nellyleyva92

How would you describe the burning in the bosom and the stupor of thought? Any experiences with these? How can you tell when your feelings are a burning in the bosom and not your own desires / or if it is really a stupor of thought that comes from Heaven and not your own fears? Thank you!

Thanks, that's what I thought when I was with him. I didn't really need too many calls a day, or too many kisses or to hold hands everywhere, or saying "I love you" all the time. He convinced me that it was true love.....but now I guess not. Your opinion was very helpful to me, thank you!

After being in a relationship in which my boyfriend was too intense and too jealous, I started feeling cold and exhausted, but when he broke up I felt extremely lonely. It has been hard to live without the constant calls and text messages, when I was so used to it. Now I can't help relating SMOTHERING=TRUE DEEP LOVE. I've read about people who ended their relationship with someone who was too clingy and needy to be with a more independent person, but eventually they started wondering why the new person doesn't smother or "spoil" them like their ex, they become afraid they don't love them, etc. So they become the person that smothers the other. Like this: Life after a smothering relationship I am afraid this happens to me. I've been feeling guilty for feeling like I lost somebody who loved me for real, and since he was my first boyfriend, his clingy behaviour has become my standard of true love. I started to think that if a guy doesn't smother me like my ex, it means he doesn't love me, or he doesn't love me enough, and then I will be the insecure one, the jealous, etc. How can I get rid of this way of thinking so I don't ruin future relationships? I am afraid I might waste good chances just because I am afraid their love won't last or is not true. Thanks in advance!

Oh yes, I think I have been double-minded. When he was there, I didn't feel it was right, but when he dumped me, I doubted. Then I asked the Seventy and his words made me think that I had lost a blessing and I was such a wicked. Maybe I should have clarified in my question to him that I had prayed and I didn't have good feelings. Anyway, feeling this way doesn't come from God definitely. I will move on and stop regretting. That's the best. Thank you!

Lol, my ex boyfriend was very intense, too! I thought he was normal, that he was just so in love. But probably he's not very normal. I'm very grateful with these comments because they have made me realize that being too intense doesn't really mean true love, and if I didn't feel it was right, then it wasn't right! :)

Man, it did help! You made me remeber of a guy I dated who also wanted to marry me, but I felt insecure about it too. And he seemed to be an outstanding man in the Church. Later I learned how miserable my life would have been. He broke the Law of Chastity many times, left the Church, and rebelled against God. I just hope this last guy doesn't take wrong paths later. I really apreciate him and wish him well. For some reason I don't know we were not right for each other. Thanks for sharing that. It helped indeed and made me feel less guilty. Probably it was not my selfish desires at the end. Wow thanks!

Yeah, sometimes I feel grateful that he found her, I try not to be jealous and compare myself with her. But I end up feeling like a loser and thinking that his friends and his family must be telling him: "Look what you've got! Much better than Nelly! (me) ;)" And I am here, being the rejected, the girl who was never worth it, alone in a new place, with all these guys I don't like. I don't feel like dating someone else, gettting to know a new family, etc. I feel scared about it and I am in a stage in which I feel I will never find someone that could be my best friend, someone I could talk about anything, feel safe, feel loved, laugh, tell jokes, trust ... and that if I do, it would be unfair to him. Quite honestly I feel like I still owe him my feelings, that he would still feel jealous and that if I date he will never be back, which I've been daydreaming about. But I know that just won't happen, I'm trying to kill the hope. Ufff.... But Thanks for your words, now it seems to be something normal that just happens... I hope it doesn't take me too long to feel ready and free to explore again.

Thank you so much. I wish he had been the right one. Now that I know he isn't I wish he hadn't spent so much money, and work for me. It feels so bad to have caused him many problems with his money, his family and his feelings. It was my fault and it makes me feel so bad. Even more the fact that he must be regretting all his efforts for someone like me. But well, I will improve myself so I can find the right person in the right time. It is good that he is now blessed with someone right for him :/ But it would have been better if he hadn't dumped me all of a sudden for her hehe. Thanks for your words, I will grow up and see this from a wiser perspective, I guess.

Thank you everyone.

Hi guys, I'm new to this forum. I found it after doing some research about marriage and all that stuff. I have read most of the threads and unfortunately I have found that many or most (or all?) of them are sad They talk about divorces, pornography, fights, etc., etc. I pray Heavenly Father to help all those who are suffering I am not married yet, but I need to feel more confident about marriage. Reading so many sad stories left me a little bit more scared and confused than I was I was wondering if some of you could share a happy love story? Come on guys, I know there must be some happy stories too! Of course there's adversity but I believe marriage must not be that bad. How did you or a person you know find their sweetheart? Have you met someone with an amazing marriage? Why are you happy with your spouse? etc, etc. I'll be very grateful. That will help me a lot to feel confident and faithful again

I don't think there are soul mates, but there is a person "more right" than others, because God has purposes and plans for each one of us and we would fulfill them better if we marry a certain person, I guess. For example, my mom was engaged to two people (or more) before marrying my dad. She loved them and everything but for some reason she didn't feel 100% sure. My mom is such a talented woman. When she met my dad she felt sooooo right. Like Heavenly Father prepared him for her. So far, they have alwaysbeen called to many important callings and assignments in the Church. Right now she's doing a great great great job as the wife of a mission president. I know God needed her talents and her spirit to help my dad in such callings. And personally, I feel like there's more in store for them. If she had married the other two, she might have been happy and everything, but she wouldn't have done much for the work of the Lord and the kingdom of God as she's doing now. She would have been happy with the other guys, I'm sure. But Heavenly Father needed her in other greater missions. Se didn't know it at the time she got married, she just felt he was the one. (The other guys are amazing people but are not that strong in the Church, she wouldn't have developed all her potential with them as she's doing now with my dad)