I think she has the brainwashed fear as well. She has mentioned that before but her fear of me going off the deep end stems from her friends husband who did that same thing (IMO). Since he acted that way she is thinking I will act the same. There are so many differences between the scenarios but she doesn't see that she just thinks that if you leave the church you will lead an immoral life. I think I can only show her by example that's not the case (I haven't left the church btw, I just don't feel the same about it). The divorce comment is rough. Was that hard for you to hear? I guess saying I would. consider divorce is not as hard as the spouse saying I would divorce you (definitely). Margaret, I hear what you are saying about it being a tough week. I don't know how it will be for you but we've had a lot of those weeks. I think it's something that is so important that the hurt doesn't just go away. It has dragged on for us (but definitely good times in between). Take care of that baby and enjoy Christmas (what horrible timing...) Finrock, I read the article you posted. I liked it but there were parts I definitely don't agree with. I am glad that the church is trying to address these situations.