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I agree with JaG here for both of the above reasons. When my mother comes to stay my wife and I allow her to drink tea and coffee although alcohol is still prohibited. This keeps her happy and relieves any arguments.

It is important to understand that the steps that the bishop takes are from a standpoint of love and care, but not as punishments. When you have committed/are committing a sin that is necessary to talk to the bishop about he will decide the best course of action for you. The reasons for being disfellowshipped would vary by the bishop. Sometimes it is a decision based on the bishops judgement or if he feels it is necessary on a priesthood council who would make a decision. Usually the purpose of disfellowshipping is to stop you doing things like taking the sacrament (home teaching, praying publicly) when you are unworthy so that you avoid the eternal consequences.

Congratulations Mikey on your baptism and confirmation! I hope it was a wonderful experience. Because the first Sunday can be a little overwhelming with so many god things to feel and experience your church leaders will organize somebody to explain the priesthood to you (the functions, duties and responsibilities) within the coming week or 2 if you are of age (12 or over - whoever discusses this will go into detail). After they have explained the priesthood you will have n interview with the bishop just to confirm you are still keeping your baptismal covenants. Aas notquiteperfect explained you will be sustained in sacrament meeting and then ordained into the aaronic priesthood either during your next priesthood meeting or at another appropriate time.

Have you thoroughly discussed this with your husband. Take time to talk to your husband and explain properly and make sure it is not a passing comment/rhetoric during another activity. Explain your feelings and your exasperation. I would suggest afterwards you both sit down with your son and discuss it in a loving manner and if necessary put some "house rules" in plave

An effective method would be assigning the youth to regularly clean the chapel (instead of a nominated family/group) so maybe if it went something like: Jan - YM Feb - Another group Mar - YW Apr - Another group Make sure they are aware of the standards that they are expected to obtain when cleaning. I worked for a college (16-21 yr olds) and they found that when they employed students as cleaners the amount of dropped litter was reduced. The cleaners themselves would cal their friends.classmates out on dropping litter and most of their friends wouldn't drop litter to assist their mates. ...That and making sure that the youth and their parents are aware that they are not to leave before the activity has been cleaned up (the leaders can also help this by ensuring that activities do no persistently overrun)

I am sorry to hear of your sad news and I hope that all goes as best it can for you and your family. My mother-in-law has breast cancer and for explaining to the grandchildren she found the following book very helpful. I hope you find some use for it too: When Someone You Love Has Cancer: A Guide to Help Kids Cope

What Skippy said here rings true for me, I believe you can have the ceremony in the Temple for cases where the wife is sealed to her deceased husband and that the ceremony is just for time. I believe this however is in lieu of having a ceremony in the chapel as opposed to in addition. Ask your bishop to confirm it :) I'm sure he would love to talk to you about it and it's significance!

I think Eowyn put it the most succinctly - you deserve unconditional love As for your request for him to be a completely different person you might need to ask yourself the question honestly - can he be what you need? If the answer was yes I know what my request would be to resolve the above issues - Request that he become 100% genuinely temple worthy.

I have to agree with those posted so far. Both ordinances are so wonderful and full of emotion - to complete them both together would be quite overwhelming. I would recommend completing your endowment in May and then returning several times as there is so much to learn. :) It would also then make you feel so much more comfortable in the temple to have the blessing of having your family around you later in the year

I am a huge fan of diplomatic honesty. There's no need to cause offence, just tell her a polite straight message either by email or face to face about what you want and why. - Assert that you have told her that you're are not interested in her product not just because of the reviews but you really don't need it. - Tell her that you feel that being contacted through the ward directory for anything other than church related business or general welfare enquiries is inappropriate and goes against the church policy and although you admire her business acumen you'd rather not be contacted but wish her the best of luck. - If she persists mention that you will take it up with the RS president and the bishopric/Ward Council

Ok firstly the act of paying tithing in the UK (I just moved away) You can do this 1 of 2 ways: Firstly as mentioned you can find forms and envelopes (usually outside the Bishop's office) to use (I usually keep a few at home). - You write onto the white one your name, ward and the details of your tithe and or other donations - you then tear off the white first page and put it into the envelope with your tithe and offerings (either cheque or cash) then keep the yellow page for your records - you then give the envelope to a member of the bishopric (either the bishop or his 2 counsellors) who I'm sure the missionaries can introduce you to or point out The Alternative Method is that you can set up a standing order. For this it is best to talk to the ward clerk who will help you to do this as he will provide you with the appropriate details and in some ways it feels cleaner as you're not carrying money around and I always worry about my terrible counting abilities ----------Gift Aid aka complicated bit - feel free to ignore------------------------- The good thing paying with a standing order is that if you are eligible for gift aid it can count towards your tithing - again your ward clerk will explain. Because gift aid is taken from taxes it means (rather basically) that any money you donate will have your income tax for that amount refunded to the applicable charity (the church). If you are able to gift aid your tithe, it means that you end up only paying roughly 8.5/9% percent tithe from your pocket because the government will make up the extra with taxes already paid. Again you can get advice from your ward clerk about your eligibility and exact amounts that you pay and the government will make up ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I agree with Suzie's post - 10% is 10%, sometimes it is so much harder to give that little when it is all that you have!

Hi Quin, are you from or have links with Britain at all? I think it is important to remember this and that our church leaders are imperfect but I think also our leaders do lovingly consider us and assist as as directed by the spirit according to our needs.

Do you have stake YSA reps? If not push to have them called. Are there ward YSA reps? if not push to have them called. Pray with your friends about good activities to do. I was in a stake such as yours with maybe 35max active YSA, it took one good event to bring us all together - somebody organized a temple trip for a weekend (the nearest temple is 5hrs drive). They organised it 2 months in advance so people could organize work arrangements etc. We all drove up together on Friday night stopping for burgers. We went for a walk in the local national park before going to the temple (and local LDS shop) and then went to to dinner followed by a Celtic music and dancing event in the evening. We went to church on Sunday and some family of a couple of the YSA invited us for Sunday lunch before we drove home. The stake covered petrol costs for those driving and paid for our meal on Saturday which really helped as we just brought cereal and our burger on the Friday. After that our YSA group were so close knit, we used to get involved in most stake activities, just hang out and even now many of us have traveled away from the area we stay good friends.

Firstly you assumed in your first post that the OP was trying to "duck responsibility. In pre-20th century English the term was used to describe a young woman (usually maid) who was taken advantage of by a gentleman of nobility however it has now become synonymous with becoming pregnant/conceiving a child I fail to see where she is ducking responsibility. From my perspective she admits that the child was unintentional however she does not use the term a mistake and only admitted it from pointed questioning. If anything I think she is taking a remarkable amount of responsibility (the sate or fact of having a duty to deal with something) for admitting that she was not being responsible at the time of conception but now she is trying to bring that child up in a good environment with good parents.I agree with you're advice: but at the same time I feel that accusing the OP of ducking responsibility is somewhat lacking in love. Isn't it why we have the saviour because we cannot change the past but we can be healed by it, converted and change how we deal with things in the present and be better in the future which is what Mandy is doing.

Hi Antoinette There is always hope for everybody! And you're not being too picky! My wife and I met when we were 27 and married at 28. Many of my friends met their partners in their mid-late 30's. Up until the age of 26 I really struggled with even getting a date with anybody, member or non-member. One thing that I found helped was causal dating; just spending time doing a mutual activity. I really enjoyed going to mid-singles events which helped me progress socially so I was less shy and more comfortable dating. All of this time in the church social groups really helped prepare me for when I met my wife There is somebody out there that heavenly father has for you (maybe even several people) for you to be happy with :)

As I said I can't comment on the APA or DSM-V as I am not American and do not have an understanding of their work or role in US society. I was just picking up on your assumption in your previous statement where you said:

I know of people making an audio recording of naming of babies but I've not heard of people making an audio recording of a baptism. Ask your bishop/member of the bishopric/missionaries. At the end of the say it is them who will probably make the decision

My DW and I recently discussed this and felt that a lot of time it's not specifically because they call people (particularly sisters) who have children at home but often when they do call people into primary or nursery, that they will refuse the call because they feel it is some sort of demotion or it is beneath them

It is a tough decision. Much like other posters and probably yourself you have friends who are married to non-members. Most of them are happy but I do know that a lot of my friends who married non-member husbands miss having the priesthood presiding within their home and they are also niggled that they may not attain the wonderful ordinance of being sealed to their spouse or children in this life. Another of my friends when describing the predicament of a sister: "She couldn't find a worthy member priesthood so she found the next best thing" And her husband is one of the loveliest dry-mormons I have ever known. He participates at church socially, invites missionaries and members over and encourages his son within the youth. It is however your decision despite what strangers on the internet might tell you. Ask your father in heaven. He has plans for you and knows what will make you happy. It may be this man, or maybe somebody will come along a year from now. Pray, ponder and even fast and Heavenly Father will give you an answer

Unfortunately I do not have enough knowledge on your specific question. I did want to however just make sure for the benefit of healthy discussion regarding sex that sex is not addictive of itself. Pornography is harmful and can be extremely addictive. The act of sex, between a married consenting couple is wonderful and ordained of god. It can however like most things in life (sport/driving/serving in the church) when thoughtless or pushed to the extreme cause problems.

Haha, please excuse my poor communication skills. I think that it is part of Satan's attempts to destroy the family which I feel promotes the ideal that sex is primarily for pleasure and selfish gratification and that sex for procreation becomes an afterthought. It's not that people are unaware that sex leads to pregnancy but lust and selfish fulfillment prevail over love and clear thought that ultimately sex is a gift from HF for procreation. I wouldn't say that it's just Brits however I do not have a lot of experience elsewhere to comment.

You are making the assumption that everyone received a good level of sexual and social education. I agree that falling pregnant is a risk of unprotected sex however as members of the church we are usually well taught in matters such as pre-marital sex, procreation and family planning. Having grown up in the UK and being a convert I can assure you that there are many areas that lack adequate education and have social opinions and perspectives that promote unhealthy sexual behaviour I am not defending Mandy's actions but I feel that we should meet this situation with love and hope/help for her future

In the UK there is a law that all marriage ceremonies need to be held in public buildings because there is the legal obligation of "if any man should know of a reason why these 2 people may not be joined in holy matrimony may he speak now or forever hold his peace" Because the temple does not allow general public to enter, there must be a legal ceremony as well as the sealing ceremony to allow the fulfillment of the above but they must be performed on the same day and the sealing ceremony can only proceed once the civil marriage certificate has been obtained. If you have extenuating circumstances such as an outrageous distance to travel or disability then you can apply to to have the same day rule extended as I know people used to travel from northern Europe to the London Temple. Short answer, unless the country prohibits legal marriage and temple sealing (like the UK) to happen at the same time then you must wait for one year after the civil ceremony unless one of the couple had not been confirmed a member for at least a full year prior to the date of the civil ceremony.

Hey Leo Welcome to the forum!! Congratulations on getting married and I'm sorry you find things are tough. Skippy has some very salient points about maybe facing up to some of your on personal challenges and perfecting yourself with the help of heavenly father and a counseller. As for your marriage it can be tough. I have been married now for 6 months, so only a little longer than you. For us the first month was bliss, however after that it started to get tougher with little frequent arguments. Things just not being right. Gradually they got worse and worse until one day we had a big ole barney and decided that enough was enough and we had to sort this out or quit. For me I love all of the scriptures but I pay particular attention to the teachings as they came out of the mouth of Christ (his church, his words).Matt 19.9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. So for me divorce is not an option unless there are issues of fornication and abuse that your partner cannot resolve. That is my own opinion and interpretation. When we sat down we noticed that our main problem was communication. We would do/say things that upset each other and then not resolve them or wait and let them fester. Now we try and face them head on. It means talking about them at the time or as close to as possible, not waiting more than an hour. Also it is tough because you both have separate needs, some of them might be conflicting. One of you might feel sad and need affection whilst the other needs space. In cases like that you must work together to find solutions such as just sitting on the couch and watching TV - it is not just the activity but also the mindset that recognizes that although neither of you got exactly what you wanted - you both conceded your desire to help the other one. If I could give you 4 things that really helped us and maybe they can help you too: 1. Work on you communication. Continually. 2. Pray and read scriptures as a couple 3. Serve your wife with love 4. Go to the temple, especially when things are tough

You do not have to get the missionaries a gift to say thank you, seeing you baptised will be far more than enough. But write to them in the future they will love that most! Thank them for being there and stay in touch with them in the future!