Blocky

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  1. I'm really happy that I had my kids young. I also wish I had finished my schooling. If I could go back I probably would do it the same since I know it can work out:) I'm not 30, have three kids, and the youngest is almost 3. I feel like now would be an excellent time for me to go back to school as long as I did it in a way that kept me at home as much as possible (online classes as much as possible.) If you husband is going to have a regular 9-5 job it could be more complicated going to school and having a baby at the same time but if his future work schedule is more flexible (or he's still in school) I think it would be very feasible (know several families) that have babies while the mom is finishing school with the husband. It takes the husband being available and wiling to keep things moving smoothly, though.
  2. As an active Mormon married to someone who is not I know of one thing that really makes me happy and feel supported and it has minimal impact on my husband. In the LDS church we usually have a 'calling' which is a job that we are given. It can be meeting with a few other women once a month to check in with them, it could be teaching a sunday school class, leading the womens organization, etc. When my husband is supportive of the small time commitments I give these jobs, it really means a lot to me. I feel like I'm helping my church, learning things (sometimes out of my comfort zone), and growing closer to Heavenly Father because of my service. Sometimes this means I'll be out of the house on a week night, or need a few hours to prepare a lesson. I always appreciate it when my husband supports me in these endeavors.
  3. When I'm teaching primary, especially the younger kids, I think of ONE main thought/idea that I want the kids to learn. It can be something as simple as "Heavenly Father loves me" or "Jesus lived on Earth". If I can convey that one simple idea to them during the lesson, I feel satisfied that I did a good job. When I take away the larger expectations from myself, I stop becoming my own worse critic and I open myself up to be a lot more easy going, less stressed and less overwhelmed. Then, when I go to class, if everyone is listening and we get through the lesson, I feel super happy that we were able to cover so much. If not, I don't beat myself up. Also, I try to have at least one, if not 2-3 hands on activities. These are NOT elaborate. They can be something as simple as tying a string on our wrists to remember the lesson, or taking turns writing our names on the white board... but it's something to get the kids moving their bodies at least a little and keep them engaged. This also gives me a tool for if they are not paying attention, they get skipped and realize they need to calm down before they get their turn, and they really want that turn, and they really want the next turn... it's like these little things are the dangling carrot. Best of luck!
  4. There are temple recommend holding individuals that use medical marijuana. In the cases I know of, it is never smoked. The individuals also use it instead of harsher drugs that would be prescribed to them. They also do it with the support of their physician (not just the dr who prescribes marijuana). As far as I know, it's left to the bishop to decide by the spirit if the individual is doing it as intended as a medicine or just to get high.
  5. It was edifying, I remember that. Otherwise, my two year old was running the show. Really though, even though I can't remember the details, I do remember feeling the spirit during a few quiet moments, and I remember the fellowship later on in the hallways. It was a good Sunday!
  6. I think Rooibos tastes the most like regular ice tea. It's herbal (not actual tea) and tasty, try it out:)
  7. One of the best things my father ever did for me was, as a teenager, he expected me to do things that I've never done before. I had to return things to a grocery store, drive a large truck a long distance, babysit overnight, change a tire etc. He'd tell me how to do it, and give me the advice needed to stay safe. I would say "I can't do that!" and he'd say "yes you can, now go do it." I would do it and I'd realize that I was an able, competent individual. If he'd done everything for me, I would never have been able to do those things on my own once an adult. I would panic and find someone to do it for me, to the hardship of everyone around me. So, I suppose I view the teenage years as the time for teenagers to push for independence and parents to give them measured doses of it (not all fun responsibility, either).
  8. Feel free to take mine, but I warn you, they will make more than 10 minutes worth of messes while they snack and an other at least 10 minutes worth of messes while they simply walk through your house.
  9. My husband went inactive about two years after we were married. There are struggles and differences but he is still a good father and husband. He supports my activity in the church and my raising the kids in the church. If I was to leave him I think Heavenly Father would be very disappointed and my children much worse off.
  10. I used to work at a hotel on the night shift. One night I came in and the girl on the earlier shift told me that someone had checked in that gave her the creeps. I asked her what he did that was so odd and she admitted there was nothing he did that she could put her finger on. A few days later someone calls 911 from a room and in a few minutes the hotel is swarming with cops, guns pulled. The man was a kidnapper and was doing some very very bad things in that room. Thankfully the girl got loose enough to call 911.
  11. When I returned from inactivity most of my prayers were asking to help me feel the sorrow and to have the desire to choose the right. The desire and feelings weren't there. This went on for almost a year. I kept doing what I knew I should, even if I wan't feeling the comfort from the Holy Ghost. Displinary actions actually really helped the process along. I went through two, the second mostly just to help me keep moving forward. They were some of the most wonderful things I've ever been through, and the only time I felt the spirit during that spiritual drought. Pray for the desire. Then pray for the desire some more. Repeat several times a day, always searching for Gods will. It will come. It took me a long time, but feeling the Spirit as a constant companion is so wonderful and worth the HARD work and time it took.
  12. Updating/making 72 hour kids are all-ways fun, especially when you get to eat the old snacks from the last one.
  13. We all sin. Some sins though are very easy for some of us to advoid. For most of us, not drinking a cup of coffee is very easy, it's not tempting and if we did do it, it would be an act of pure rebellion and go against the strong testimony we have of the world of wisdom. Is that how your view the WOW? I'm guessing to your husband, the coffee was a small thing (like how perhaps buying something on Sunday is to a lot of people) and not an act of pure rebellion and conscience rebellion. The idea that your husband feels judged by you is very concerning though. Lets say he did do something that was a pretty big deal to both of you, and you acted like this, on his back about it, telling him he should take the sacrament or go to the temple and that you weren't comfortable with them and you felt scared about your eternal marriage. I doubt this is the partnership you want to have with your spouse. Voice your concern to your spouse. Once you do, he'll know how you feel, no need to nag on the subject. When you see a positive behavior that they display in regards to the subject, praise it and let them know how much you appreciate it. I've been through much more than coffee issues with my husband. At first, I freaked out and it was tough, but I noticed that it let me view minor details in a more proper light. If you're foot gets cut off, you won't care about a scratch on your finger. This is but a scratch. Offer your husband a bandaid, but don't walk around after him lecturing about how mad you are that he made you be scared by hurting himself.
  14. If she mentions it again, ask her to take a moment and ponder why she wanted you to tell him and not to tell him herself. Could it possibly be because she didn't want to face him and him saying no or being dissatisfied?
  15. Now get Portal 2!!! I must warn you though, it was too much for my graphics card to handle so I'm not surfing the web in safe mode.... not as much fun:( Silly graphics card file error. We miss video games, but at least I have plants vs zombies to keep me company in the mean time.
  16. Growing up if my parents gave me an allowance I would tith on it. If they gave me some money to buy a specific thing, I would not. This just kind of goes to show that you need to set your own rule of what you think it right and stick with it.
  17. Found a good quote. So no need: President Spencer W. Kimball said: “I am aware of some young men and women who seemingly have not been successful in total fulfillment. Some have been on missions; some have completed their education. And yet they have passed the period of their greatest opportunity for marriage. The time has passed, and while still attractive and desirable and efficient, they find themselves alone. “To you we say this: You are making a great contribution to the world as you serve your families and the Church and the world. You must remember that the Lord loves you and the Church loves you. To you women, we can only say we have no control over the heartbeats or the affections of men, but pray that you may find fulfillment. And in the meantime, we promise you that insofar as eternity is concerned, no soul will be deprived of rich and high and eternal blessings for anything which that person could not help, that the Lord never fails in his promises, and that every righteous person will receive eventually all to which the person is entitled and which he or she has not forfeited through any fault of his or her own."
  18. I know it's taught that those who are unable to marry in this life will not be withheld from the blessings of the Celestial Kingdom. I'm looking around LDS.org for quotes to support this and having a hard time locating any. I was thinking possibility a talk by the sister that was part of the relief society board who was never married. Does anyone have a link to a talk that touches on this subject?
  19. Is this question only for the guys? I don't remember ever being asked that. Maybe it's more of a new adult member thing?
  20. I was inactive for a few years and during that time I developed a few additions, bad habits, and other things that I needed to work past to be able to have the Holy Ghost back in my life. I knew what I wanted in my life, and I knew how the things I had been doing didn't fit into what I wanted for myself. For a long time my prayers were primarily prayers asking for the desire to repent. I didn't feel sorrow and it was hard to want to go through the repentance process even though I knew logically what I needed to do to get where I wanted to be. Pray for the desire to change. Pray to understand the severity of the sins. It might take quite a bit of time. It will come. It's a process.
  21. I have a kindle fire. I love it. We also have an Ipod touch. When we first got the kindle in November their internet browser was a little glitchy but since then everything has been smoothed out. It's perfect for watching things on Netflix. I find lots of good books for free on there. I've never paid for a book yet and probably read close to 100 of them. If I'm going to play a game like bejeweled just to kill some time I prefer the Kindle because the screen is so much bigger. It charges pretty fast and has a decent battery life. It comes with a wall charger which is convenient when you don't have a lap top when you're out and about.
  22. Plus, when you're changing in a locker room, it's only for a few moments. I don't think it would be an ok idea to just be casually walking around in them as if they were regular clothes, they aren't. Missionaries are asked to not line dry their garments outside. Keep them special, but if someone gets a glance, it's not a big deal. They really do look like fairly normal underclothes for guys. Also, I prefer exercising in my garments.
  23. Our salvation is not directly tied to how fabulous our food storage is. With all the issues you have going (totally not judging for just throwing crazy stuff out... things have gotten crazy here before...) it sounds like you have plenty to focus on before you focus on food storage. A fantastic 1st step if you really are gun-ho is to just make a 72 hour kid as a family home evening. Then in a few months you can review your next step for food storage. No rush needed, slow and steady.
  24. Ecco is my favorite. Looks nice, but I still feel like I could walk 10 miles in their sandals. Very good quality.
  25. I wouldn't have questioned it at all if you hadn't asked.