mandy151982

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  1. Welcome to the site - lots of great advice and information here :-)
  2. You have to follow your heart and do what is right for you. You have to keep in mind that it's not you that can change him only he can try to do that. So do what you think is right for you and the rest of the family, and if that means getting a divorce then so be it. It will be hard, nothing is ever easy, but in time you will see that it was the best decision because you choose to follow your heart.
  3. Omg this freaked me out - I have a weird (is it weird?) phobia of clowns - reminds me of the one in that film IT
  4. Well, if you do a google search for "aspartame side effects", you will find plenty of information on why it's bad for you.
  5. Doesn't Coca Cola and Pepsi contain Aspartame or is that the diet versions? Anyway I know that aspartame is pretty bad for you.
  6. Thanks everyone, great to be part of the community here.
  7. I agree with what others have said. Keep yourself and your children away from him. Anyone who puts you down and trys to control and manipulate you, using emotional blackmail, and trys to make you feel like it's all your fault etc (especially that he cheated on you) doesn't deserve to be with you or your kids. Get rid of him. I recently split with an abusive and manipulative bf too who I had two young girls with, and I am finally starting to feel happy about my life again. It was hard but I knew I couldn't carry on with him especially when my little girl asked me why I wasn't happy anymore. Life is too short. You can do this!
  8. Thanks for your replies and advice everyone. Yes the phrase "fell pregnant" was meaning that it was unintentional - He started treating me right again and obviously I ended up having sex because I was in love with him still. I now wish I hadn't had another child by him but I can't change that.. As everyone has suggested I will just leave him be.. he deosnt deserve to be a dad anyway and the new man I am with has been just amazing. Maybe one day he will realise what he has done to us and that he lost a whole lot more than just me.
  9. I am a single mother of a 2 year old girl and have just given birth to another little girl. Everything is really complicated. I was with my boyfriend for about 5 years, but the last 2 he started to treat me like rubbish. Basically trying to control everything in my life, being really nasty about the things I was saying and treating me like I was an idiot, being very manipulative and what I can only describe as mental abuse. I thought that it was my fault at first so tried to ignore it etc because i loved him so much, but eventually it got to me and I told him to leave in the hope it would shock him into treating me like he used to again. He came begging back and I took him back again, only for it to all start again not long after. So I broke up with him proper this time but he got his parents (also very manipulative) to come around telling me things like I have to take him back for the sake of the child and that it doesnt matter if im not happy. Eventually they got to me and I stupidly took him back again. This time he did treat me really well like when we first met almost, and I fell pregnant again with our second child. Not long after he got back to his old ways of putting me down all the time, trying to control which friends I saw, ignoring our little girl unless I made him look after her (which just lead to him yelling at her to be quite all the time), id just had enough and realised I'm better than putting up with him so I broke up with him for good, absolutely determined not to go back with him. He tried everything from emotional blackmail to getting his parents to constantly ring me and come round, I let him come round to see our girl every 2 weekends in the hope he would still be a dad to our children, but every time it just ended in a row about getting back with him. A while later he stopped coming to see us which I was really upset about because I dont want our children to be without a dad even if we are apart. A few months went past and I fell in love with someone else who has just been amazing with me and my little girl. He has changed my life.. But I still don't want our children to not know their real dad or see him. Obviously after he found out I was seeing someone else he was really angry and I haven't heard from him since. He never even bought his little girl an xmas present or even a card. I had my second little girl a few days ago but he doesnt want to know. Last time I seen him he said he doesn't want anything to do with our kids if we cant be together again. He has made me feel like all this is my fault. I dont know what to do I just feel like he still needs to be a dad to our children and accept that it was him that drove us apart.
  10. Hey Everyone! I'm new on here and wanted to introduce myself. My name is Mandy from Cheltenham in the UK. I will post another thread on all the problems Im going through at the moment, but just wanted to say hi first :) Look forward to any advice you guys can give and being apart of the community here