USSThunderbird

I wouldn't say I am superior to him. Intellectually speaking, he is far superior to me in the realm of Maths and Sciences, but we're like yin and yang academically. He's a Math guy and I am an artistic/writing type person. I don't believe I am superior to him, but I am far more willing to grab the bull by the horns, so to speak, than he is. I don't know what the T word is. I was speaking of intimate relations.

Understood. This behavior isn't even exclusive to the military. I have plenty of non-military men who have attempted to talk into me with the "he makes a GREAT military wife" line.

Understood, ma'am. I will think about what you have told me.

From my understanding, he was working an upwards of 80 hours a week and saving up for a place but when the economy tanked, so did his hours and he got cut back to seasonal work and the money dried up fast. He wasn't aware of college grants so he just kind of stuck for around 3-4 years trying to get into writing. He published a book but well... his editor was a piece of crap and did his writing no justice. I offered to re-write it completely, I'm a very talented writer. He has refused.

...However, I still want to see if we can work something out. We got married in January of last year. He is a lifelong member, 28 y/o and I am a convert, 21 y/o. When we started dating, he was 26, living with his Mom and I told him I couldn't be with someone who wasn't attempting to improve themselves so he did. He got a better job, started going to college for an Accounting degree and it looked like we were both heading in the same direction, career-wise. I'm quickly learning that unless he's instructed to give a darn, he just doesn't give a darn. He won't clean unless told to 6 or 7 times. He doesn't remember that I'm going to MEPS even though I told him yesterday. He didn't remember my wisdom tooth removal even after constant reminders. We bought a car that he agreed to make payments on a month ago and who is having to insure it, transfer the titles and smog it? Me. Who hasn't made the payments that he has agreed to make? Him. Whose going to have to make them? Me. Because I borrowed the money from family and I always pay them back and he willingly allowed me to do so, believing that he'd attempt to sell his vehicle and attempt to make the payments. Everything in the apartment is handled by me. He doesn't do jack-diddly-squat unless I scream at him. It kills me. It shames me. I hate myself. But it's the only way, absolutely the only way, next to waving the divorce papers in his face to get him to do the most mundane, adult activities that I have been doing since I moved out at 18. You know what's worse? He won't put out. I'm accustomed to 2-3 times a day and I've had to settle for once every other WEEK. I can't handle this anymore. I've lost respect for him. I can't even see him as a man. I've come to berate him every chance I get. I want him to leave. I want him to go. I want him gone from my life because he is the pinnacle of incompetence. He is worthless in my eyes. He is good for nothing but to sit on his arse and play with his stupid darned cell phone. I've told him that when I make O-1 in the Army, he's gone with yesterday's garbage and I mean it. I want it to work out. I know I'm doing bad. I'm broke and can't afford counseling and don't know who I should talk to. I'm young and I know I deserve better than a man who is content to scratch his arse and play video games all day. Part of me wants him to disappear and the other part of me feels guilt for it because I love him. I don't know what to do. Who do I talk to? What's the best course of action?