It's not intended to focus on the sin, but on the repentance. You have no idea how difficult it is to endure this unless you've been through it yourself. You feel extreme shame and humiliation. You feel like you are completely alone. It is very painful.
I think it would be very valuable for guys who have the desire to return to the fold to have other guys who have been there to help lift each other when times get tough. This is the hardest thing we've ever endured and probably will ever endure.
The worst thing that can happen is for guys to feel so much shame that they give up and quit going because they feel alone. They listen to all the lies Satan tells them that they made a mistake to tell the bishop. That this will never be healed. That the shame will never go away.
They no longer have the gift of the holy ghost. They no longer have the priesthood. They feel so alone. I know having some connection with guys who know this pain could really help my husband know he's not alone.
We are in an addiction recovery group, but no one in his group has been through excommunication. So they can't fully understand what he's going through. The group is great, but I know having a few people that can fully understand his pain and the process he's going through could really benefit him, and I'm sure other guys in the same situation would benefit too.