I am a single mother of a 2 year old girl and have just given birth to another little girl. Everything is really complicated. I was with my boyfriend for about 5 years, but the last 2 he started to treat me like rubbish. Basically trying to control everything in my life, being really nasty about the things I was saying and treating me like I was an idiot, being very manipulative and what I can only describe as mental abuse. I thought that it was my fault at first so tried to ignore it etc because i loved him so much, but eventually it got to me and I told him to leave in the hope it would shock him into treating me like he used to again. He came begging back and I took him back again, only for it to all start again not long after. So I broke up with him proper this time but he got his parents (also very manipulative) to come around telling me things like I have to take him back for the sake of the child and that it doesnt matter if im not happy. Eventually they got to me and I stupidly took him back again. This time he did treat me really well like when we first met almost, and I fell pregnant again with our second child. Not long after he got back to his old ways of putting me down all the time, trying to control which friends I saw, ignoring our little girl unless I made him look after her (which just lead to him yelling at her to be quite all the time), id just had enough and realised I'm better than putting up with him so I broke up with him for good, absolutely determined not to go back with him. He tried everything from emotional blackmail to getting his parents to constantly ring me and come round, I let him come round to see our girl every 2 weekends in the hope he would still be a dad to our children, but every time it just ended in a row about getting back with him. A while later he stopped coming to see us which I was really upset about because I dont want our children to be without a dad even if we are apart. A few months went past and I fell in love with someone else who has just been amazing with me and my little girl. He has changed my life.. But I still don't want our children to not know their real dad or see him. Obviously after he found out I was seeing someone else he was really angry and I haven't heard from him since. He never even bought his little girl an xmas present or even a card. I had my second little girl a few days ago but he doesnt want to know. Last time I seen him he said he doesn't want anything to do with our kids if we cant be together again. He has made me feel like all this is my fault. I dont know what to do I just feel like he still needs to be a dad to our children and accept that it was him that drove us apart.