So, I normally don't post on forums, but I have also been having the "when should I start a family thoughts." (note the 'I' in bold) It seems there are varying opinions on here. I believe it's between husband, wife, and the Lord. Waiting because of selfish reasons is (to me) inappropriate. For me, I truly want to start having kids now. Unfortunately, I have hyperemis gravidarem that is always present in pregnancies in my family and I find it wise to taker this as a possibility that I may have it too. I have seen my sister go through three pregnancies-- all of them she was struggling with her life. She was hospitalized through all her pregnancies and when she was pregnant with child 3 the hospital wouldn't let her see her other 2 kids for months because of the swine flu threat. She ended up depressed and up and left the hospital to be with her other kids even though she could barely stand. If it was just school in my way I probably would have tried for kids sooner...but because my health and the health of my child is at risk I feel I should wait until I can at least pay for all my possible hospital bills so we are not in a large amount of debt. For me, I feel as if this is a blessing because my husband and I are in full blown saving mode. This is preparing us for the financial challenges we will face once we have kids. We plan on waiting one more year (till I graduate) and then start trying for a baby. Sometimes I feel like it isn't fair that the woman in my family have such hard pregnancies. I don't want to wait, but I feel it is wise. I feel like it is unfair for some people in this thread to say that everyone should have children right away. There are many out there with health problems who want to have kids right away but can't. It's already hard enough seeing everyone starting families early and knowing I should wait until I have the money situation and schooling under control.
