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Well..I must add that it's through personal opinion and understanding that I've been lead to believe this. I remember everything he told me when we were together, his family weren't particularly loving towards him - if anything he is quite alienated from them, though they do love him...but I think the emotional abuse, through comments and attitudes towards him resulted in this amongst other things. I'm not a doctor, so these are all cultured guesses - though they believe people with his condition, do have and can feel emotion but they don't recognise them, due to the individual repressing them so much. It's saddening. I will read the link - Thank you Ruthiechan! JudoMinja - it's true..though in his case he's had a lot of mixed types of therapy. Only problem is, the general feeling towards people with his condition is that they are good at hiding the truth...though in his case he seems to be very open and honest with people - he doesn't tend to lie - he says what he feels - and how he's living his life, even if people are judgemental. I'm just grateful and blessed for the upbringing I've had. It may not have been the best, but I've always been loved and physically and emotionally shown that love.. Thanks again to you all.

Gwen - it's the emotional hurt. We broke up a number of years ago, and I was left quite substantially hurt (largely to do with the fact that I didn't understand the reasons for the break up - while I had been uneasy for quite a while with him, I knew that there was something going on, but he wouldn't speak to me, or tell me at all about it.) He's never ever been violent towards me or anyone at all. That's the thing, I am perfectly confident that I could deal with it all, I would support him no end and be for him always - that's the honest truth. I think it's more..showing him that. I was there for him recently when he had a psychotic episode - and I supported him over the phone and even drove to collect him one night, when he was stuck somewhere and totally uncomfortable. I've done a lot of reading on the various illnesses, and largely they are emotionally related - stemmed deeply in a traumatic event, that the person cannot even recall...it takes a lot of therapy to tap into it, but there has never truly been...a "cure" for his...illnesses, normally, if they tap successfully into the anxiety or depression, it lessens the effects of depersonalisation and anti social personality disorder. But the worst thing is, he can't feel emotionally anything for people if that makes any sense. Still, it doesn't put me off..it spurs me on..I want to be there for him. He's on a lot of Meds as it is, which is positive, but he's on a high dosage. But it's down to him..and his drinking habits as well....Trust me I am. Sincerely said :) Just_A_Guy - Thank you. And trust me, I'm not trying to change him by dating, sleeping (HECK NO) or marrying him. Exactly. I totally agree. I love him for who he exactly is. I'm not trying to change him, because he is the person I love, warts and all lol. Either way, a relationship between myself and him isn't likely to happen right now, he said that he wanted to be "well" before that ever happened (with anyone). Either way, Thank you. Honestly, I appreciate it all. x

Thank you to you both. Seriously, it's something that has crossed my mind - in terms of him needing to have faith (many people have mentioned to me about the story about Alma the Younger - and it's an amazing story in itself). It is! He's leaving University and moving home, and hopefully will be living at home and Studying...he stopped drinking for over a week as well. This are all MAJOR things. I know they sound so minimal - but the fact he stopped because of someone else...is amazing. It is a Huge thing and I'm excited, because it proves to me that my prayers are working...that he's placing himself within the comforts of his own home - where there is security and hopefully means, he won't be able to get up to anything... That's a wonderful life experience Ruthiechan. It's just unfortunate..that I seem to be..being pushed away. It hurts only a little bit - but it's because he's said that he didn't want to hurt me.. He has a number of mental health problems, ranging from depression, anxiety, psychosis...depersonalisation...anti social personality disorder. It's a whole heap of things. They're all so bad, that it was put to him to have Electro cognitive Therapy (where they force your brain to have a seizure through putting electrical pulses through your body) he declined that...but he is moving home predominantly because the support he can get surpasses anywhere else. I guess, when I said can love heal - it was an open thought as in - through loving someone, you gain and have a lot more determination to see something through to the end - especially when perhaps through no fault of their own, they cannot return your feelings. I remember him, and how he was before all of this happened....so it's almost as if, with those memories and thoughts - and the care that was in him - that's my focus and support - I love him, so honestly and truly, that to say I didn't would be a lie. I just hope with all my heart, that he can see the good in me..and understand what I want for him. He celebrates his birthday very soon, and so I'm in the midst of getting a few things for him...including that of a CTR ring...I just hope and pray...and I will fast Ruthiechan...thank you both so much! :)

I've been very hesitant about posting on here for a number of reasons. Especially where in terms of other posts, I have held back my true feelings and emotions in order to "save face" or even protect the feelings and emotions of other people... However I'm not afraid now. Which is amazing for me. There is a person in my life, who has just re-emerged from out of the wood work. He's someone I do love, and I have loved for a number of years (even when he wasn't physically present in my life). Now rather than attempt to cram in all the details, to give you such an indepth view of the situation, I want to pose a question to you all - Can loving someone "heal" them? When I speak of healing, I speak through faith and love in the name of the Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. Sunday just gone (and for a number of months) I have been continually praying for strength...and understanding (I'm a convert to the Gospel and so is my immediate family - which is difficult in a situation like this as they have a very limited knowledge of the Gospel) whilst at Fast and Testimony meeting, a man spoke of being healed from affliction due to his faith, and he quoted Isaiah 10...and I believe is it Matthew (?) where it says, if you ask, believing that you will receive, I shall give it unto you? That's me paraphrasing, but it hit home so hard and intently... And so I asked..and prayed...for the desires of my heart. You see the person I love has a Mental illness - something that is extremely severe in terms of emotional welfare. He doesn't hold a faith in a higher being...although at one point he was searching for one...he wants to be well...though every therapy they've tried hasn't worked. I therefore ask here...through love and faith (that I have) could he be healed, could his heart be opened, and could the light physically shine through? It all sounds a bit dramatic, but honestly, it needs to be something paramount to really "touch" him to make him better.... I ask because I require advice - honest and loving advice. It's a sensitive topic, so I ask you all to be kind to my feelings and emotions. Thanks, in advance :)

Wow that is amazing! A positive reinforcement of spiritual connection. My Mum had a weird experience...in London as many of you know we have the London Underground, she was standing on the platform - waiting for the tube to pull in and heard a voice telling her to Jump. She got really frightened as the voice and thought pushed her to do it, and ended up pushing herself back against the walls of the platform. She stood there until she felt better....

Unfortunately I don't have a priesthood holder in my house, so it's not something I can call upon at a moments notice. I've noticed over the past couple of weeks that the stress from work has been pushing me further and further into a heightened state of paranoia. This wasn't something that was...a problem at the time. And, I apologise for not replying sooner - I wasn't getting any notifications!! From the experiences I've had since hearing that voice...I've really been pushed. The voice I heard...spoke in connection to something I was praying about. And you know what, I've had a proper trial since that day....especially where it concerns the issue. But I'm not going to let it pull me down...I'm sticking to what I know to be true and I will push for the good to come forth. It's so hard - but I know the results will be worth it. Fingers Crossed.

Thank you both for your posts :) I appreciate it. Origen - I read what you said and it's true. I know a lot of people who go through that quite often, but the voice..well it made sense to what's currently taking place in my life, if that makes sense? HEthePrimate - Thanks :) I'm focusing on that - though it feels even if he can't hurt me, he can use those around me to do just that. And if it was him..well let's say he's pulling all the strings out at the moment - two people who affect or influence me the most have...turned - their manner and their attitude has changed. Let's just hope it's all coincidence :/

SeminarySnoozer - Thank you. I do take on all of the points you've made as another close friend of mine did indeed say the very same thing. I will only say in response that, I had (if anything) been sleeping too much for the previous days and weeks leading up to it. Oh I'm not alarmed - if anything it's done anything but - it's actually proven to me that what I'm attempting to do..or where my minds focus is at must be a good thing. Either way, he's not done a good job of disheartening me - I've grown in strength :)

GB-UK - I did initially think that, however I was wide awake, I just happened to be thinking about things that had been going on the previous day. KrazyKay - sounds interesting. Though, I would hope that Heavenly Father wouldn't be sending such a message to me! I did inititally think the voice had said "I won't hurt you" - but at the same time - if that was the case, it wouldn't have been said in a threatening manner....Who knows, eh?! :)

The other day I had a very weird experience, well as about as weird as it's ever gotten for me. Having woken up after a night of continual tossing and turning, I turned on to my side and heard a voice. Now it took me a moment or two to even realise that I'd even heard something..and then a further minute to realise what had actually been said. It was a low, deep and what I can only describe as nasty voice. Initially I think I was in denial about what was truly said to me, but I realise now, that I heard this voice speak: "I'm going to hurt you." Now in turn, I'm curious - would hearing a voice such as this, confirm me to know that the ideas/focus or intentions within my life were so good - that I was being challenged? I'm not attempting to place significance upon myself - but gain a further insight :)

Jennarator, that is very true. A frustrating but important truth! As well as praying for them to know truth, I'm praying for them, to be healed. They've got a lot of Mental Health issues...so it's all merged into one. I generally just want them to be happy - and actually have a chance of...choice in life - (okay yes, we are all given choice - but in their mind/actions - it's almost as if they've been narrowed down to the most basic things in life.) Frustratingly upsetting :/

So as of late I've embarked upon the "Faith" train. I've been taking more time to read (both scripturally and posts on here - so thank you) pray and ponder on what I believe and how I can build up my foundation in the Gospel. This has all been prompted through the influence of someone else, and my righteous desires concerning them. My question is therefore, if you pray for a righteous desire for someone to come to a knowledge of Good and truth, will it come to pass; as long as you have that faith that it will? Any help, guidance, advice would be appreciated. I'm on a knowledge feast atm

As someone who is getting to grips with the Gospel, I wanted to ask people about the Spiritual experiences that they’ve had, that’s enabled to grow in testimony and faith, but perhaps more specifically when it comes to hearing a voice as such. Now, before I had the experience myself, I never believed it to be true. But I wanted to reach out and ask others about their experiences (if they’ve had any) and how it impacted them/how the felt/how they reacted...etc

Thank you to everyone thus far who has provided their own understanding to this situation and thread. It's given me time to think..and reflect - something which comes to me easily! Outcast – laughing at your own thread? Doesn’t give me much hope that it’s sincere advice/outlook tbh. By your response you clearly didn’t read what I wrote...Not all guys are motivated by that. Like I told someone else recently – Stereotypes prove nothing. We can all use them to provide basis or understanding to our “points”...

Vort, Thanks. I appreciate the point of view and is another angle to take into consideration. I'm beginning to respect his wishes, and therefore allow them to become the priority, rather than my own wants and needs. This is all food for thought, and is providing me with a lot of time and opportunity to reflect and consider, so thank you all! :)