My verbal attack did not consist of what his did; which is the profanity and the insulting to something I hold very sacred which is my faith. When I say verbally attacked; I "defended" my faith with the same enthusiasm that he attacked me with MINUS the namecalling and profanity! Furthermore, it is SO damaging for children to witness a parent regardless of the circumstance of emotion surrounding the event (i.e. dad called mom a B because she "attacked" him) verbally attacking another parent they love (because children do not have the ability to think that abstractly at the age that mine are). And that is why I threatened to call the police; they are minors in my care; from a secular legal standpoint; and aside from my spiritual duties, I am legally responsible to protect them. THis is NOT limited to physical violence; but verbal and emotion ones like the one I listed here. As for me using "my" children verses "our" it's not personal to how I internally view the custody of my children; meaning I don't just think they are mine or vice versa; it's probably just me being lazy with my grammar. Excuse. So I hope this clarifies. FYI: I know it was mentioned earlier about why my marriage "goes" to this point...This has been and on and off pattern for years. Obviously, the older I have gotten, the better I have learned to deal with these situations; however my husband for the most part is very erratic and unstable especially when upset. I am not a doctor so I cannot say for sure if he has an emotional disorder, although friends and family in my community do suspect it. Instead of walking on eggshells, I have learned how to appropriately incorporate "boundaries" in my life and have had bishops and stake presidents help me do that during my times of activity. That is why he resents the church to some degree. There's more I can say, but I'm tired :). Thanks everyone for the advice. Good night! thread stated