My fiance is super attentive to my need and I to his. We have a very strong, communicative relationship. He began enforcing this because of 2 things. We are both advocates of the 5 Love Languages and his favorite analogy, which is this; I life guard tries to rescue a drowning person. That person begins to struggle and fight against the life guard, causing him to begin to drown as well. The life guard will swim away to save his own life, then try to rescue the swimmer again. Usually the swimmer will recognize the help and acquiesce to the aid of the life guard. But had the life guard not taken the time and space to ensure self preservation, both would have drowned. There is definietly something to be said about taking care of yourself enough so you can take care of those you love as well. And if all are communicative about needs, then everyone can work for the same goals, be happy with themselves, and be happy and willing to help others :) Sorry for the lengthy response, just my 2 cents