When I first joined the church, I started going to gospel doctrine instead of Gospel Principles for sunday school. I specifically remember one of the High Priests (not the teacher) going on and on about how when you are sealed to a spouse, the sealing to the parents is obsolete. His logic was that if you are together forever with your spouse in an exalted state, you can not also be together forever with your parents, because that would take you away from your 'sphere' of control. I recognize this as an apostate belief. However, I also see it as a possibility that a Stake President could hold to apostate belief (the second counselor in my bishopric mentioned his mission president when he served in Japan being excommunicated for telling sister missionaries he had received revelation that Polygamy was going to be reinstated soon, and that they could become his wives) and the Bishop towing the line in the name of 'sustaining' his local leader. After all, we have the stories of Joseph F. Smith and the Sandwich Islands, where pretty much the entire Islands had apostasized. Not willing to say this is what happened here, but I'm also not willing to call a lady a liar just because I'd rather believe in an anonymous Bishop and SP. Overall though, I agree with your observations.