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The ring won't be ready until April 10th... So I'm thinking about doing something epic!! Something that would make her NEVER expect a proposal. :) On a side note... I have truly been blessed by her family and her deceased husbands family (all mormons). They have been kind,accepting, and very hospitable to me and my children. I have no fears going forward. Bill

Not yet... But I bought the ring! Thinking of cool idea on how to propose.

Well all... After much prayer, dates, thought, talking to my children, and an awesome breakfast with her bishop and my pastor... I'm going ring shopping! This Wesleyan guy is going to ask the most awesome Mormon woman on earth if she will marry me! She's too good to let slip away! And just like her bishop said at breakfast.... "We all believe Jesus Christ is Lord, in the end God will work it all out for those that believe". Bill

We will take 10% of our household income and tithe that amount to our respective churches (50/50). If it becomes a problem with the LDS church, we can simply split her income out of the equation and tithe that seperately to the LDS church. My earnings are 4 times hers, so it would benefit the LDS church to go with option 1. I am all in this relationship, totally committed. My willingness to split our household income 10% tithe to the churches shows that. Respectfully, Bill

Thank you Quin and MissMolly... Perhaps Jess and I will share a blog together... The challenges will be there, but the rewards are worth it! We compliment eachother very well. In the end, our faith in Christ is what gives us hope for a future. We share that view, and it is central to both churches. I look forward to cooking BBQ for my new BIG mormon family, and I know after they get comfortable around me... the real fun will begin!!!! LOL Ive reached out to the Bishop in her new Ward and we are going to meet for a non hot caffine beverage next week! Bill in NC

No one? Anybody? Surely someone knows someone who could offer advice on my situation?

As a strong Christian man, I believe in letting God guide and direct me, and thus my family next to me (notice I didnt use the word "below" me). We have discussed the core basic beliefs that make a person a true Christian, saved and sealed to God in heaven. I believe 'J" is such a person. I do not, nor will I follow Mormon doctrine, as I am not one. I will be supportive and nonjudgmental of her faith. To say we are of different religions is a deal breaker with me, and I do NOT feel that way. On the surface I will not judge Mormons and attempt to determine their salvation, (all denominations have less than perfect people). I will simply take them on their word that Christ is their personal savior and they believe he died for their sins. There is but one way to the Father... Through Jesus Christ our Lord. She is willing to embrace my church and friends as well, (she will have to move 90 miles north of where she is now) and join a new ward. I like the fact that she has told her family and friends to back off the converting approach with me, and respect my beliefs and I do hers. Shes a rock solid woman! The children should be a family unit with no lines seperating them. This will be challenging as 5 will be with us full time, and 3 part time. They will however see eachother in school everyday. Im on this forum looking for people who can help give advice... But I appreciate the questions, LOL. Someone asked about my divorce... Ive had 2, not one. Both were devastating, and without God, I would be gone by now. That being said, J had a wonderful 13 year marriage to a man she loved and admired. So that makes me very happy. She of all people in our relationship actually has the keys to success in her hand. She knows what it feels and looks like. Her husband left behind 5 wonderful kids... the home would be full of pictures and thnigs to remind them of who their father was. Any man who couldnt live with that certainly doesnt need to date a widow. She loved him for goodness sake. I do believe that in heaven there will be some type of family structure we are familiar with (this is my own personal feeling). Im not sure I can accept the sealing process the LDS church follows, (once again, Im not a Mormon) but I do believe we will see and have relationships with our loved ones on the other side. For the past month I have read more material from the LDS church than you can imagine, mostly to gain an understanding of the church beliefs. Its difficult to wrap my mind around the whole sealing process and outcome in heaven... thats all. Bill

My kids would be with their maternal mother while I'm gone. But I have no issues with the kids going to church together. I actually encourage it. I don't want them feeling they belong to seperated camps. That's not what Jesus tought. We are all his children, and we should exhibit his love for the church with our own families first... Correct?

We have discussed in depth the religious question. We are both comfortable with our decisions to support eachother and our churches. I have no issues with tithing. Obviously we will split our 10% equally between the churches.... And then some. I drink coffee and won't change that. She says she's fine with that. She drinks diet sodas and I don't!!!hahahaha. But I'm fine with that. My thoughts often center around blending children and families. "J" is a very intelligent woman with an advanced degree and career. I am a professional pilot and travel often. We are both adults 46/37 and have given this relationship over to God. I truly desire his blessing on our future.

My girlfriend is a Mormon widow with 5 children. He husband passed away, (tragically no less) 3.5 years ago. She is very active in her Ward, as are the children. I am divorced with 3 kids, and I attend a Wesleyan Church which I am very active in. We are close to an engagement stage, and I love this woman with all my heart. I feel God brought us together. Is there anyone who an provide insights into successful marriages between Mormons/non-Mormon Christians? I know she and I struggle some with her sealing to her deceased husband. Her children are young and need a father. The 5+3 all are equal in age and get along well. I would appreciate any thoughtful insight. Bill in NC