synergy13

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  1. Thanks addenex, yes, I've read it, but it's been a really long time. Good time to revisit wormwood. Thanks for your thoughts everyone!
  2. I've been thinking a lot about how satan influences, what powers he has, etc. Can he influence thoughts? Can he do anything physical since he doesn't have a body? For instance, can he make physical things happen? If he follows the principle of opposites and Christ can do all these things to bring about good and peace are his powers equal yet in the opposite direction?
  3. Again, thank you all. I spoke with my bishop and he was the most loving, compassionate, kind person. I came away knowing my Heavenly Father loves me. Thanks again for all the support on this board.
  4. No actually it got out first, then he moved. Then when my Bishop tried to contact his next Bishop he moved shortly after. Then he and his girlfriend moved out of state where they were married the week after our divorce.
  5. I appreciate all the comments and advice and straightforwardness on this board. I am grateful to have such loving bro and sis as you all are in this dark period of my life. I am thankful beyond measure that I have a Savior who willingly took upon Him my sins and horrified at the thought of my disregard for Him that my actions and thoughts demonstrated. Thank you again.
  6. Thank you Vort, I appreciate your comments. To clear a few things up... Yes, I corrected this in an earlier post. Yes, I understand the acts were. Not sure how much you have been reading, I am not denying anything and am very forthcoming. I was pointing out that after going to counseling that my counselor said that I don't have Same Sex Attraction or Lesbian tendencies and that it was a circumstantial relationship, not one I sought out due to attraction of the opposite sex. I never mentioned he was excommunicated because he wasn't. He took off before any church discipline could take place. He moved three times to avoid bishops. I don't know if he has ever been through one. Thank you for everyone's willingness to share their knowledge, I am so appreciative of it.
  7. Few more questions.... 1)Who are invited to the bishops council? 2) Does what happen dictate if it goes to a stake discipline council? Or what constitutes one going to a bishop council vs. stake council?
  8. @Windseeker, maybe it's the prideful part of me that is scared to death of this getting out in our small community and killing my kids, as a mom our first instinct is to protect them. i am still confused on if it SHOULD be confessed to the bishop. Is your opinion you expressed in your first post based on any experience in bishoprics or councils or hearsay with others, or gut feeling? Of course under different circumstances I would say definitely I should. Maybe I'm just justifying. Also, does anyone know if they will contact the other party's bishop and let them know what's going on?
  9. Thank you, no bishop council was held with my husband at all and he shortly moved out of the ward after word was out. And then he moved to California and remarried the week after our divorce. Thank you for your reply. My reference to Boyd K Packer is just simply stating he seems to be a letter of the law person more than spirit of the law. I could be totally wrong but grew up next to his family. He probably would best see my heart. It was a flippant and errant judgement just to put the point across that our stake is very letter of the law. I hope and pray that the new bishop understands privacy as well.
  10. Oh, and I am not a lesbian and don't have tendencies, I was saying that's how the news spreads around communities, not that I am someone who is trying not to act on tendencies.
  11. Thank you for your replies... My husbands sins did get out through the Bishop, that's why I am worried. He told the EQ President who then told his presidency, which then my husband left. I appreciate the compassion shown here. There are millions of excuses and justifications for my behavior none of which satisfy me or my God. My main intention for not talking to the Bishop is to protect the kids who have already had to go through a dad leaving them and hearing the rumors about them. To have a porn addict, weed smoking dad, and a lesbian mom cannot be good for an 11, 13, and 15 year old to hear. My other concern is my Bishop actually knows my friend. And he is going to be released in the next month or two. How does that work if you start with one bishop and then he's released. Our stake is very by the book old school. We are even counseled to not wear shorts or capris. Which is fine with me, I won't have to shave as much lol. But they are very Boyd K Packer like in stance which scares me they wont' see my heart. Sorry to rant. Thank you again for your kindness, I broke into tears hearing all of your replies.
  12. Oops, also, what happens if you die during excommunication and your sealings to your kids, etc. I know it doesn't make a difference if you are unworthy of the blessings anyway, just wondering if you are in the process of repentance, what happens.
  13. The Infinite Atonement book by Calister explains this really well.
  14. Hi All, Let me start by saying I am an endowed, divorced mother of 3. Up until 3 years ago, my life was seemingly perfect. I had an eternal marriage with someone who I thought was happy and we got along great. We have three amazingly great kids. My husband had been struggling with some things and I caught him doing something he shouldn't be. I knew he had done this before but he told me he was done doing it then two weeks before my son's baptism, I caught him again. Come to find out, he may have also had a porn addiction and maybe cheated, according to the Bishop's guess, however none of these claims can be substantiated and really do not matter. He is a much better person than I, I am finding out. That's the back story. I don't drink, I don't watch rated r movies, I attend church weekly, and I do my best. But I fell hard. Here's the story. Flash forward to when our divorce is final, I met a friend whose husband went through the same thing shortly before my divorce. We became quick friends. In fact, a codependence developed and it led to a sexual relationship. She was primary president at the time and we both were very involved and what some would consider good latter day saints. Our sexual relations were very sporadic and few in the 2.5 years because we would both try really hard not to act on our feelings. There are no excuses for our behavior, it was wrong, it was sick, and we are both hurting now. Here are the questions that I am wondering about. When my husband left, everyone in the ward heard what he had done through the elder's quorum president. It wasn't fair to my husband at all. I am worried by going to the bishop and dealing with this that it will get out in the community and my kids and my friends kids will be affected. Each set of kids have already been torn up by their dads leaving in the first place and these kids don't need any more. Being ex'd or disfellowshipped is probably the discipline she and I would receive. While I don't care about the public humiliation for me, I do care about the innocent, the kids, in this case. For those who say I should have thought about this before I acted immorally, you are right. I have read M o F, I have read Falling to Heaven, I have read Infinite Atonement. I am fasting every Sunday to know what to do. I went to counseling for a few months. I discussed this with my LDS counselor who also thought it might be best not to say anything to the Bishop. I just want to do whatever it takes to get back to my HF so I can be with my kids. But I don't want them hurt anymore. Both she and I did go to the Bishop at one time about this but since neither bishop asked who with, we left it alone. I told my bishop it was a friend but deliberately left out that the friend was a woman. She did the same. My other question is what is the process if I do confess. Does it go to a Bishop court first then somewhere else? Will I have to let the Bishop know her name? If you are ex'd or disfellowshipped, who ends up knowing? Will our kids all know? I know the handbook talks about making an annotation on the records to to not have callings with kids. The handbook also says that the second most important things is to protect the innocent. My friend and I have no contact now but live in the same community. It was the tragic fallout and consequence to sin. I had and still struggle with hard feelings toward her due to the fact that she was the one that initiated the start of the sexual relationship and I know that I can't blame her and need to forgive her. I called her a hypocrite because she kept going to the temple in the midst of it (after telling her bishop about us but leaving the detail that I am a woman out). I have written an entire blog in one month's time about my journey through repentance and forgiveness, but much to no avail in knowing what to do in this case. Please any help would be appreciated. As much as I deserve judgement, please try not to judge me. I do my best and just fell really hard.