its not something that happened just recently.. Its been almost the entire marriage.. I always wonder if i made the right decision to get married.. and your right about nurturing the marriage and that is basically what has happened.. i have always worked a LOT.. maybe its an excuse of mine but my wife and i have never talked much while i was at work.. just when i got home at night and when i do get home its typically late and im tired.. that has caused lots of hurt and pain for her right there..