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To me, adulting means regularly doing the things I don't want to do because they have to be done, and it is my job to do it. And with that in mind, I have to go clean my toilets.

...can be so nice! To put this in context, I will relate the following true story: I have a really junkie car with a broken gas gauge. My sweet toddler managed to reset the trip odometer, so I thought I had more gas than I actually did. This morning, I ran out of gas. I was on a reasonably busy road, still a mile or so from the gas station, and my toddler was with me. Not exactly the way I planned to start my day! As I waved to the cars behind me to go around, I started to pray and formulate my plan for the best way to handle my predicament, two men happened by in their truck (presumably on their way to work, as it was a work truck) and helped me get my car off the road. One of them then stayed with us while the other went to the nearest gas station, bought a gas can, filled it up, and drove back. When I offered to repay them, they wouldn't take any money. With that in mind, I thought, "Let's restore our faith in humanity and in miracles today." In what way has the Lord answered your prayers before you have even finished them? How has he used others (including random strangers) to bless your life? Or have you been the one on the giving end?

Also, I have found that with v-neck tops and some scoop neck dresses, undershirts are a must. It's another layer that isn't fun in the hot, humid southern climate, but I feel more comfortable about what I'm wearing, how I look, and I have gotten used to the effect it has on my body temperature. I haven't felt the need to trash my wardrobe for it.

I second what the others have said so far. Finding garments that fit right can be tricky. Ask to try some on at the distribution center next time you go. Don't worry about what the size says, just whether or not it fits (the sizes are strange to me, and I've been endowed for a long time). Also, even when it fits right, it can take a while to get used to the additional fabric. This is normal. You will want to experiment with different styles, fabrics, petite/tall, whatever. Some of the other posters have said that the sizes follow your bra size. Given that, I can understand why that would make the tops fit strangely. I, for one, measure 36 inches around for the bra, but I prefer a MUCH tighter fit for my tops and wear a 24 (I think--I haven't bought any for a long time) garment top. Like I said, don't worry about the number, just what you feel fits well. The good news is that garments are fairly indestructible, so once you find what works for you, they will last for pretty much forever. I got all of mine just before I left on my mission 14 years ago, and I'm just getting to the point where I need to start replacing them. When I got my endowment, there were some clothes that I thought I would be able to wear with garments that ended up not working anymore. I remember feeling a little bummed about giving up my favorite skirt, but it wasn't the only thing I had to wear, so it was okay. The point is, you may have to adjust your wardrobe, even when what you wore before is reasonably modest. Most importantly of all, don't stress about it. Look at this as an opportunity to experiment. Garments may not make you feel beautiful, but you will be able to be comfortable wearing them. It just may take some time and some effort to find the right fabric/fit, etc.

No, he lets me know about that. I think it's more along the lines of what LDM said, that if I guess it right, then he knows that it comes from the heart. Or maybe it's like what @yjacket said, maybe he himself doesn't really know.

@anatess2, it seems to me that Mr. Anatess is the type that really appreciates receiving well-thought out gifts. And you are right that is a different love language than "I love it when you fill my car up with gas for me." (Which I try to do when I drive it because he ACTUALLY told me that he likes it when I do that)

The video on that fidget cube is hilarious! Of course, now I want one...

Thanks, LDM, I've been trying to figure out why he literally refuses to tell me. This makes sense!

I haven't read the book, but I have spent a lot of time on the website. That's one of the ways that I figured out that Southern_Beau's love language is service. He just never wants to tell me what service he wants, lol.

Southern_Beau is the type of guy that feels loved when you do nice things for him, but he also wants me to guess what he likes and surprise him. In other words, if I ask him what I can do to show him some extra love, he will just tell me to figure it out. The thing is, I'm not nearly creative enough most of the time to come up with much, and I'm definitely not powerful enough (yet) to read his mind. I would love some ideas on how to serve him and show him love better in this way. What have you done for your spouse to show a little extra love that they have really appreciated? On the other side of the matter, what has your spouse done in that regard?

Significant Other.

"Why aren't you married yet?" Because I'm single. "Why are you still single?" Because I'm not married.

I can seriously sympathize with your situation. After all, it can be very hard to make friends. Heck, I am ridiculously shy, so even getting to know people is a real stretch. But being lonely is pretty terrible, and I don't do well with that, either. My advice: don't wait for anyone to make the first move. They might be terrified to admit that they need a friend as badly as you do. I know I've always been embarrassed to say so, and you can't force someone to be your friend anyway. That doesn't mean that you give up, though. There is a Primary song that says, "If you want to have a friend, you must be a friend, too." So, be friendly. Sit somewhere different each time you go to church. Introduce yourself, and find out about the person next to you. Tell the BP that you need a calling where you will have the opportunity to get to know people in your branch. Even if you don't get a calling right away, serve them. You love people because you serve them, and you serve them because you love them. Go to activities. Go to as many activities as you can. Does the branch do small groups for basketball for example? Go do it, even if you're terrible at it. It will give you more opportunities to socialize. After all, I find that it can be challenging to have any sort of real conversation with someone at church that doesn't have to do with church or the lesson. There just isn't really enough time between lessons and wrangling children for me to make that happen.

First off, your shouldn't join the Church for a guy. You should join the Church because you have a testimony that it is true. Second, it is hard to understand why relationships sometimes end the way that they do, or why we might feel the Spirit is telling us something when someone else is seemingly having a completely different prompting. Without knowing the full story, it is hard to understand what exactly occurred in the relationship that made it unbearable for him. And, yes, it is very possible that you have misunderstood what the Spirit has been trying to tell you. For most of us, recognizing, understanding, and obeying the promptings of the Holy Ghost is a lifelong pursuit.