I haven't ever posted on anything like this before. I'm a flurry of emotions at the moment. I have been in a 10 month relationship with a guy. It started out fantastic, but over time turned into a toxic relationship. He is sweet, loving, caring, kind, considerate, and generally fantastic most of the time, but when he's having an "off" mood he's downright mean, abusive, and hurtful. He has never put his hands on me in anger, but his words hurt as if I've been hit with a whip. He goes from "happy" to "sad" in a matter of hours. Always apologizing for his hurtful behavior, but it continues to happen over and over again. I've tried SO hard to hold this relationship together, because I want the person I fell in love with, but it's like a case of Dr.Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I don't know what to do to help him. I've gone with him to the Doctors office. However he (the boyfriend, not the Dr.) thinks his only issue is anxiety. I haven't a clue how to tell anyone what I see. He's not very close to his family, but I am in a situation where I see a sister of his regularly without him around. However, she wants nothing to do with the church. He was married once before, and told his family that his ex-wife was the one who drove him to leave her. Now that I have seen this side I have to wonder what her side of the story is. I hate being around him when he's "mad". I feel like it's all my fault that he's angry. I know the situation is awful, and as of right now we are no longer together. He ended it 2 days ago. However, the pain is still very real. And I still care about him deeply. I would like him to seek help, but I don't know where to turn. In truth I probably should seek some counseling of my own, and I have an appointment with my bishop soon to discuss that type of situation. Do I just drop it and walk away, and not say anything to his family about my concerns for his mental well-being? Or should I mention something when I see them? I welcome any advice you have.
Thanks!