few users posted to Michelle and she said she loves it! She told me that she and her dad had already been reading it and discussing it together. @Iggy I am 25, Michelle is 20. I live in another state, met Michelle through a mutual friend. The relationship is strictly platonic (if you were wondering) as the mutual friend is interested in her. Plus it would never work, I am an orthodox Christian, and she a faithful Mormon.
  2. ryanh, I do not know the real issue, I do not even know her parents at all... Michelle's father has talked to her about it and neither of them can figure it out. So I guess in a way, she was invited by at least one half of the party in question. It does seem strange to me that a person can be so engrossed in a faith that places such importance on family and marriage to be struggling in that very area! You say she is well aware of the importance of family? I can only trust that you are right... I am still left wondering how a person can flee facing marital issues by going to a faith such as Mormonism is all I am saying. Does where I am coming from make any sense? Meddling does sound like a bad thing to do. However, offering a helping hand seems like a great thing to do, the only difference would be in the perspective of the individual. I would certainly welcome any questions/concerns that Michelle's parents would have for my relationship with her! I would welcome conversation on the matter as well as offering my views and/or listening to possible solutions if there are problems. I highly doubt Michelle wants to make her parent's relationship worse, so I am not sure why you continue to have such a negative attitude to a daughter trying to help a situation she sees to be problematic. If you really ascribe to the view of letting others alone to do whatever they wish that is your call... I however would like to encourage you to see the good in lending someone a hand in a time of need where they feel too ashamed to ask for it. I am not suggesting Michelle go in and start shouting scripture at her parents but rather making herself available if either wants to discuss it.
  3. Yes This is great! Thank you both! I was a bit confused at the suggestions to just leave them in the dust, problems do not always solve themselves... A great admonition in that link was this: Thank you both!
  4. - I was not trying to imply fanaticism, but it seems to be what she is busying herself with instead of facing the problem (She does know there is a problem, just does not want to talk about it). - Well so far you have offered at least one bit of advice, I am not looking for an indisputable answer to all of their problems, just looking for a few good ideas, or possibly people who have had similar stories and how they dealt with it. - As I mentioned in the OP, My friend is the daughter. She actually came to me in confidence to seek advice... Seeing as I am not a Mormon, things are entirely different when speaking of religion and even marital business. I will not be in contact with either of the parents, I will simply be relaying information to Michelle as a way to help. - Michelle would like to do more than stand by and watch her parents grow cold. I would agree with her that at least talking about ways to help is a start. I was actually involved in confronting my own father about his substance abuse issues. It is true that people can not help others without their consent, but I have seen where just a little consideration goes a long way. Thank you for your input tho. :)
  5. Oops, this might need to move to the Marriage and relationship advice sub-forum. Apologies.
  6. Hello LDS.net Forums! I am new here and am basically looking for some advice. I am not Mormon, but my friend Michelle is. Her parents are both faithful active LDS as well, but there is a problem. Michelle's mother has been growing distant from her father... She has been spending far more time learning about the gospel than she has just talking to her husband. Whenever anyone tries to talk to her about how "removed" she has been she will either ignore them or walk away... My thoughts are that since she seems to be infatuated with her faith, is there anything that could be cited from LDS theology that would stress the importance of the family? Specifically husband and wife relationships? Or what priority that relationship should take in light of the gospel? That might be a horrible way to approach this, but that is why I am here. Looking for good advice to ease the tension and discord in their present home. Thank you, -Paul