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TBH not known any hookers personally, plenty of dude users. I'm sure there are charming friendly dudes doing it, but every single person I ever knew that cheated on a woman serially with hookers was a disgusting soulless individual, where sex is an emotionless biological function like a bowel movement or something. People may experiment and use hookers in different situations or whatnot, but a serial guy like this... different deal. There can be little real emotion going on, he has a loving wife at home, this is not about love to him. He wants sex his way on his terms. Narcissist, sociopath, pick a few. So we could say sociopath (I would say soulless) or total dirtbag, doesn't really matter to me. This poor woman doesn't deserve this in any way and needs lots of help. She deserves it.

Certain kinds of pleasures are immoral. Porn is one of them. End of story. The negative side effects if any are practically beside the point. I remember when porn had to be obtained in rough looking convenience stores and was harder to find on VHS. A lot of you are frogs who've been slow boiled.

A guy using hookers is only married for some kind of convenience. There is no intention of relationship. A guy using hookers needs to be taken to the cleaners in court, hopefully pummeled by male members of the family. A guy that maybe looked at a woman too long on tv, yeah maybe a scowl is the appropriate response. This guy used hookers, women constantly having sex with dirty repulsive men, him just being one. It's disgusting. She does not deserve this, she needs support to know she doesn't deserve this. Lady/sister, you do not deserve this. His behavior is deeply disgusting and you have no right really to tolerate it. Call a lawyer and take every cent you can. I've known plenty of hooker users, the light of God is all but extinguished. Sick puppies. If their salvation is important to God let him figure it out. Jesus is the savior, not us.

I'm noticing a theme in the posts around here also, and the word that comes to mind is "enabling". I'm not a psychologist by profession or training but forgiveness has some shades of meaning, and the shade we would be talking about, say the closing of a chapter, that comes at the end, after some bitter payments have been made, not at the beginning as an unearned carrot.

Nah, I have "been around too many guys" issues. This poor lady can never trust this dirtbag. Do you know what's involved in getting together with an "escort"? Strange woman, money, this is a family forum so I'll refrain, but, over and over. This poor woman is being destroyed by an animal. I have seen such animals, known them. I'm male, I know how that mind works. I can't think of a more callous uncaring, sociopathic mentality than a hooker user. He does not respect her. She is not obligated to endure this. He is threatening her health. If this was my sister I would show up with a shotgun and glare. My sister ain't gonna get no STDs while I'm around. There's all kinds of forgiveness, the only kind this guys deserves (at this point) is the kind that comes from Jesus, and even he has conditions.

Yeah, on these emotional affairs business, ladies, you gotta kick these dudes out. You are dealing with boys in mens bodies. This is not the behavior of grown men, but little boys. One "emotional affair" means luggage on the lawn. If he begs you to take him back then after a trial period you can think about it, but boy oh boy make him earn it and make him pay. The only way to deal with boys, these kinds of boys is punishment, it's all they understand. But really question why you're with a boy. If he's not that persistent he's just not that into you. Some of you can be psycho about jealousy, and so if you have jealousy issues you really need to check yourself before you wreck yourself, say with a counselor, but other than that, emotional affair means luggage on the lawn. Do it for your sisters, do it for daughters, do it for your country I don't really care but just do it. This is total nonsense. I understand it hurts, I sympathize, I really do, but you have to respect yourself.

You guys are mormons, follow the rules, it ain't that hard.

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Nothing strange about those feelings, go for a hike in the woods and scream for awhile. How old are you? You can't date unless you are of age and have a life, goals, a sense of yourself and ambitions or you'll be a pathetic person who relies on some guy to make you feel good, and who will be turned off by your need of it. At some point you'll have to make a play for a dude. You feelings are going to go hog wild and you'll make a big mess of it, just plan on that. But burn into your skin that you will not break the law of chastity, because it just complicates things. Talk about it like a chatterbox if you have to, just follow that. For those of you that didn't, don't obligate yourself because of it. Get out of unhealthy relationships before they get too far. 3/4 of the threads on here are about that. As for you, if you can't see the guy as someone you'd marry, or that would marry you, there isn't a lot of point to this. I have no idea th stats on LDS people, how many you date before you marry, but IMO if you don't think it's going to go that far there are few reasons to pursue it. Some people are so awkward with the opposite sex it doesn't hurt to try, hopefully get some practice but other than that.

Don't put up with this garbage. Cousins crushes are a step from underage stuff, this guy is pathetic. He doesn't deserve the ability to crush your heart. I can't imagine a priesthood holder having a cousin crush.

Yeah, acting is worse. It sounds like you like the attention more than the guy, I don't know if this is a female thing or not, but it's probably an illusion. Odds are the other guy wouldn't work out anyway.

TBH I have never divorced with kids or not so you would probably have to talk to those people. But hon you need a lot of rules and boundaries going forward.

I have a lot of sympathy here, I was very close to this situation. Nice girl, but I did not love her and was dating because of obligation. She pressured marriage, hard, I thank God every time I think of it I didn't give in. Didn't know how to end it. Never learned to say *no* until a little later in life. She ended it finally, i do feel bad, but I just didn't have it in me at that time. I no longer have that problem. Having said that you certainly need some help, bishop and counselor. The hell that we get ourselves into. Sometimes I think LDS people do the craziest things but then I look at seculars and boy, they figured out how to do it worse. Yikes. I cannot imagine how you can force love feelings for someone other than lobotomy. Not trying to judge you, I can relate on one level. But not some of the others. To commit to marriage, and children, you have to check off quite a few boxes before you do it. Can you resist other people your whole life happily, would it be a privilege to procreate, would you support through sickness with no question, etc. Seems like people skip so much.