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carlimac, I have thought of that often as well. I don't know if it would be harder to know who it was and bump into them...or to always wonder who it is whenever we are in a public setting. I could only hope he wouldn't insist on knowing who it was... He's not a member of the church...I live in a pretty large city. Most likely, he'll want to know.

thank you to those who took time to read my post and reply. First off, let me say that my husband's past porn addiction should not have been brought up in this forum. Those of you who said that his sin is no excuse for mine is absolutely correct. It does make me wonder though, if I have deep rooted issued with that and need to resolve them through counseling, etc. I have ceased all communication with the other man and he is fully aware that he is not to contact me in any way. As far as telling my husband, I fully intend to. I thought that I could hold it back but I realize now that the spirit is telling me I need to come clean. Truly the only reason I was with holding it was fear of his insecurities and self esteem. Not to mention we will constantly be bumping into this other family over the next few years as our kids will be attending the same school. A constant reminder of the stupid decisions I made. Not only for me...but right in my husband's face. I will take whatever consequences come from the church and where I stand as a member. I am ready for the repentance process and to get to the bottom of some obvious issues I have with my self worth/self esteem.

I have been married for 10+ years and have found myself in a bad place. A little while ago I started texting/chatting with another guy. It was mostly something I did just for excitement/adrenaline rush. Well, we've been making suggestive comments to each other and on the spur of the moment decided to meet somewhere. Things got out of hand and there was some petting and one kiss. I obviously feel horrible about it and I realize that I need to tell my husband. I'm putting it off because I know how badly he'll be hurt. I don't want it to affect his self image and other parts of his life. On a side note, he used to have issues with pornography - as far as I know, he hasn't had these problems for the past few years. At the time, though...it tore me up inside to think that he was looking at photos of other women...why wasn't I good enough?? It was extremely hard on me. I know I'll eventually need to talk with my bishop, etc. I'm ready for whatever comes my way: disfellowshipping, etc. Anyone have experience in this area??? I really need some advice...