missmollymormon

Comfortable or not, you have made a covenant to wear your temple garments, so you should make attempts to do so. Maybe start off small, wear them for an hour a day and see how you go. Then slowly build yourself up. Endowed members shouldnt be looking for reasons not to wear their garments, but should be focusing on reasons why they are a blessing. I understand they scrunch up, get hot and sweaty and dont work with a lot of fashions. As endowed members, we are somewhat *set apart*. Where much is given, much is required. I agree they may get uncomfortable, but it is a small price to pay for the blessings the temple brings. I understand that you are having psychological issues with the garment, but you havent really elaborated enough for me to offer more advice. All the best with it

Definately, do your endowments first! Its such a blessing, dont wait out for it!

I have baptism makeup down pat! If you are worried about time, you can be baptized in your makeup. The trick is foundation primer, setting spray (if you dont have setting spray, very very lightly close your eyes and use hairspray) and waterproof mascara. Dont wipe your face with a towel, just pat it dry. I do this every time I go to the temple for baptisms. There just isnt enough time ever to redo my face...and amazingly, the makeup still looks fresh.

Not necessarily so, as long as it is 10% of the member herselfs income, it doesnt matter where her partners tithing money goes.

Having read your posts, it doesnt sound like you need any advice. You have obviously thought this through and have considered the needs of all involved. I strongly commend you for that. I dont think the different views of faith would be a serious problem, as it is obvious you both place your faith in christ as your savior and redeemer. Stay close to the Lord, and stay close to your girlfriend. Pray. You are on a good path already. Good luck

Yes, he is a member. Ive known him for a couple of years noe

No, he is a student so he isnt in the position to. Having said that though, I am a travel consultant so I get flights super cheap

We both made the decision. We wanted to date, but he is quite tied down over there, so its just easier for me to go to him.

Good point, Bini. I should look more toward the travel experience. I have been to america twice in the past two years, so I guess its easy to take that for granted. Having said that though, the purpose of me going this time is for us to date. Maybe I am just being silly over this whole thing? Its not him I am worried about, its her intentions...

Its just frustrating. I dont want to spend a fortune on flights to get shafted at the last minute.. I figure that he wouldnt let me do this if he wasnt somewhat serious. But then, I have been hurt before so my trust levels are quite low. Not his fault I know but I am still wary.

I've always found lucid dreams to be quite interesting. It is actually quite easy to train yourself to do. I was once at a stage where I was lucid dreaming every night. I think it would be possible to connect with the spirit through these dreams, however I am not sure it would be entirely advisable to do so. There is an entire spirit realm so beyond our comprehension, that what may appear to be of the spirit could in fact be of the bad guy. Maybe test it with the handshake test in D&C? Sorry, I am not close enough to my scriptures to give you the exact referrence, but I am sure someone here could.

Hey guys. I live in Australia, and I have been sort of seeing a guy that lives in America. We arent official, but we do have plans for me to go back over there for some dates. :) My problem is this, there seems to be a girl lurking around over there. It might be nothing, but since I commented on a facebook picture of him telling him he looked handsome she seems to have been 'upping the anti' and is constantly tagging him etc. I know this sounds silly... but my womans intuition is telling me she is interested. I dont want to be a jealous girl... I want to be classy about this. I know things on facebook can easily be read into... any ideas on how to deal with it?

As a woman I must admit that I do not understand this whole give-women-the-priesthood-let-them-wear-pants-include-them-more-debate. I feel blessed that our heavenly father has so beautifully defined our gender roles for this life. This is the church of JESUS CHRIST who sits at the head and it is by His direction in ehich the church is run. Who am I to question the Lord or the Savior? This isn't descrimination, nor does it deny anyone of their liberty. It is true liberation to play out my gender role to fulfill the measure of my posterity. Some may not agree with this, but heavenly father makes no mistakes.

I am not going to say either way whether I think you should leave your husband... but I will say this. If your daughter came to you and told you the story you have told us, what would you say to her? Take that advice and apply it to yourself. All the best. Hugs

One of the best pieces of advice I recieved when I joined was that the gospel is a marathon, not a race! I remember just wanting to immerse myself in it, like yourself. There is nothing inherently wrong with that of course, but it does lead us open to expecting perfection from ourselves. Conversion takes time! Enjoy each moment.

You need to get out and stop focusing so much on your addiction. The more you focus on it, the more it will breed. Panic attacks are horrible, I have been through them myself. The good news is they dont last forever. I havent had one in five years. The best way to deal with panic attacks are to focus on the NOW and not the source of your anxieties. In my case, my anxieties were due to a rape, obviously yours are to do with your addiction. Once you begin to focus on the NOW, you will soon notice that not only are your panic attacks subsiding, but so is the reason for the initial anxiety. Living in the present is what helped me heal. There is a difference between repentance and downright bashing yourself. You seem to be doing the former. Ask the lord for forgiveness, and try your best from there. You are hunan and are prone to mistakes, repent but dont dwell. Rid yourself of any means of viewing pornography. If its on the internet, make sure your computer is in a public area of your home or limit the amount of time you are on the net. Net surf for a specific purpose and not just from boredom. There is a beautiful big world out there. The lord wants you to enjoy it! All the best

I think it is fair to say the church has a right to set standards. The line has to be drawn somewhere. Sure, there are healthy obese people, but that is the exception not the rule. My point is that this young man has to take it like a man. Accept the decision and either try to do something about the weight issue and hopefully pass the next medical-which I understand could be hard, or he could find another way to serve the lord. He could, of course just take the whimps way out and go inavtive as he has already threatened to do. But which option wouldhelp him grow more spiritually? I might get shot for saying this, but just the fact that he is considering going inactive over this decision tells me he probably isnt spiritually ready for a mission yet anyway. I do feel sorry for him though, it would be hard. I will pray for him, just my two cents, but I bet there will be some who dont agree. All good

Maybe the "crush" is really just misguided feelings of the spirit? Maybe you arent used to feeling the spirit from people so you have misinterpreted it as attraction? Just a thought. When I was going through a similar issue with an elder, he told me that he thought It wasnt about him, that I was attracted to the spirit he brought. At the time I thought he was dead wrong, but in hindsight, and with the limited and negative interactions I have had with him since his mission finished, maybe he was right. He was a beautiful person as an elder, but out in the world he was completely different. Dr jekyll and miater hyde type thing. Im not saying that out of spite, he just really seemed like an entirely different person. Strange, and sad

Dear Ldsshine! Been there, done that... Broke my heart... If I had my time over again, I would have spoken to the mission president. Things would have been much easier. But then, its har to willfully push someone away that we are attracted to... But your story is a bit different to mine, I am not married. For the sake of you and your husband, distance yourself!

Maybe he needs to work with the lord and not against him on this one. Weight can be hard to lose, but its not impossible. And where there is the atonement, there is possibility to achieve anything. Obesity can lead to really complicated health problems, do you really want your son in the mission field in that physically vulnerable state? Ps, I dont approve of calling any member here a 'jerk'

Go asap. Pray and fast. I dont know you, but could there be an underlying issue? I feel for you. Goodluck

My mother has seen me in my garments and she isnt endowed. I dont make a point of showing them off or anything, mum just never knocks begore she comes into my room. Lol. Well, she is after all my mother. I would try to avoid them from seeing the garments, but if they happen to catch a glimpse, I wouldnt worry too much.

The endowment video is 12 minutes longer now, not a huge difference. Hope that helps

Im not married, nor have I ever been so tske this it what its worth, just my two cents. If you hsve recieved confirmation from the lord that this is the right thing to do, let yourself be at peace. Often times the scariest parts of our lives turn out to be the biggest blessings. Everything will work out in the end, it always does. I pray that you will feel at ease. One step at a time. Goodluck x

If I were to put myself in your position, I would probably feel the same. However, there is a flip side to this, you see, I could easily be your wife. I joined the church at age 28. Like your wife, I have a 'past'. I am not proud of it, but it is there. It has helped mold me into the person I have become now that I am in the gospel. I have always feared finding 'the one' that I will marry in the church and having to disclose my past to him. I am scared that he may feel the same way you do. I will deal with that when it comes, but I did voice this concern to my bishop who said to me 'do you really want to marry someone who doesnt understand the atonement?' These past boyfriends of mine have helped me become the christian that I am now. They helped me learn what true love is about, because I have done wrong and learned from it, I am now able to appreciate the Lord's commandments when it comes to expressing love. I wouldnt worry too much about her keeping the journal, I still have a momento from a previous relationship- a rose in fact. I keep it not due to residual attatchment to him, I keep it because it was the first rose I have ever recieved from a man. I feel awful that the part of myself that should only be given to my future husband is long gone. I feel ashamed. But truth be told if I had my time over again things would be completely different. My point is that your wife is probably hurting too. She probably wishes she could have her time over again to do things right. But she cant, and neither can I. Can you be strong enough to be the man to accept this? If christ can forgive her, can you? I mighg be off the mark, but thats my personal experience. Try to look from her side.