christyml

I've already changed my mind to being less rude about my sil. How about you change yours and quit picking on me? This forum is not all that Christ-like. I think I'll go away from all of you.

I don't think Jesus would have said that. Let's be Christ-like shall we?

I do have another question. You know how when people are called in church, and they ask if there are any opposed? If you knew that someone did something that would make them unworthy of holding a calling, you're supposed to say something, no? Is it the same for when someone is preparing to enter the temple? I mean, there are no announcements about that like in church...

Alright fine. But I don't have to trust her, and not trusting someone is making a judgment call. I'd rather upset her and protect my feelings and my family than to put on a happy face and pretend everything is okay for the sake of making her happy.

Nope.

Could be, but everyone loves her, and never sees how horrible she truly is. After 3 years of being treated like crap, I think it'd be a little understandable that I'm possibly obsessed, hoping that someone will notice that she's not as great as everyone seems to think.... It probably stems from my ex-step-mother. She was a horrible person to me, and no one noticed except me. Then my dad committed suicide and suddenly things came to light and everyone finally saw her for what she was and finally realized I was right. Maybe, subconsciously, I don't want to lose someone else.

I've never had a temple interview, but I asked my husband if they asked questions specifically about how you've treated others. He didn't remember that question, or anything similar to it. Plus, knowing her, she could very well lie about it anyway.

I agree, but I don't know what would be best for my son; go support someone who has constantly treated his mommy horribly (and sort of saying it's okay to do so), or to go and be the better person.

I've asked myself that already, and I have no idea what he would say. I know He wouldn't put up with her nastiness.

I have written about my sister in law before, but now I'm really unsure of what to do..... She is engaged and is getting sealed in a temple that is about 6 hours away from where we live. She is getting sealed on a Friday. My husband has already made the decision to not go through with her. Sil wants my husband, our son, and me to be there anyway for pictures. A few problems: She is getting sealed at 10am with pictures to follow. My husband works night shift, so if we planned to go, he'd only get 4 hours of sleep tops. My husband would have to take Friday off, but then there is really no time off left over (he was recently in the hospital and had to use 3 days). She has treated me worse than garbage since the day I met her (see my other post about my sister in law). I don't really think she deserves to have my husband, my son, or me there. I personally don't want to go. My husband does, which really hurts my feelings, but that's another story. My mother in law suggested I sleep all day and then drive all night. Our son is 1 year old. I won't be sleeping the whole day. My husband told my mother in law that we may not be going because of the expenses from the hospital stay. She didn't really say anything, just gave us (or me) a sort of dirty look.... I think everyone knows that I don't want to go, which is fine. They're all trying to be super nice to me, which is really annoying. Sil has done that before just to get her way. I let her have what she wanted and then she was back to talking about me behind my back, so I know her games.... Basically, what I'm asking is, what would you do? Would you go and suck it up, only to be talked about behind your back again? Or not go and show the in laws that I won't put up with their nastiness and rudeness anymore?

After talking with my husband yesterday, we came to the decision that he will probably work full time and go to school full time. I agree with everything you've said, and my husband is slowly realizing it as well. Thank you for your input.

He could very easily burn out. Thank you for that insight. I'll mention that to him. Thank you for your educational perspective.

Dahlia you are correct; it is just a perk. My husband works for a private company, so they get to decide what they want. He is going to finish his degree in electrical engineering and/or computer engineering, to answer the person who asked.

I agree, but that's what my husband told me. On another note, they don't have any openings in the exact position he would be going for anyway, after he gets his degrees (double majoring, with only a few extra classes), so I feel like we won't be staying with this company for long anyway....:\

It's not that they would prohibit him from taking more classes. If he did take more, they would just not pay for any of it.