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  1. Thanks for your thoughts. Obviously there are a lot of emotions involved at the moment and I'm questioning a lot of things. The bishop says that my husband is definitely dealing with an addiction and has recommended the addiction recovery programme for him. He is also going to arrange counselling for him. I guess it's down to me now to decide what to do. It's going to take a lot of praying I think...
  2. Thanks for all your advice and opinions so far. I told him to go and get tested straight away, and I am being tested tomorrow when I go for my midwife appointment. He was all clear so I will probably be fine too. Does anyone know whether my husband is possibly a threat in terms of sexual abuse? He is training to be a teacher and I sometimes have doubts about whether he should be doing this. If he can't control himself and is deviant, is it likely that he may get involved with a student for the same kind of excitement? Is he a threat to our child? I decided to call his bluff today and told him that I knew he was still lying to me, then more came out. Details that he had lied to me about such as whether he was wearing his garments and wedding ring when he cheated on me, that since telling me he has looked at gay porn a number of times online and been back on websites to talk to men but not meet with them. Is this a lost cause? I really dont know what to do anymore....
  3. I have never done this before, but could really do with some advice. I'll start with a bit of background information to set the scene of the problem. I was born into the gospel and went less active when I was 15 for a couple of years. During this time I broke the law of chastity a number of times, including with my now husband who I met and got together with when I was 18. He joined the church 5 years before we met. We had a civil ceremony in 2009 and were sealed in the temple a year later. When we got married, I was very honest with him about the mistakes that I had made in the time when I was less active. He also confessed to me his previous transgressions as I made it clear to him that I didn't want there to be any secrets within our marriage. As far as I was aware, we were happily married. We had our problems, but we both regularly attended the temple, served in the church and had strong testimonies. We started trying for a baby once we were sealed, but we didn't get pregnant for a while. In May this year, my husband confessed to me that he had committed adultery, with another man. He had gone on an internet chat site and arranged to meet a random guy, who he had sexual contact with in our home whilst I was at work. This happened on new years eve, so it had taken him 6 months to tell me. He didnt tell me everything at first, it took him about a week to tell me the full story, where I then discovered that this was something that he used to do before we were married. This was the third time he had met a man and had sexual contact in this way. I was devistated. He is going through the repentance process, and I prayed long and hard at home and at the temple about whether I should stay with him. I felt like I should try to work it out with him, so I told him that I would try. A couple of days later, I found out I was pregnant. Since him telling me, we have moved out of the house and the city where it happened and have started over. He is waiting for the Bishop and Stake President to decide how to deal with the situation, and I am trying my best to live with him and trust him again. However he still lies to me about things. Only little things, but it really bothers me because he tells me that he is being completely honest with me and that he has nothing else to tell me, but then I find out that he has lied about more little things. Has anyone else been in this situation? Is it possible for someone battling with homosexual tendencies to get over it and be a faithful husband? Will I ever be able to trust him again? Any experiences or advice that may help would be appreciated. Thanks.