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  1. But this has nothing to do with romance. I didn't receive a prompting to marry the boy. Or even date him.
  2. There was this guy I was friends with for a while and then unofficially dated for about a week before he broke it off. He said he wanted to still hang out, but he ignored me very intentionally after that. There was this horrible tension every time we saw each other to the point where we almost became enemies. I had the feeling, though, that he was really struggling with something and didn't have a lot of people he could talk to. Whenever I read the scriptures, watched conference, prayed, I had a really strong prompting to be his friend and be there for him. So I went and talked to him and the first thing he said when I asked a simple "How are you?" was how he was struggling with exactly what I thought he was struggling with. He had never told me about it before. I just knew. So I took that as a confirmation of my prompting. I told him I didn't have feelings for him anymore, told him what our friendship meant to me and how it didn't make sense to destroy it over a week of nothing. So we hung out with a group of friends like we used to, but after that he started ignoring me and avoiding me again, even though I continued to try and act on the prompting by reaching out to him and being his friend, but without being excessive or overbearing. He said something to my friend behind my back that made it obvious he in fact didn't want to hang out with me anymore, so I gave up. Why he acted the way he did is a mystery that I'm not going to bother trying to figure out. Our friendship is ruined beyond repair and I've done everything I could, so I'm not asking for advice on how to fix it. My question is, why did I receive a prompting to be his friend in the first place when it obviously wasn't the right thing to do?
  3. Something that I've been struggling to wrap my mind around is the whole idea of agency and God's plan for each of us. Especially now where I'm at a point in my life where I need to make a lot of decisions. We all have the ability to choose for ourselves what path in life we take, but in the end God knows what we will choose. He knows the spouse we will choose, where we will choose to live, whether or not we will choose to make and keep covenants, etc. So we essentially have the sense of agency since we don't know what will happen to us, but I have a hard time viewing it as true agency. Can someone shed some light on the subject?
  4. I'm 24, female, and single. Not dating anyone, not in a relationship. When my parents and I went to the temple my mom said she received revelation about who I'm going to marry (or more like who I'm NOT going to marry) and when I'm going to get married. I'm not ready to get married, have no desire to do so in the near future, and I've prayed multiple times to know if she's right and the Lord doesn't want to tell me right now. I complained to my dad about it and he said that she doesn't have to right to receive revelation for my future. So is that true? Or is it possible that my mom is right?
  5. About two weeks ago my friend Andres drowned. He was a really good kid, preparing to serve a mission, really righteous, etc. etc. He basically was just too good to be in this world, so the Lord took him out of it. I have another friend who is in the same kind of boat. Really righteous, good, worthy, currently serving a mission, and has been through a lot and accomplished a lot in his short life. Lately I've been really distressed by Andres' death, especially since I was there for the whole thing. I've been having nightmares, and I'm always terrified that something is going to happen to someone else that I care about, especially my other friend since he is similar to Andres. I had been praying for a while to receive some sort of assurance that nothing bad would happen to him, but I still just had nightmare after nightmare about Andres. But last night I had a dream about my other friend. I was with him on his mission and he was home sick. I came to see him and he started coughing up blood. When I panicked he assured me that he was fine and that it wasn't anything he would die from. He did get better in the dream and went back to doing missionary stuff. So my question for you all is, does that sound like an answer to my prayer? Or is it just a nightmare like the rest? I woke up pretty upset by it. I didn't feel peaceful at all. And I have been sick for a while coughing up flem (sp?). Is it just a reaction to my coughing all the time?
  6. I think so. I put it on the envelope at least... But I never really had the guts to ask my friend if she put the letter in a new envelope because that would kind of make me sound desperate and she doesn't really know how I feel about him.
  7. Why did he reply to my letter by writing my friend about me but didn't write to me?
  8. My crush is serving a mission right now in Brazil. Before he left I was still on my mission and wanted to congratulate him on his call, but I didn't have his address. I asked my friend for it and she told me to send the letter to her and she would forward it to him. (Take note, our friend is much older, so it's not a matter of competition). So I sent her the letter with my return address and everything. After I got home from my mission, she tells me that SHE got a reply from him thanking her for sending him my letter and telling her that she should get to know me more. But I never got a reply from him. I even wrote to him once more after he left for his mission but he never replied... She's also not a member, so maybe he was just getting a head start on being a missionary by writing to her and saying she should talk to me more (aka talk to the missionaries. Since I was a missionary at the time)