chelly00

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  1. And Wingnut, I guess I do!
  2. That is not a take I've heard on it before, but it makes a lot of sense. They are symbolic and used as a reminder--helpful. The relation to the Sabbath is a really good one, I think. Thanks for the advice!! And I like what was said from someone else about sometimes people make it more about the actual garment than what the garment means. That is really true, and I've felt that from a lot of people who I've spoken with before.
  3. Thanks everyone!! I didn't think it would be a huge deal but my mom is kinda crazy about stuff like that. Unless you are AT THE BEACH you need to be in them kinda thing. I personally don't feel like I'm throwing my covenants out of the window wearing shorts over a bathing suit to go out if I know I'll be around/in water all day.
  4. I'll have to try those! I have Carinessa, cotton poly (HOT), and drisilk. The drisilk are cooler but the bottoms always roll up which is annoying and they stick like CRAZY when you sweat!
  5. The only reason I asked about heat is because I currently live in WA and even this past summer I felt like I was going to die when we went hiking and I was in my garments....and I know the Seattle area isn't nearly as bad as the South (I lived in AL before I was endowed for a few years). I mean, it might have sounded like a stupid thing to ask, but I don't know what it's like wearing them in a hotter/humid place. Carinessa isn't super breathable. O_O
  6. I have no idea. My hubby was in a really small part and I haven't thought to ask him. Obviously the missionaries wore them. If I get a chance to talk to him (who knows when he'll call haha) I'll definitely ask.
  7. I will try to keep this as brief as possible! Ok, so my husband and I are going to the Dominican Republic for our honeymoon when he gets back from Afghanistan. His block leave is in AUGUST (talk about killer heat in the DR!). While we are there we are basically going to be living on the beach or out on a boat or river or water of some kind! Our hiking trip is even canyoning, so we'll be jumping off of cliffs into water that whole time too!! So what I wondered is how frowned upon it would be to wear shorts and a t shirt or whatever over my bathing suit while we were there? I know how sacred garments are and what they represent. Obviously on Sunday we are going to church and I'll wear my garments (he served his mission there and knows some people, so that will be neat!!) and if we aren't going to be at the beach all day or out on the boat I plan on wearing them, but on the days where we are going to go get breakfast then drive to where our boat is or whatever, am I doing a big no no wearing shorts over my bathing suit rather than changing out of my garments? Basically I'd hardly be wearing them. I am not trying to sound like I'm finding excuses not to wear them, but the heat is also an obvious factor, and as I am not really used to it, if there is an issue with that (not just getting sweaty, but like...heat stroke kinda thing) is it bad not to wear them? I know it's one of those things that is a personal decision between you and Heavenly Father, but I wanted to hear your opinions.
  8. Also, I would like to add that someone said earlier my husband was here....no, he's not. He's in Afghanistan, and I'm sure as heck not bringing it up and holding it over his head while he is fighting for our country, let alone if he was home. Some of you were very helpful, and I thank you for that. I know that he was changed by the Atonement and he was a good man when I met him and is to this day. My whole point in posting this was that I know my feelings were unjustified...and I didn't want to have them anymore. I wasn't saying "I can't forgive him, it's awful" blah blah blah. I'm not trying to play God. I don't have anything to even forgive him for. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. I know. I know he's a good man, I know I made myself crazy. I KNOW. YES, I'm insecure. I am very well aware of that. This is our first deployment and I've got all sorts of crazy things going through my mind. It's not him I don't trust--it's everyone around him. I have thanked him for being loyal, and a worthy priesthood holder. You have no idea how truly grateful I am for his example. He makes me want to be better than I am. Why wouldn't I drag him through the mud and make him feel like less of a person? I wouldn't, and I haven't. Like I said, some of you missed the point of the post. And it only took me a day to get over it anyways, I was just asking for advice when I was upset. And you guys called me judgmental, throwing me under the buss when you take into account things that didn't happen/aren't happening, and saying I feel or act a way that I am not. This thread can be closed, anyways. I got over it last night. I was just asking for help when I was upset.
  9. Gracious, people. Some of you are being kinda rude over something that you know nothing about. He did tell me to look through his stuff...and I was being crazy so I did. It's not something that I normally do, and I have no intention on doing it again. Also, I am not playing God's role. I'm not holding it over his head. I'm not rubbing it in his face or making him remember or apologize for it. I did tell him that I found it, but after a very short conversation it was dropped and that was it. I am not the kind of person that it going to bring it up to make him feel bad. That's an awful thing to do and I know he is a good man and that is a different person than he is today. I love him...why would I intentionally make him feel bad about something that was well before I came along? So, let's be clear. I'm not punishing him. I'm not holding it over his head. I'm not blaming him for anything. I'm sure and heck not going to leave him. A couple of you are ridiculous and judgmental and missed the whole point of this post. It is not "how can I forgive him?" I have NOTHING to forgive him for. I know that. I'm not harboring ill feelings towards him. I feel jealous because he is my husband, and I'm trying to understand those feelings so I can stop feeling that way. If you are just going to go on about how awful of a person I am and make up feelings and actions and details that aren't there, don't comment.
  10. Thanks! It's definitely nice to know that I'm not the only one and I'm not just abnormally jealous. Your post really made me feel a lot better. He really is a good man:) I feel very blessed and lucky to have him!
  11. I'm trying to do just that. I've already accepted his mistakes back then and now--it's just the forgetting that I feel like will drive me crazy. The hardest part about it is that he is currently deployed to Afghanistan, which makes communication rough, since the only thing we can really do is say "it's ok" and leave each other to think on it some more. I know he's a good man, but I also worry about him with pornography. It isn't even because he's had an issue with it before, but it's EVERYWHERE with the Army in Afghanistan...and just the Army in general. It's a tough situation to be surrounded by it and thousands of miles from your spouse. I have faith and confidence in him, but like I said several times, my brain is all fried and crazy. I KNOW I'm being irrational. I don't know how to stop being that way though.
  12. My husband and I recently had a conversation on infidelity as my brother recently caught his wife cheating. Something like this being so close to home, I went crazy. I had never worried about my husband being loyal to me, but like I said...crazy. So I told him and then I proceeded to check his email and facebook messages. Did I find anything incriminating from our marriage? No. However, I did stumble across a message from before we met that was inappropriate to say the least. The contents were sexual exchanges and it was apparent that inappropriate pictures had also been exchanged via text message. Now, my husband told me before we got engaged that there were things in his past that he wasn't proud of. He told me that he had fooled around with a girl (different one from this message) and that when he was younger he had a problem with pornography. All of these things I knew, and I was perfectly fine not knowing every gritty detail of his exchanges with whomever from his past. I know that he is a worthy priesthood holder now and he was when we got engaged. I know that his past transgressions have nothing to do with me, and they don't effect what I think of him. I still think he is a good and wonderful man. I am proud of him and couldn't dream of being with anyone else. I also know that he loves me more than anyone. But I can't help but to be upset. This message was nothing like I'd ever heard him say before. I know a huge part of it is because he respects me and loves me, and there was no respect or love really shown for himself or this girl in their exchanges, but some of the contents I was SHOCKED to see. I can't picture him writing or saying some of the things that were there...they were totally vulgar and crude and graphic. Extremely inappropriate in both the content and word choice. My husband had (I assume several exchanges with this girl....I didn't scroll back to see how long they had been talking) after this conversation, decided that he wouldn't/couldn't talk to her anymore and told her so in the message, saying that he knew his weaknesses and temptations and that he couldn't talk to her anymore. That part made me extremely proud to read, as that is not the easiest thing to do. I know better than anyone how ashamed my husband is of the things like this in his past. I know that he truly repented and it pains him to know that he did those things, and that knowing them causes me even the slightest amount of pain. Like I said, I know who he is today and that he is a good and caring man. I feel really guilty for saying this, but reading that message really made me upset. I know it had nothing to do with me and that it was before we met. I don't feel guilty going through his stuff--in fact, he told me to...but this message had been deleted a long time ago, but facebook put it in "Archives" where I found it. Anyways, I know he feels ashamed of it and repented, and I don't want to keep bringing it up, but it is really upsetting me. I can't un-read the things that I have read and it really burns me up inside. I try not to think about it but the things I read will not leave my mind, and it makes me so angry/sad/upset....not with him at all though. That's the thing. I'm not mad at him or anything. It's ancient history. What I am feeling is almost more jealousy--that someone else has seen my husband or had anything to do with him in a sexual way. I'm not jealous of the conversation--like I said, he loves me so he would never say anything like that in front of me (let alone to me!). But it burns me up, I guess, that he ever wanted someone else in that way. I don't know if I am explaining it very well, but I don't know how else to say it. I just feel really upset and jealous. I'm trying to downplay how upset with him because I don't want him to feel like it's his fault or he did something wrong. He repented a long time ago, and I want him to be able to forget and move on. I just want advice/help doing the same thing myself. How can I move past this and try to forget what I read? I need help.