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The burning in the bosom to me is often waterworks and a choked up feeling "knowing" that I need to say something, or that I am feeling something special. Stupor of thought, I can't say i've felt as much. I think mostly it would be that given two options and trying to figure which is the best decision, that the stupor of thought is that with the one choice I just cannot come up with any "good" reasons for it, or think clearly of it, where the other choice just seems to stay to the front and pushing the other out of the way more. Try to focus on the other choice anyway just to be sure it's been considered properly...and just cannot think of any good things for it. It just seems to not feel right, and not want to stick like the other options.

My mom was married to my step-father. He had previously been married in the temple and his 1st wife had left him and re-married. My mother and step-father married civilly. They weren't able to get their own temple sealing cleared for some years. I believe there had to be something done with his first wife and some other things. You definitely need to talk to your bishop. He will work with the stake president for anything he doesn't understand, and you can also talk to the stake presidency if you still don't understand things yourself.

Are you really sure the new couple would be going to the temple with "anger"? They may not. They may just be making haste of what they feel they must do. I can tell you one thing. Waiting even a couple of months once you know marriage is what you are going to do, makes temptation much worse and I've seen plenty of temple marriages put off and civil ones take place instead along with a year of waiting because of an engagement that was too long. My husband and I met and really only dated for about 5 weeks and we were married 6 weeks later. We knew, and waiting wasn't practical. He would have to start a semester at school and wait for that to be over and we would continue a 100 mile somewhat "long distance" engagement, or else need to get married ASAP. The ASAP is what it took. It may just be that the parents both need to learn for themselves that the children have gotten their own answer to what they need to do, and accept it. Hopefully though, they will get over the "not talking to each other" part and get along as they did before. Of course it will be sad for dad to not be able to be home for the wedding, but if it's what they need to do, what is important is that they are married in the temple as intended without other complications.

ShellieB, I don't think you are doing anything wrong. I think we all have to go through trials. Maybe your blessing means that ultimately, in the end, you will have health, rather than meaning you will never have bad health at times. Keep doing what you must spiritually, maybe learn some things about health and the body to keep it in the best health possible (do you need multivitamin, calcium, vitamin D, magnesium, omega-3's or some other thing that will help improve what you are getting normally?) and know that going through trials makes you strong. Maybe part of your trial is to make sure that your faith doesn't waiver, given what is said in your blessing. I have a cousin who married young and his wife died of cancer after only a few years of marriage. Her blessing talked of children. Needless to say, she knew that she would have children after the 2nd coming when she had her resurrected body. She actually had to go through an abortion of her pregnancy because of the harsh chemo she was going through which of course broker her heart, but it didn't discourage her despite what her patriarchal blessing said. Whether in this life, or the next...sometimes the blessing can be interpreted one way but in reality mean another.

It doesn't have to be a marriage breaker. Many people go through their own trials when it's hard for them to feel that they belong at church, should go, want to go, for whatever reason. Then the less they go, the less their spirit feels like being there. It's a struggle for many people. It definitely can make the marriage harder especially with children involved. If it's someone you genuinely care about it's not worth giving up a marriage over being less active for a while. Not quite the same as if they cheated on the spouse. Spouses even overcome that. It all depends on where the person's heart is and what they truly want out of life. I'd work on the marriage and more active church status unless there was a lot more going on than just that, which were signs the marriage was crumbling.

That link didn't quite show up as I expected it is www dot scriptures dot lds dot org.... I'll try without the w's scriptures.lds.org

Hi MissSpider. If you really want to study both the Book of Mormon and understand how it relates to the bible by using the footnotes, you can use the lds.org online scriputures. It has links and you can quickly click the footnotes and see what things mean, go further into definitions of new things from the footnotes, then use "back" on your browser to continue where you were reading from. I would go to the Book of Mormon in the online link, then click on the bible footnotes that you want to read about from there. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

I'm so happy for you! Must be such a relief. I'm glad that is over for you. So glad you gave the boot to your feelings of not going to church so you could get that conversation over with. Now just to give a talk huh? I'm sure you will do great!

Everyone is at a different place in their spirituality. For some people one thing may be acceptable, where for others, that same thing would not be. If anything in a movie offends the spirit you feel...then it's not okay for them to watch that, and they probably would gladly turn it off or walk out of the theater. For others, things will not bother them so much. My husband said coming home from a mission, after seeing no TV for 2-years, he was shocked to see his dad watching Bay Watch and he felt like he shouldn't see it himself. Its kind of like vegetarians being at different places. Some will eat dairy and eggs, some will not. Movies really depend on a person's own spirituality and the point they are at.

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the official church website. It's where we can look up scriptures, see all of the manuals for classes for adults, teens, and children, as well as the church magazines for children (The Friend), teens (New Era), and adults (Ensign). It has links for the temples, church history, etc. Mormon.org | Beliefs and People of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints was created to help people who wanted to know about doctrines, what we believe. youtube??? Not sure, but there are some good things on there. There are some really good videos on The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as well that were specifically made by the Church, but some of them may also be on youtube. I really haven't looked a lot. If you have a very specific question, just ask here if you don't want to keep searching the websites. Maybe there are certain things that you wonder how we are different from you? I'm sure we would have the same questions of you. I really don't know what the main beliefs are of a Seventh Day Adventist and how they are different from us. A thing with our religion, is that we believe that God didn't speak only to the Jews who gave us the Bible. That is why we have the Book of Mormon. We believe there are other scriptures out there somewhere, that some day we will be able to read from other cultures as well. If you want to look into the difference of us having a Book of Mormon and Doctrine and covenants, you might want to read them. You can find them online at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Select Book of Mormon. Read the intro to it as well. It explains a lot.

You are right about involving God in your decision. It has to be your decision. Part of life is agency. No one can tell you why you have to do something or that you just have to. Especially with religion. It needs to be what you feel good about. What is religion if it is not something you truly believe? To me, religion has little meaning if you don't feel it is right, and if you don't feel it is what you are, and who you are. I love this scripture from the Book of Mormon for this. Moroni 10: 4-5 4 And when ye shall receive these things, I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost. 5 And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the btruth of all things. For the entire chapter, you can see it here: Moroni 10

I would set up an appointment with the Bishop and just ask. The fact that you are wondering, maybe is a hint that you are humble enough and want to do what is right. Tell him there are things you did in the past while you weren't active, and ask if they are something that you still need to deal with, even though you are able to feel the spirit. Repentance equal change. Since you've already changed so much, maybe nothing to worry about? I think some of the reasons for telling the bishop is to have someone else to be accountable to, who can give advice, and also help you through the struggles as someone tries to make changes to bad habits.

Ask someone at the temple. I don't know "rules" but I have great-great grandparents that were married more than once and they are sealed to both spouses, whether they died, or were divorced....both types of cases, they are sealed. I don't know who did the work, and if there are rules for it or not. I just see what has been already done in my lines by other people. My parents divorced, and while alive I was sealed to my step-father after I was over 18 and had my own endowment. My dad was not active, no chance of me being sealed to him. It was a hard decision for me, feeling like I was leaving him out, but I didn't have the option of being sealed to my biological father. I expect some day many years from now, someone my seal my mom and dad, and me to him. I figure if we are all worthy to be with our Father in Heaven, then it will all work out regardless of who we are sealed to. My Bishop told me during my decision, that it was more important that I had the blessings of being sealed to a parent than to only have my own family sealed to me when I got married. (To me, its the chain that keeps all generations together). That chain is more like a net with marriage and divorce, and I trust that God and the parties involved will know who belongs with who once we leave this life and remember all.

I really liked seeing this! Our family is so invested in us even after they die. I hope your mother is helping your in miraculous ways. It's great that you recognize some of that. Did you talk to the Bishop already? I would like to know how that went and how relieved you may feel having it over with.

I'm not even sure I would say you technically "apostatized"...but you did lose your way for a while. Prodigal son...father took him back with loving arms -- all forgiven in the end. You missed some good times along your life of some experiences with the gospel but it's no reason to not work your way through your feelings. Your bishop is not there to judge you and make you feel horrible. Exactly the opposite. When we are humble and truly repentant we are usually harder on ourselves than God will be. Some people request to have their names removed from church records...which would be something else entirely I think.