Mistie

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  1. Mistie

    Damaged goods?

    Hi Blackmarch, I don't mean to make it sound like I view myself harshly. I DON"T consider myself "damaged goods" because my kids are my life and I would never want to change anything about my life to not include them. What I mean by damaged goods is that the men that I've met since my divorce over 3 years ago, non-LDS mind you, have turned their nose up to me thinking that I'm just out looking for a sugar-daddy. Or, the other half think that I'm easy since I have 5 kids. I don't ever give anyone the time of day if they do not have the same values as I do. Here in Green Bay I don't think such a single man exists! There are not any single males in my ward so it makes trying to "date" even harder. The point of this thread was to ask if LDS men would run away from a woman (like most other men) who had 5 kids...
  2. Mistie

    Hello from AZ

    Welcome Julygirl! That's great that you are freed from your job that has taken you away on Sundays! I agree that the 3 hours can be a bit hard, but I find that IT IS SO WORTH IT!! Only once in the last few months (since I've been active again) have I only made it to just the Sacrament meeting, and I was bummed the whole rest of the week. I really enjoy the Gospel Principles class and Relief Society. Anyway, welcome to coming out of "lurkdome" :)
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    Hello!

    Welcome to the site! Glad that you found your way back to the church. I recently found my way back too after many years of being inactive.
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    Damaged goods?

    Yes He does Zorabelmay! :)
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    Damaged goods?

    I was actually trying to be "funny" by saying damaged goods. I couldn't think of a different metaphor to use. I just wondered if I would be looked down upon
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    Not sure how to handle this

    It has been a while since I've logged on here, but I wanted to give an update if anyone was interested. After the fiasco with my landlord and her adult children (my friends), things got better. She apologized to me for confronting me the way that she did. She acknowledges that I'm an adult and can make my own decisions and such. She still isn't thrilled, but at least there isn't that animosity between us any longer :)
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    Damaged goods?

    Thanks everyone for your input. I guess I should have stated that 1) I don't think of myself as "damaged goods". I guess what I meant was that my life before becoming active has been less than stellar. While I was a good, decent person, I didn't live the life that a true, good Christian should live. 2) I'm not out looking for a man. I know it will happen when it is meant to happen (although I wouldn't complain if it happened sooner than later...lol). I'm not giving up any traits or characteristics that I'm looking for in someone just to be with someone. I've been married and divorced twice.. I learned my lesson there! :)
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    new in this forum

    Welcome to the forum Marisa!
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    Damaged goods?

    Yes, I know I have a lot of "baggage". And yes, I have had a difficult time dating because (before I became active again) the men were either thinking I was, um, (how do I say this w/o making it sound bad?) an easy person to be with or they were freaked out because I have so many kids. It has been a very dateless 3 years (but mainly by my choice). I refuse to lower my standards, morals or character for anyone or anything less than what I'm looking for. Skippy, thanks for your brutal honesty :) There is no doubt in my mind that those points are exactly what men think right off the bat. But when it comes to money, I'm not looking for a man that's loaded or has money. Families and marriages can be happy even if there isn't an abundance of money. Just need to have faith, love, honesty and willingness to make things work. Unfortunately not everyone realizes this.
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    Not sure how to handle this

    @Loudmouth_Mormon.... I did save it. I copied it and inboxed it to myself just for that very reason! @everyone else, thank you. This was part of the reason why I became inactive years ago after converting. All of my friends and "family" (my now ex husbands family, whom I still happen to be close with) were all the same way, saying the same stuff. I let it get into my head and gave me doubts. I don't have any doubts anymore and I'm trying to get a handle on my life (in all aspects) and I think I'm closer to Him now than I ever have been. I just don't like confrontation and never know how to "defend" myself or the church to the nay-sayers.
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    Damaged goods?

    I'm 35 and been married and divorced twice and have 5 kids, and neither man is/was LDS (nor was I for that matter). I recently became active again in the church (after converting in 2000 and being inactive almost ever since). What I'm wondering is if my situation will keep me from meeting an LDS man, falling in love and getting married? From my perspective it's as though I'm "damaged goods".
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    Not sure how to handle this

    My landlord is the mother of two of my friends. She just recently became my landlord to get me out of a bad rental situation that I had before.
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    Not sure how to handle this

    Thank you Vort. I hate that I tend to get defensive about things and I didn't want to make things worse.
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    Not sure how to handle this

    I was going through on Facbook adding "Like" pages (mormon.org, mormonvidz.com, etc) and I got an instant message from my landlord (whom I'm friends with on Facebook). I was trying to be careful as to say something to turn it into a bad situation, but I'm not sure how to handle issues like this. I'm a newly active convert and still learning. How do I handle this type of situation? Her - Mistie, are you out of your mind? Mormanism is a cult. You should run as fast as you can AWAY from them!! Just trying to help you out. If a church has any leader (John Smith) other than Jesus Christ, it is not correct in their beliefs. Me- I have done much research on the church/religion. I don't believe it is a cult (lots of prayer went into my decision, and I was a member of the church since 2000 and just now became active again). I know that there is a lot of stigma with the church though! Joseph Smith was who created the church, but is not the leader. The church is centered around Jesus Her- They believe that they can be just like Jesus and that there is no hell. That is clearly stated in the Bible Tracy studied all the other religions while she was in college at Evangel. They were taught all the things that are wrong with all those other religions. Me- Oh... I like the church and the community there. I've done lots of praying to find the truth about it. I know I'm where I need to be Her- That doesn't make me feel very good, knowing that you are making a mistake like that.
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    P90X and more

    Hey Skalenfehl! Beachbody is a great company! I have become a Team Beachbody Coach as well. Unfortunately I haven't had much success with it as I had hoped, but I have a lot of work to do on myself before I feel I can really try to promote it. I have injuries so it is hard for me to stick with TurboFire (my favorite!!) and so time consuming for P90X (I was doing the lean version). Diet is not great because I can't seem to stay away from junk food. I'm a work in progress. Anyway, I just wanted to say congrats at your success! Keep up the great work! Mistie