I wish it was all that easy to just let it all go. When you're getting divorced no one really know what to do with you. It seems like "they" are all happy for my husband who is moving on and found a "new love" and when he just gets married everyone will be comfortable again. He's repented and everything is now great. For the person who is left with the 5 children...well that's just uncomfortable for everyone. I just need to get over it and move on. Move on to what? Get on with my life to what? What if it was me that went off and left and he had to figure out what to do with 5 children, find a way to support them, and live happily ever after? There's alot to obsess about when you're cooking and cleaning and doing homework, and nurturing children and explaining to them that their Dad loves them and that we're going to be ok and every one in the world just hopes I can "get over all of this and move on". What I'm really learning is that the church and the people in it have all these neat little rules until they don't. And then I'm on my own. So while I'm on my own figuring this all out, he's dating, and going to church with her and staying at each others places, and living happily ever after. Frankly I'm exhausted, and I'm tired of always putting on a happy face.