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I agree with JaG here for both of the above reasons. When my mother comes to stay my wife and I allow her to drink tea and coffee although alcohol is still prohibited. This keeps her happy and relieves any arguments.

It is important to understand that the steps that the bishop takes are from a standpoint of love and care, but not as punishments. When you have committed/are committing a sin that is necessary to talk to the bishop about he will decide the best course of action for you. The reasons for being disfellowshipped would vary by the bishop. Sometimes it is a decision based on the bishops judgement or if he feels it is necessary on a priesthood council who would make a decision. Usually the purpose of disfellowshipping is to stop you doing things like taking the sacrament (home teaching, praying publicly) when you are unworthy so that you avoid the eternal consequences.

Congratulations Mikey on your baptism and confirmation! I hope it was a wonderful experience. Because the first Sunday can be a little overwhelming with so many god things to feel and experience your church leaders will organize somebody to explain the priesthood to you (the functions, duties and responsibilities) within the coming week or 2 if you are of age (12 or over - whoever discusses this will go into detail). After they have explained the priesthood you will have n interview with the bishop just to confirm you are still keeping your baptismal covenants. Aas notquiteperfect explained you will be sustained in sacrament meeting and then ordained into the aaronic priesthood either during your next priesthood meeting or at another appropriate time.

Have you thoroughly discussed this with your husband. Take time to talk to your husband and explain properly and make sure it is not a passing comment/rhetoric during another activity. Explain your feelings and your exasperation. I would suggest afterwards you both sit down with your son and discuss it in a loving manner and if necessary put some "house rules" in plave

An effective method would be assigning the youth to regularly clean the chapel (instead of a nominated family/group) so maybe if it went something like: Jan - YM Feb - Another group Mar - YW Apr - Another group Make sure they are aware of the standards that they are expected to obtain when cleaning. I worked for a college (16-21 yr olds) and they found that when they employed students as cleaners the amount of dropped litter was reduced. The cleaners themselves would cal their friends.classmates out on dropping litter and most of their friends wouldn't drop litter to assist their mates. ...That and making sure that the youth and their parents are aware that they are not to leave before the activity has been cleaned up (the leaders can also help this by ensuring that activities do no persistently overrun)

I am sorry to hear of your sad news and I hope that all goes as best it can for you and your family. My mother-in-law has breast cancer and for explaining to the grandchildren she found the following book very helpful. I hope you find some use for it too: When Someone You Love Has Cancer: A Guide to Help Kids Cope

What Skippy said here rings true for me, I believe you can have the ceremony in the Temple for cases where the wife is sealed to her deceased husband and that the ceremony is just for time. I believe this however is in lieu of having a ceremony in the chapel as opposed to in addition. Ask your bishop to confirm it :) I'm sure he would love to talk to you about it and it's significance!

I think Eowyn put it the most succinctly - you deserve unconditional love As for your request for him to be a completely different person you might need to ask yourself the question honestly - can he be what you need? If the answer was yes I know what my request would be to resolve the above issues - Request that he become 100% genuinely temple worthy.

I have to agree with those posted so far. Both ordinances are so wonderful and full of emotion - to complete them both together would be quite overwhelming. I would recommend completing your endowment in May and then returning several times as there is so much to learn. :) It would also then make you feel so much more comfortable in the temple to have the blessing of having your family around you later in the year

I am a huge fan of diplomatic honesty. There's no need to cause offence, just tell her a polite straight message either by email or face to face about what you want and why. - Assert that you have told her that you're are not interested in her product not just because of the reviews but you really don't need it. - Tell her that you feel that being contacted through the ward directory for anything other than church related business or general welfare enquiries is inappropriate and goes against the church policy and although you admire her business acumen you'd rather not be contacted but wish her the best of luck. - If she persists mention that you will take it up with the RS president and the bishopric/Ward Council

Ok firstly the act of paying tithing in the UK (I just moved away) You can do this 1 of 2 ways: Firstly as mentioned you can find forms and envelopes (usually outside the Bishop's office) to use (I usually keep a few at home). - You write onto the white one your name, ward and the details of your tithe and or other donations - you then tear off the white first page and put it into the envelope with your tithe and offerings (either cheque or cash) then keep the yellow page for your records - you then give the envelope to a member of the bishopric (either the bishop or his 2 counsellors) who I'm sure the missionaries can introduce you to or point out The Alternative Method is that you can set up a standing order. For this it is best to talk to the ward clerk who will help you to do this as he will provide you with the appropriate details and in some ways it feels cleaner as you're not carrying money around and I always worry about my terrible counting abilities ----------Gift Aid aka complicated bit - feel free to ignore------------------------- The good thing paying with a standing order is that if you are eligible for gift aid it can count towards your tithing - again your ward clerk will explain. Because gift aid is taken from taxes it means (rather basically) that any money you donate will have your income tax for that amount refunded to the applicable charity (the church). If you are able to gift aid your tithe, it means that you end up only paying roughly 8.5/9% percent tithe from your pocket because the government will make up the extra with taxes already paid. Again you can get advice from your ward clerk about your eligibility and exact amounts that you pay and the government will make up ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I agree with Suzie's post - 10% is 10%, sometimes it is so much harder to give that little when it is all that you have!

Hi Quin, are you from or have links with Britain at all? I think it is important to remember this and that our church leaders are imperfect but I think also our leaders do lovingly consider us and assist as as directed by the spirit according to our needs.

Do you have stake YSA reps? If not push to have them called. Are there ward YSA reps? if not push to have them called. Pray with your friends about good activities to do. I was in a stake such as yours with maybe 35max active YSA, it took one good event to bring us all together - somebody organized a temple trip for a weekend (the nearest temple is 5hrs drive). They organised it 2 months in advance so people could organize work arrangements etc. We all drove up together on Friday night stopping for burgers. We went for a walk in the local national park before going to the temple (and local LDS shop) and then went to to dinner followed by a Celtic music and dancing event in the evening. We went to church on Sunday and some family of a couple of the YSA invited us for Sunday lunch before we drove home. The stake covered petrol costs for those driving and paid for our meal on Saturday which really helped as we just brought cereal and our burger on the Friday. After that our YSA group were so close knit, we used to get involved in most stake activities, just hang out and even now many of us have traveled away from the area we stay good friends.

Firstly you assumed in your first post that the OP was trying to "duck responsibility. In pre-20th century English the term was used to describe a young woman (usually maid) who was taken advantage of by a gentleman of nobility however it has now become synonymous with becoming pregnant/conceiving a child I fail to see where she is ducking responsibility. From my perspective she admits that the child was unintentional however she does not use the term a mistake and only admitted it from pointed questioning. If anything I think she is taking a remarkable amount of responsibility (the sate or fact of having a duty to deal with something) for admitting that she was not being responsible at the time of conception but now she is trying to bring that child up in a good environment with good parents.I agree with you're advice: but at the same time I feel that accusing the OP of ducking responsibility is somewhat lacking in love. Isn't it why we have the saviour because we cannot change the past but we can be healed by it, converted and change how we deal with things in the present and be better in the future which is what Mandy is doing.

Hi Antoinette There is always hope for everybody! And you're not being too picky! My wife and I met when we were 27 and married at 28. Many of my friends met their partners in their mid-late 30's. Up until the age of 26 I really struggled with even getting a date with anybody, member or non-member. One thing that I found helped was causal dating; just spending time doing a mutual activity. I really enjoyed going to mid-singles events which helped me progress socially so I was less shy and more comfortable dating. All of this time in the church social groups really helped prepare me for when I met my wife There is somebody out there that heavenly father has for you (maybe even several people) for you to be happy with :)