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To take one step back, The battle with lust is a lifelong struggle for men and thus warrants a great deal of concern/prayer/thought in general. The prophet once said we live in a pornographic culture and that our times are worse than sodom & gomorah. My nephews tell me they are now the ones who run from the lustful young women in their high school (as did Joseph from Potiphar's lustful wife). If the standard for enhanced interrogation will be 'used it in the past' than 99% of young women will need to go through some type of EFY bootcamp to prepare themselves. The statistics are pretty clear that in our current society boys (and girls) WILL BE EXPOSED (so much so, that a recent study on the topic could not find 1 young man who had not). So, the question becomes ....now what? We can't just hope a guy will come along who walked the tightrope perfectly and now wants to date one of our daughters. Furthermore, just because a boy might have walked that tightrope... who is to say he can do it for another 50 yrs? I'd be telling my girls to look for character (honesty/humility) and a willingness to communicate... and to RUN towards these types of guys The type of guy who is learning how to face himself, face jesus & take up his daily cross. These guys quickly learn that they are not enough and never will be... and that they need Him every hour... and need a help-meet who needs him every hour as well. Basically, "A great deal of prayer" is needed. Amen!

I like you Eowyn ... because you know exactly what you believe and you stand up for it.

Clearly, Natasha has no authority to re-write/re-define anything on behalf of the church. Natasha is simply just another human being who listens to emotionally damaged mormons all day professionally. Consider this though... that most ideas in the church bubble up from the bottom. I think you will like this 70 min video from Clayton Christensen (Harvard Professor) talking about how innovation has happened over the past 100 yrs in the LDS church. My favorite is how the primary got started! Clayton Christensen 2009 LDS Education Conference on Vimeo

Fair enough ladies. Yes, definitely bitter with a tinge of hope still left. For a more articulate exposition than I could ever pen, I'd direct you to this recent Aug 6th article by a female LDS therapist (with it's 204 comments) My Official Stance on Masturbation

It's been my personal experience that any admittance of porn/mb within the past ~2-3 yrs is considered a deal breaker for most LDS Single Women (btw, this never happens in reverse). A few years ago, RS President Julie Beck advised women when they 'find out' to raise a red flag and stop the relationship. I definitely think practically speaking that visual porn (not to be confused with books) is the bigger sin for most LDS women. (even though most will not admit this) (There is also a case to be made that theologically masturbation/porn has the larger penalty as well. What's worse? 1 yr excommunicated OR the greater part of 10 years feeling unworthy to take sacrament. Additionally, Some bishops penalize you for 6 months (no sacrament/no temple/no priesthood privileges) Consider however that you can be worthy of the sacrament/temple recommend, but still be served divorce papers (women file divorce papers 70% of the time btw) or be rejected for marriage... because of admitting that you looked at porn within the past year. Most women I know wouldn't think twice about marrying a baptized David Beckham (or similar) (regardless of his sexual past). Surprise, Surprise - it all just magically washes away... when romance is in the air... women make romantic relationship decisions based on emotion/feelings. (and considering the overall package - height, bank account, etc..) So while adultery/pre-marital sex can get you excommunicated, Porn earns you the eternal hatred from the tribe of lds women. So even though you could be an otherwise GREAT guy (virgin, temple recommend, boy scout, missionary, never missed a tithing slip, great career, and serving in your ward) most LDS women will pass you up (or divorce you) if porn is brought up. Ultimately, the semantics of sinning is boring (It's all sin!) and what is interesting (at least to me) is seeing heroic couples learn how to build healthy relationships through all of this.

hmmm 1) move! 2) pray for a miracle 3) do lots of missionary work 4) do lots of online lds dating (lots of american mormon men are fed up with american mormon women)

consider this quote from lauren johnson (a 30 something single lds blogger/podcaster) "....ya know, I've said to my friends... I'd rather marry a man who has slept around a ton, than a guy (this is just me.. (mumble) who is just sitting around in his basement all day looking at porn" "...that's what concerns me is that their ideas of sex may be very confused..." "....I've thought the same thing as ___ has at times...like Gall... would I be better off then finding a guy who, who isn't LDS that has just slept around and has a healthy perspective of sexuality?" because the older we get the more we have to (ya know) deal with our sexual frustration and the way that mormon men seem... sorry about this stereotype.. but often I've heard that ,yaknow, the way really great guys deal with it isn't for me my ideal" 89?90: Latter-day Saint ?Mid-Singles? Experience | Mormon Matters