YaYaYaYana

Lol lol lol... pushing 30 is not old at all... I attend a Korean Church in my city and volunteer there for community hours for a school paper.... what I noticed is that Korean women.. almost all 90% or more that are married and have a young baby are any Where from 28 ~ 33 ... Like almost all.. As for the couple you mentioned.. it's a personal decision if they don't want kinds... but I hope they are not giving up because they think they are too old or it's too late..... Now that I have been exposed to other views... I still belive the gospel in this church in this church is true but The church culture is just really really silly s.s times....... Near 30 or close to it say 27 for women is a great time to become a parent.. because by then you're pretty much an adult.... this should never part of the church culture.. in twenties people are youths they should study /travel/ work/ and enjoy life's freedom as much as they can!.... I mean even at 21.. that person has been a teenager like 2 years back...

I think that only applies to children who are living worthily in the Gospel. As long as they are living a righteous life themselves they are also protected by their parents covenants as well. However, if they completely and ultimately leave the church forever and continue the activities they are doing now without repenting and turning back I don't think they can be saved under their parents covenants. God doesn't have grandchildren only children~ Is what i heard one pastor say ~ which means that eventually everyone is responsible for their actions in life whether to follow God and be saved or not

Just so you know ~ It's the boys who are required to serve a mission..... for girls it is optional ... Going to college is definitely important, education should be the number one priority ... You should make her go to college and after she graduates and still wants to go than it can be allowed as long as she has her degree already done ... She doesn't need to go on a mission she could do other things to serve.. such as attending church meetings on Sundays and Volunteer for church activities and other events should be enough

Ummmm.... You are 21 years old for goodness sakes ... 2 years ago you were just a teenager!!~ In your 20's you're just a baby yourself getting out and exploring the world discovering about your self who you are and who you want to become .... This is the time for yourself and the most important thing right now is to get your education done with ... a four year degree is becoming a must in the world these days ... the bare minimum .. most careers are even starting to require a master's ... I would say at least get you Bachelor's 4 year degree and work for at least 3 years .. live a little and enjoy your life ..... At the earliest 26 is a good age to be a mother ~ but before that there is just no point ... once you bring a baby into this world there is no going back on it !!~ Your freedom is basically gone, you have to dedicate yourself to your family and raising your child ..... Becoming a parent is another step in life ... and should follow and be orderly .. I mean you can't jump right into middle school before you do elementary school and you can't jump right into highschool before you complete middle school right? ~ If that part of your life is best not being rush what makes you think this part would be better if you just jump ahead into being a parent before finishing your degree? a child is not a joke ~ It's a life that you bring into the world and need to be responsible for .... your husband has a good JOb now .. but you never know what could happen in the future .. what if he gets laid off?? You don't want to be stuck with a situation like that ... so it would be better if you graduate and also able to get a decent Job that could provide extra income for your family ~ I really don't understand the rush of all the younger girls wanting to become mothers... In my experience.... My friends who were the best off and had the best opportunities in life ... were one's who's mother gave birth to around 30 ~ 38 years old.. who took the time to become lawyers or Doctors or Master's degrees..... Sure I was born when my mom was only 24 years old .... besides telling my friend about how young and pretty my mom is she was practically useless ....... Now that I'm 24 years old... I keep looking back and thinking what a waste my childhood and teenage life was ... all the missed opportunities ... I keep reminding my mom that If I was only born 10 years later she would have had more chances to build her career and give our family a better life

~ LOL ... Just to make it clear I would actually never go through with such revenge .... I never ever play out any kind of violence out ... If I don't like somebody .. I just completely cut off all contact from them .... block cell phone, delete facebook, ... I don't even mention to them of breaking off contact I just do it .... But violent things and revenge are fun to imagine.... JUST imagine in your mind and stop at that ......... Thats why it would be a great Idea to quickly get out of that neighbourhood, sell the house as fast as you can and get really really far away ~

This is awful that lady should have known better than to ruin that wonderful family friendship that you once had..... Reading this made me so upset >.< People are just horrible sometimes... She probably just got possessed for a while there and went after your husband.. you never know.. maybe she just admired him at first and let her thoughts run wild and the devil took over until she started to act them out and seducing your husband ,......, It is really quite awful ....... I really think that moving is the best answer ... I know sometimes you make long term plans but they can't work out because of the circumstances which is why the new environment might be a better place to rest your mind in ............................. ~ If I were you I would beat up the woman.... Get your kids to beat up all her kids ... break every single window in her house using rocks and quickly move ---- But you're probabaly much more mature and would not do the revenge thing lol I suggest the moving part for sure though

~ I'm 24 and I know that only this year I actually know myself pretty well.... know where I'm going with my life and what to look for in a potential husband... I would say that by 24 you are good to settle into a serious relationship... and after like 2 -3 years.. around 26-27 getting married would be the best...\ By that point you would have lived enough to experience the joys of being young and free.... you would most likely be done with exploring about yourself on a basic level .. and when people are older they are more likely to be able to support a family or want one ... and it is more realistic... At the age of 24 people stop dreaming of fairy tale romances and weddings and pretty much know what to expect from a relationship.... When I think back to when I was 18 -19-20 -21 ... I would say that I was a baby!~ I was only beginning to explore the world and understand my self.... I would say the I am much more stable in character now ... and it will only getter better !! ` So I suggest date ~ have fun ~ enjoy your relationship and company with your boyfriends but don't get into anything serious for a while ~

~ I use to have those feelings too..... 4-5 years ago..... I would feel that If I did this wrong thing or, If I don't do this thing.. which is right... God is going to punish me .... that I wouldn't get this or. I wouldn't be able to accomplish this ....... In the end I came to realize that it was just me over-thinking everything... and it was my fear of punishment that actually made me feel/ think this way.... Part of the problem might be that I saw God more of a someone who is there ready to punish us or take something away if I did something wrong... instead of one That is kind and forgiving ... ~ >.< I know it's kinda of confusing hopefully it some what makes sense \ Yana

~ I've only done the first episode of it ~twice before school started and exercises had to go on the "if there is still time" list... But It did feel rewarding after I did it... You feel more energy and actually feel like being more active ... ~ What I did hear that insanity is the best for overall weight loss! I watched YouTube videos of peoples progress that lost up to 40 pound doing it ... and apparently it looks like everyone can accomplish it!!~ There have been 300 pound people doing it .. even though they can't do each exercise for as long as Shaun T.. they still progress and get great results for 1st time try!! I really want to continue doing it for the 4 months of summer break once school is out

"You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go." A quote I read on Tumblr a while ago ... and felt that this really fits.... You deserve to be happy... It seems that this Sister in Laws happiness comes from bragging about her self and making you unhappy..... You can't let toxic people like that just come in and ruin your life... I know I should say " Be Christ Like and Learn to Forgive Her.." In the long run you SHOULD!! But in the mean time... You have to let her know that you can't have her damaging you soul like that...... If there is absolutley no way of turning her around..... I suggest that you let her know that she is quite Toxic... Tell her she is A GARBAGE GIRL.... She Is toxic WASTE and that you want her out of her life if she is not willing to change ...... and to add to that I know this is a little extreme but...I suggest that you some- how secretly tape her and you conversation and show everyone she knows and you know how she treats you.... Build a strong support Net Work around you.... Find out her insecurities and her troubles ... Attack her with your words.. aim straight for her soul... get your friends to help... and when she breaks down and cries ... than You hold out you hand and say lets stop this ... I forgive you ... and if you don't like me... you can't treat me like trash ... but stay out of my way...... Give her a taste of her own medicine and Get out ...... This is how you deal with Bullies .... And she is a version of A bully... An adult bully........... I've gotten bullies down on their knees... In middle school ..... in High school... Even 2 years ago in college... You get a strong support network and drive them away through fear... or get them suppressed by fear.... Maybe she will always hate you... But at least she will shut her mouth and be passive if she knows you and a large group of your friends can Easily take her down at any time.. Love~ Yana P.S ~ If you have to deal with this lady for life... Might as well hold the power in your hands and keep her under your feet ! <3 ~ I'm sorry if this seems offensive of too aggressive to some.... But sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures.... if she at one point in her life owes up to her behavior and ask you to forgive her... than you can go ahead and be friends or be on good terms at least.... but there is no way you should put up with her until she comes around on her own... Sure she will say sorry one day... but what if it takes 3 ,4 ,5 years.. will you lets her ruin so many good years???......

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------~ Yes I know I should not worry about things that I have little control over but, I feel that i should be more careful and less childish about my goals ... so for once I'm glad that I chose a major that will be useful and help me accomplish other useful goals.... Things that are not as useful I will just keep as hobbies on the side ... so that they don't ruin my life financially.... I guess I also believe in being reasonable .... and I feel that the whole Idea of aging is that you are older and wiser and more accomplished ... if you are on the same level as those say 5 years younger than you .... that is kind of depressing .... When I was in high-school I always felt that having to be set back a year is the worst that can happen so I studied my butt off .... grade 9 is for 14 year old and 18 year old are suppose to graduate and start their university life ...... It would be terrible if an 18 year old was still taking grade 9 level classes and his or her friends were off at universities ... the playing field becomes unequal for that person I feel like I'm running out of time ~ Like I didn't get to do enough since my parents were not supportive of my hobbies and wouldn't pay for most things while I was a kids... i always waited to be older so i could try this and that.... and now I realize that the time to accomplish that goal is not enough.......

"Are you feeding your spirit? Are you trying to follow Christ?"Do you love and serve and provide a good example for your friends and classmates? ~ Maybe I should follow those things~ maybe I would feel that I am doing some thing useful for once ~ .... I'm really worried because I am not young~ I'm going to turn 24 this up coming January~ And even though I am really grateful and thankful for being able to.. after 2.5 years of college and 1.5 years of work to get a scholarship and live at home not paying any rent ... walk to college 1o min walk from home... I still feel really worried and anxious... I feel really old and like I'm running out of time ... so I set ridiculous goals to accomplish in a certain time frame.... it either doesn't work out ... or the goal is to complicated and pathetic .... All of my friends my age already got their degrees... had their whole school paid off by their parents ... and now are looking into work or more school ~.... the thing is that a Bachelors degree is now considered entry level.... where as before people with college diplomas were able to get amazing jobs ... people with PhD's are only able to get .... they will have to work for 3~4 years to get an average job.... I will only be graduated in 3 years .... I'll be 27 ....... SO far.... the only reasonable goal I have is to graduate / and lose 30 pounds this year ..... ... unreasonable goals... and probably not so wise ... start looking for a man in early 30's who has a nice job ... own's a house ... so that I can have an easy life and not worry about financial security <--- probably what is fueling my goal to lose 30 pounds.... everything I do has some sort of wrong reason.... but I just can't help my self.... I'm becoming desperate and old ... feel like I need a quick fix to my problems ... or a faster way out ... A way to out compete my friends and come out on top... I feel like I'm living the horrible life

I know no one can tell me directly the Meaning of my own life ~ However, I can't help thinking about it more and more ~ for the past year it has been bothering me quite a lot so i feel that i have to let out my frustration somewhere ... I feel like a fool and that all my goals and plans that I have made over time ... as I get older just I realize that they seem mundane... there is no real purpose for them ~ ~ I just feel like I do things not for the right purpose or selfishly choose to do something and than regret it 2 years later thinking ~ why did I choose to do that ~,...... ~ The only good thing that I feel I'm doing is getting my degree.. Other than that i feel lost~

The only good thing that I feel accomplished is probably being more mature and hard working than my classmates and getting 3 credits worth of classes transferred over so that I don't have to do electives Thinking about it a lot of the younger kids dropped out --> I'm just waiting for something that hopefully makes life for people life 5 years and under insanely difficult (hopefully no tuition cuts and no loans ) so that they would have to struggle and make all the money themselves --> That would be nice and I would finally be content being born in the year I was

-Does God specifically choose a time for us to be born in? I wonder if we are all fitted into the time we are born in to do something specific or important in that specif time ... or is it just random.. we are randomly thrown into the world and kinda have to figure out what do do in that time .... Kinda of a Rant SO FEEL FREE TO SKIP THIS PART AND READ THE BOTTOM ONLY>>> -For the past 3 years I have been thinking that it would of been better if I was born in my brothers year of 1993 or 1994 instead of 1989....It always feels that I miss all the great things by 4 years :< - When I was in high school.. I really wanted to go to an art high-school.. There were non near my house .. so the second year I transferred and went to one that was 1 hour away from my house ... After I graduated ... My old high-school that I first went to was turned into an all arts high school.... - I spent a lot of time self studying a foreign language during high school and really wanted to go on an exchange to that place ... However, there were non offered.. now there are like year long exchanges open to high school students :< ... Free language classes and at cultural centers ... and free learning websites... Now.. that I have been studying the language for over 3 years I don't need the website ... but it would have been nice to have those things when i got started ... so that I didn't have to spend - This year I transferred from a 2 year community college into a 4 year degree program... The government in Canada offered 30% off of tuition to all students out of high school for the past 4 years... I graduated 5 years ago.. so again I was not eligible for it :<<< I'M NOT TRYING TO COMPLAIN ... IN FACT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO BE THANKFUL TO GOD FOR HAVING THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE ACCOMPLISHED THE THINGS I DID EVEN THOUGH IT TOOK 3 TIMES THE EFFORT..... BUT SOME HOW I CAN'T STOP FEELING THAT I HAVE NOT BEEN FITTED WELL INTO THE TIMES THAT I WAS BORN IN ....