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    askandanswer got a reaction from Blackmarch in Father's Day and Mother's Day   
    We celebrated Father’s Day in Australia last week, so all the Sacrament talks were about fathers and their duties and responsibilities and what they should be doing. I’m pretty sure that by the end of the meeting, most, or maybe all of the fathers would have been squirming in their seats, afflicted with a guilty conscience as they were reminded of all the things they should be doing and perhaps haven’t been doing.
     
    My recollection of Mother’s Day last May is that all the talks were about mothers and how wonderful they are and all the sacrifices and service they do for their family. I think that by the end of the meeting, most mother’s would have been feeling happy and proud and grateful to be mothers.
     
    Father’s feeling guilty because of their shortcomings, mother’s feeling happy because of their successes. Is this how it goes in other wards, or is thing something unique to my ward?
     
     
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    askandanswer reacted to estradling75 in Word of Wisdom and marijuana. Very serious.   
    Hobomidget,
     
    You can hold whatever opinion you want, you can do whatever you what.  What you don't get to do is selectively choose your consequence, nor do you get to force others to agree with you.
     
    If there is someone who chooses to use medical MJ for their condition that is their choice and right.  However if their bishop is of the understanding that medical MJ breaks the word of wisdom.  Then the bishop has every right not to sign off on a recommend for that person and potentially restrict other church worthiness related things.  He is the gatekeeper that is his job, the medical MJ user has no right to expect his desires and understanding to trump the bishops.  That person could appeal to the Stake President (Who could override the Bishop) but that is it, barring a more official church policy being given.
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    askandanswer reacted to jayanna in Word of Wisdom and marijuana. Very serious.   
    paahhhh, no, but alchol consumption does stop contractions, before fetal alcohol syndrome was discovered it was common practice to give an alcohol IV drip to women in preterm labor, so it was actually not unusual for my dr. to ask me to drink some wine every evening. yuck.
    I decided I'd rather have her early, I did everything else I could think of though, and made it a couple of months but when I was a couple weeks early we barely made it to the hospital in time :) She was fine
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    askandanswer reacted to zenbones in Word of Wisdom and marijuana. Very serious.   
    D&C 89:8 And again, tobacco is not for the body, neither for the belly, and is not good for man, but is an herb for bruises and all sick cattle, to be used with judgment and skill.
    "an herb for bruises" and "to be used with judgment and skill"
    All bruises are not physical. Some are mental. Take it for what you will. Although take heed that the Lord does advise to use judgment and skill. Again, let the spirit guide you.
    Again...
    D&C 89:11 Every herb in the season thereof, and every fruit in the season thereof; all these to be used with prudence and thanksgiving.
    If marijuana is to be considered an herb (it is by many), then it could be interpreted to allow for its use but with strong discipline. Again, the most correct answer is from the spirit when you pray.
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    askandanswer reacted to Ironhold in Explaining: a prophet speaking as a prophet   
    One fast way to tell if something is or isn't official is, believe it or not, to check the copyright information. 
     
    If something is officially sanctioned by the church, then the copyright will list either "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" or "Intellectual Reserve" as the copyright holder.
     
    If you see any other name listed, then it's not sanctioned.
     
    I've had to explain this to many, many people because of how often critics of the church go straight for unofficial sources and then wield them like clubs.  
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    askandanswer reacted to Average Joe in Jailed for Contempt (Kentucky Clerk, Kim Davis)   
    I'm 100% behind her on this. You don't make a statement by going quietly into the night. If she's willing to be jailed for her beliefs she is one of the very, very few in the country that is. Friedrich Gustav Emil Martin Niemöller was jailed for his beliefs, King was jailed for his beliefs, and so was Gandhi.
     
    In Helaman 10:4 it states:
     
    Blessed art thou, Nephi, for those things which thou hast done; for I have beheld how thou hast with unwearyingness declared the word, which I have given unto thee, unto this people. And thou hast not feared them, and hast not sought thine own life, but hast sought my will, and to keep my commandments.
     
    We are where we're at in this country because no one is willing to be accused of being "politically incorrect." So very, very few are willing to take a stand...everyone just says, "There's nothing I can do."
     
    Love her or hate her, she has feared God and not man according to her understanding, and she has made a stand.
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Backroads in sick when you agreed to sub   
    Some really well organised teachers might email their lesson plan notes along with detailed notes on the learning styles and behavioural trends of all the kids in the class to whoever ends up subbing for the sub, and others might even have their husband deliver to the sub's sub all the teaching aids and snacks that they've spent the last week preparing. It could happen, but I haven't seen it yet :) 
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Josiah in sick when you agreed to sub   
    Some really well organised teachers might email their lesson plan notes along with detailed notes on the learning styles and behavioural trends of all the kids in the class to whoever ends up subbing for the sub, and others might even have their husband deliver to the sub's sub all the teaching aids and snacks that they've spent the last week preparing. It could happen, but I haven't seen it yet :) 
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    askandanswer got a reaction from mordorbund in 11:11   
    just wondering if your watch/clock has stopped? :) 
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    askandanswer reacted to Josiah in blessings of paying fast offering   
    A nice little gem from President Uchtdorf:
     
    https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/10/living-the-gospel-joyful?lang=eng
     
    The blessings we receive are exactly the blessings we are able and willing to receive. To the degree that our hearts are changed as we pay fast offerings (or keep any commandment), we are blessed. No more, no less. So it's based on principles of obedience, sacrifice, real intent, faith in Christ, charity, etc. When, how, and how much we pay only affect the outcome to the degree that principles like those are involved in what we do.
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    askandanswer reacted to estradling75 in blessings of paying fast offering   
    God is more interested in the type of person your sacrifice helps you become.  If it takes you a hundred billion times then that is what it takes.  If it takes only once then that is fine too.
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    askandanswer reacted to Josiah in post-death political activity?   
    Don't forget the spirit world, too. Even if all is decided post-resurrection (hard to say for sure), things don't suddenly get clear for everyone the instant we die. I suspect there is quite a bit of discussion and debate amongst the disembodied spirits.
     
    The good news: if there are debates and such in the celestial kingdom, they should be fully constructive and positive since the participants will actually be humble, patient, and anxious to listen and learn!
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Str8Shooter in Just dropped off [email protected] mtc....   
    So Capitalist Oinker, Literate Parakeet and Str8tshooter all have children in the MTC together? An interesting coincidence if they are all in the same MTC. 
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Vort in post-death political activity?   
    Will there be political activity in the next life, just as there was in this and the previous lifes, ie, organised groups of people trying to persuade other souls to support or oppose a particular agenda or plan of action?
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Backroads in I feel awful.....   
    I'm pretty sure that he still is, although with some small differences. Perhaps not as lively as previously.
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Vort in I feel awful.....   
    I'm pretty sure that he still is, although with some small differences. Perhaps not as lively as previously.
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Backroads in The last straw   
    I don't know much about computer games, but can you play them together, either with or against each other? Even if you don't really want to? 
     
    Lots of solo time in front of a screen, a lack of interest in human interaction, and a lack of interest in intimacy could be symptoms of depression. 
     
    Just my own opinion, as long as no one is being physically hurt and he continues to fulfill the role of provider, even if he is not fulfilling other roles, 9 months seems to be a little short for a temple marriage. I think the temple deserves longer than that. 
     
    I understand that your tired. What are your sources of strength? Whatever and whoever they are, it sounds like you need to be drawing more from them than you are at present. Perhaps it might be useful for you to temporarily be a little selfish for a while and spend more time than you have been on things, and with people, that make you feel good. Hopefully doing that will give you more strength to continue with an uncomfortable situation. I would suggest that you do what you can to continue with an uncomfortable situation for the time being, and when it becomes too uncomfortable, withdraw a little to those things and people that enable you to renew your strength, and once it is renewed, then back to the marriage. I'm not talking about moving out and then back in and then out and then back and so on, I'm talking about where and how you spend your time and where you focus your efforts, attention and emotions - sometimes on him, sometimes on your marriage, and sometimes, when needed, on yourself.
     
    This is not a solution, it is a survival strategy that will hopefully allow you to buy some time while you work out a longer term answer. 
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Str8Shooter in Just dropped off [email protected] mtc....   
    My RM daughter left last Saturday for a job in Japan. It could go anywhere from 1 - 5 years. Dropping her off at the airport was a completely different feeling from when she went to MTC. Going to MTC we knew that she'd be doing the Lord's work for the next 18 months, she was in the capable hands of a Mission President, and she'd be coming home at the end of it. Now it feels like shes' left the nest, and is all on her own in Japan. The upside is that we can skype with her whenever its convenient, and we are tremendously proud that she's earned this opportunity for herself but there is a still a lot of sadness that she's gone.   
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    askandanswer reacted to Just_A_Guy in where does it say "the prophet cannot lead us astray"???   
    No need to apologize.  While I disagree with both your conclusions and the manner in which you present your arguments, you have been overall admirably clear as to your overall position.  :)
     
     
    I think TFP is quite correct in that we've already parsed the definition of "disavow" several times in this thread.  I stand by mine (and his) earlier arguments on this issue.
     
     
    I agree with your first paragraph, except that I would amend the bolded text to "and point out that some of these theories have not been clearly and specifically condemned".
     
    As for your second paragraph:  Speaking truth does not make the speaker responsible for the way that people with foul motives might twist that truth to their own ends.  Else, John the Revelator has a whole lot to answer for.
     
     
    But isn't a policy that "black skin is a bar to priesthood ordination" also "disparaging"?
     
    You've been dancing around this question for a week now, Timpman, and this is now at least the third time I've posed it to you in this thread.  It's time you answered it openly, honestly, and unambiguously: 
     
    The 1848-1978 priesthood ban:  Divine injunction, or mortal usurpation? 
     
     
    In general, I would agree that some of the theories--especially as you've chosen to word them in this thread--are wrong and damaging.  On the other hand, you seem utterly unwilling to try to parse out the baby from the bathwater.  Nor have you seem particularly concerned in teasing out the nuanced differences between the theories as you describe them, and the theories as their proponents actually presented them. 
     
    If you want to force people to stop perpetuating a specific theory, it strikes me that the best way to do that is 1) accurately describe the theory, 2) find an on-point, authoritative statement that specifically and affirmatively debunks the theory; and 3) offer a systematic harmonization showing why any canonized scriptures previously used to support the theory can and should be re-interpreted.  But rather than engage in that sort of discussion, you have repeatedly sought to end discussion in this thread through repeated screams of "racism, racism!", as if gives us sufficient light and knowledge to resolve the issue at hand. 
     
    The net effect of all this smacks of a deliberate endeavor to create a doctrinal vacuum, which (in the absence of viable competing expositions) can then be filled with the declarant's own pet theories.  That places the declarant squarely within the same category as Orson Pratt, Brigham Young, John Taylor, Bruce McConkie, and any other individual who formulated, embraced, or perpetuated the competing theories you claim to abhor.  In our zeal to establish that the Church leaders have said things that are wrong, we are completely avoiding the issues of what they have said that is right or even merely possible. 
     
    As for "stumbling block to Church growth"--I can think of several others right off the top of my head that are probably bigger impediments:  Chastity.  Tithing.  Word of Wisdom.  Time-intensive church callings.  Temple recommends. Surely, none of those things ought to be changed in the name of boosting our membership rolls?
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    askandanswer reacted to The Folk Prophet in Decline a Calling / Calling Help...   
    I don't recall any scripture teaching anything about a stupor of thought concerning the accepting of callings from the Lord.
     
    Why would the Lord call you to a calling and then also give you a stupor of thought concerning it (even if the Lord did such things concerning callings). Or do you believe that you have stewardship over what callings members are called to that supersedes the one who has been chosen to have the stewardship over who has what callings?
     
     
     
    A) So what? Accept the calling anyway.
     
    B) Then get it. (But accept the calling first anyway).
     
     
    And yet I suspect you know full well that the Lord doesn't call people based on their prowess.
     
     
    And there, perhaps, is the reason you need to be in the calling.
     
     
    Relevant how? We only accept callings where everything is perfect and will go smoothly?
     
     
    Accept the calling.
     
     
    And yet you think advice from strangers on the internet will do you better?
     
     
    Yes you can. It's called Agency and you have it.
     
     
    Not exactly. But I have definitely accepted callings that I didn't want. And I have definitely served in callings that were unpleasant, etc.
     
    The outcome is that I have been and will be blessed, and by doing as the Lord has counselled us to do through His servants we will be saved through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
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    askandanswer got a reaction from David13 in Is Joining the Church Unlucky?   
    There are lots of possibilities here. Perhaps you were being protected from too much misfortune until the time that you joined the church, and now that you have greater faith than what you had before, you are less in need of that protection. Or perhaps because Satan was unsuccessful in preventing you from joining the church he is now focussing his efforts on getting you to leave by placing misfortunes in your path. Or perhaps now that you have joined the church you have fulfilled your main purpose in life and now have more important things to do elsewhere. Or perhaps it is entirely coincidental and random. 
     
    If I was a new member of the church, and the only member in my family, I would put all my efforts into a) preparing to go to the temple; b) preparing to receive the Melchizedek Priesthood; and c) doing as much family history as possible. As the only member in your family, you have a huge responsibility on your shoulders and there are generations of people who have died who are waiting for you to release them from bondage.
     
    I would like to hope that you will be preserved long enough to accomplish at least the first and second goals, and to have made a substantial start on the third.
     
    I'm sorry to hear about your medical issues. I pray that you will be accurately diagnosed and correctly treated, and be given strength to accomplish that which you most need to do. 
     
    Best wishes and I look forward to continuing to read your posts. 
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Finrock in Peter walking on the water   
    In Western Australia mining engineers who have no faith in God spend their whole working lives working on the moving of mountains, and to a large extent, succeeding. These mountains are moved, bit by bit, at a rate of more than 100,000 tonnes per day through the use of enormous trains that transport iron ore from Australia to China. I suspect that works is playing a much greater role than faith in this process, but I'm confident that if those engineers did not at least start with the faith that those mountains could be removed, then they would not have started out on the process. 
     
    I'm not sure if the Lord's will that something be done is one of the main things that enables faith to bring about a result. Sometimes, it might be sufficient, not so much that the Lord is agreeable to something being done, but simply that He is not opposed to the doing of that thing.
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    askandanswer got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Is Joining the Church Unlucky?   
    There are lots of possibilities here. Perhaps you were being protected from too much misfortune until the time that you joined the church, and now that you have greater faith than what you had before, you are less in need of that protection. Or perhaps because Satan was unsuccessful in preventing you from joining the church he is now focussing his efforts on getting you to leave by placing misfortunes in your path. Or perhaps now that you have joined the church you have fulfilled your main purpose in life and now have more important things to do elsewhere. Or perhaps it is entirely coincidental and random. 
     
    If I was a new member of the church, and the only member in my family, I would put all my efforts into a) preparing to go to the temple; b) preparing to receive the Melchizedek Priesthood; and c) doing as much family history as possible. As the only member in your family, you have a huge responsibility on your shoulders and there are generations of people who have died who are waiting for you to release them from bondage.
     
    I would like to hope that you will be preserved long enough to accomplish at least the first and second goals, and to have made a substantial start on the third.
     
    I'm sorry to hear about your medical issues. I pray that you will be accurately diagnosed and correctly treated, and be given strength to accomplish that which you most need to do. 
     
    Best wishes and I look forward to continuing to read your posts. 
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    askandanswer reacted to Traveler in Peter walking on the water   
    Some observations:  In religious culture whenever there are discussions about faith, repentance, ordinances, commandments and so on – in general it seems to me that most argue from the viewpoint and assumption that whatever the discussion is about that those arguing seem to put forth that they have enough and sufficient whatever to qualify themselves without having to change for whatever heaven they think G-d offers to mankind and it also appears that they think those that disagree with them somehow do not quite possess enough to be so favored of G-d and better soon change their thinking.  And if someone should call them out or suggest they broaden their thinking; that they seem to get rather “judgmental” and accusative.
     
    For the record – I have seriously tested my own faith.  I discovered long ago that I do not possess enough faith to walk on water – or any number of other things.  Some may have already in their hearts accused me of “tempting” G-d.  But for me I can only judge myself because I am the only person I know much about.  I know I do not have enough faith to qualify for the Celestial kingdom.  I know I do not have enough knowledge to qualify as well.  I also know I have not been so loyal to my covenants that I qualify.  I have long decided that my only option at that Day of Judgment is to humble myself and plead with all my heart for forgiveness and mercy – with every hope that my faith, knowledge, loyalty and whatever will be set aside and that G-d will just have mercy on me that I may stay with him in whatever capacity, even as the prodigal son.
     
    Often I see others argue as though their faith, knowledge or loyalty has already qualified them.  So I often ask questions to see what they have discovered for themselves that I have missed.  Often I discover that they do not have (especially knowledge) qualify any more than I do.  When I ask questions rather than consider what I have asked they become defensive and quote scripture and prophets thinking such will convince me they have the knowledge to believe they already qualify without any more considerations.    I try very hard to understand why they think such things but it would seem there is no way I can reconcile such thinking.
     
    I believe I have a Celestial chance at least I hope I do – and I believe I can serve in some capacity – But I have also learned I am not the presidential type.  I am not a very good in charge guy.  But for those of you that are – I make an excellent councilor and servant.  I have some skills you may find useful.  Keep me in mind and put in a good word for me – I will be forever grateful.
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    askandanswer reacted to Capitalist_Oinker in father's blessing   
    TFP is correct.
     
    A father's blessing is a priesthood ordinance, and as such it has to be invoked by the authority of the priesthood.
    The principle is laid out in "Duties and Blessings of the Priesthood: Basic Manual for Priesthood Holders, Part B".
     
    Speaking of the ordinance it reads:
    "...giving father's blessings do not need to be authorized by the presiding authority. A man is authorized to perform [this] ordinance if he holds the Melchizedek Priesthood and is worthy.
     
    In addition it reads:
    "Fathers and others who hold the Melchizedek Priesthood may give blessings of comfort and counsel. Fathers may give their children blessings on special occasions such as when the children enter military service or leave home to go to school or on missions. A family may record a father’s blessing in family records, but it is not preserved in Church records.
    To give a father's blessing or other blessings of comfort and counsel, one or more worthy Melchizedek Priesthood holders place their hands lightly on the person's head. Then the priesthood leader who gives the blessing:
    1. Calls the person by his or her full name.
    2. States that the blessing is performed by the authority of the Melchizedek Priesthood.
    3. Blesses the person as the Spirit directs.
    4. Closes in the name of Jesus Christ.
     
    Obviously he can do what he chooses, but as far as the ordinance being recognized by God and ratified by the Holy Spirit, the blessing would have no validity.