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Thank you all for your advice and support! I talked with my boyfriend about it this afternoon and I think we are on the same page about talking to the bishop. The consequences will be difficult to handle but I really do think it's the right thing to do and will make my life better in the long run. Thanks again

Thanks for all of your support. As I said, the main conflict for me is that if I confess, my boyfriend will be forced to confess. I feel badly to put him in that situation, because I would rather he confess of his own will.

I am 18 and a college student. This year I met a great LDS guy, the same age as me, and we started dating. A few months into our relationship, we started to have sex, even though we both knew it was wrong. After about a month of this behavior, we realized our mistakes and completely stopped the practice. It has been about a month, and since the day that we committed to forsake our sins, we have not slipped up, even a little. We also made plans to pray and read the scriptures daily. Since that time, I have grown much closer to the Lord and feel much better about myself. I know that sexual sins are supposed to be confessed to the bishop. However, if I do confess, my mission date, and the mission date of my boyfriend will be moved back an entire year. I am afraid to confess because of this restriction, mainly because my boyfriend is in my ward and my confession would basically force his confession and delay his mission significantly. I have done my best to repent before the Lord and I have felt his love for me. I hoped that I could be forgiven without confession, but my roommate (who knows about the situation) continues to emphasize that I can't be forgiven without talking to the bishop and that I have no right to go on a mission if I don't. I really want to do the right thing, but I feel stuck. What do you suggest for me?