ldswithgreeneyes

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  1. Follow some of the advice here or hire a housekeeper.
  2. Really? Unless the woman just got out of a relationship (particularly a bad one), why would you assume she does not want to be coupled? I liked being part of a happy couple. I like taking care of someone. I liked being a wife. Interesting....
  3. Honestly, I think it is easier for men. I do. I feel women are more apt to feel open to dating a single man than the other way around. I can see where you are coming from on hooking up with the first guy that comes along. I am very, very careful as to who I bring into my children's lives..so that is not an issue.
  4. It could have been any church event really. It just happened to be a baptism. Thank you so much for your sage advice. I know precisely where to file it.
  5. Go out where? Just out to live my life or somewhere specific? I do try to be positive and cheerful. It just gets hard. It's hard to be all bubbly and happy when you are hurting inside.
  6. I am going to ask about singles' activities. I do know that there is an active midsingles ward but it is an hour away. I will try it but need to know logisitics (when and where it meets,etc) I will not use the internet. I have children and need to be safe. You don't have the sa me security that dating by introduction brings. I have let friends and family know I am looking but their pat answers are "We know no available men" and that might just be the case, kwim?
  7. Listen to lemonherb!!! I can tell you that once you are older and have kids it is hard. I am 38 and people still think of me as "young". I love my children and will never be ashamed of them, but it is so hard to find a good man. I am at the age where males my age are a)married b) married but cheating(happens all the time) or c) gay. It really fails. It might be too late for me but it is not too late for you. Talk to your Bishop!!! I will pray for you.
  8. Leave now. You are still young and don't have baggage. At your young age, there is still hope. Do it now before you lose your nerve and become pregnant. Just run.
  9. I heard it varies from mission to mission. Depends on what the MP dictatesI wrote to a former missionary of mine and he wrote back. I also wrote a nice letter to his family and they wrote a nice one back to me. Stick with a letter from you and your family and stick to a simple message..like "Hi.How are you? Can you use specific prayers?' That sort of thing. Use the next nine months to build yourself up..it will make you a better person and, perhaps, a better girlfriend to this elder or a better girlfriend for someone you find down the road.
  10. I am having a bad day..well, actually a bad week..and am trying to feel better. I will get to the point. I am 38, mother of two wonferful girls and I am lonely. I have been divorced for four years and it is heartbreaking living in a coupled world. I go to church every week and tears fill my eyes. Why? Because I see how much my ward's husbands love their wives and I am alone. I try to stay positive and participate and stre ngthen my testimony ..but today for example..there is a baptism in a few hours. I promised to make cookies and so I am going to show up for it..but you know what? I really don't want to go. Yes, I'm thrilled for the new member but why go and feel awful? Why go and be reminded that no man wants me and likely never will? Don't get me wrong. I love the Church. I love my faith. I would rather have it than not. I just don't know what to do...
  11. Having spoken to IRL friends who have completed missions, I have heard about the spiritual love(for lack of a better phrase) that the missionaries have for their investigators. I also realize that the chances of him feeling any special sort of way about me are pretty close to nil. But remember..I am not saying that I am desperately in love with him either. I scarcely know him. I do think he is special but that is a far cry from " Let's get married!" LOL. I am sorry about your misssionary friend. Unlike the lady who pursued him, I would not be able to pick and move as easily..and even if I could, I would not. That is not my style. I just do the best I can....attending meetings..participating..praying that Heavenly Father helps me in being in the right place and the right time so that I can find a righteous man to love me. It's been awhile:rolleyes:
  12. A few more things...I've said a couple of times now that I get why a missionary in particular is off limits. I understand why having feelings one for is wrong. And, frankly, I think I can do better... So I don't know why people keep bringing it up. As far as the age thing goes...well, I guess we will agree to disagree. I have to ask..would you be so up in arms if the genders were reversed? I don't think I am superior but I am not going to run and hide in a corner because I am a single mother. I know this is what some expect people in my situation to do. We *all* have value.
  13. I agree with everyone else about reaching out and trying to connect with others. When do you start school? That is sure to be a distraction. I might also gently suggest that you get into counseling and, if your depression worsens, to consider an antidepressant. Counseling and using meds might improve the quality of your life. It does not hurt to seek the advice of a trained professional about this..