estowife

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  1. So I am born & raised LDS & continue to be active, married in the temple (still married though not happily) & raise a family in the gospel. I always felt that religion is not my thing, not remotely interested in it, don't enjoy it & If I wasn't born into it, certainly wouldn't go looking for it... So naturally to me the 2 hour church announcement is great news, sitting through 3 hours (or more) of church on a sunday has to be the worst 3 hours of my week! But I am curious.... every response I have seen on various social media platforms have all been similarly pleased, excited & celebratory, nobody is disappointed to be losing an hour of church. So I would like to know why everybody is so pleased, did people secretly hate 3 hours of church, was it just as horrendous for everybody else as it felt for me, just curious as to why everyone is high five-ing & celebrating etc, what are your reasons Thanks
  2. Thanks everybody for your comments, I actually came on here to take the post down, but thought I would just add a couple of things real quick as i don't have much time 1. I am a registered nurse, so qualification, education etc is taken care of ( I currently work part time) 2. It's not a power struggle as such, its just I totally disagree with most of the actions he takes, and so will not support him. I think 'unrighteous dominion' fits the situation 3. most of the time I am just back to square one of deciding to put up with him until it errupts again, things are ok at the minute, but it doesn't last long 4. counselling is not too readily available in England, & my know it all husband thinks he is an expert in everything, you get nowhere arguing with him cos he just regurgitates all the books he's read. i fear counselling will back up his ideologies & make me out to be the bad guy. 5. we spoke to the bishop a little over 6 months ago, his advice to my husband was to put the books down & listen to his wife more....he can't bring himself to do that - he knows best... I will just keep working with him .... I will probably take the post down in a couple of days Thank you x
  3. So I have been married for 21 years, and have had plenty of ups & downs during that time as all marriages do, but the last 3 years have been unbearable. We have 3 daughters aged 16, 14 & 10. My husband is impossible to live with. He is arrogant, unreasonable, controlling etc he has destroyed every relationship in this family, yet refuses to acknowledge he has any part in it. He refuses to consider the possibility that he needs to change or compromise, will not seek advice or help, just continues to steam roller over us all with his controlling nature. Naturally I am now at the point where I just cannot take any more. I want him out of my life & out of my childrens lives (obviously that's not going to happen). The problem is practical & financial. We live in a beautiful home with a significant mortgage! Serious separation & divorce would mean selling the house & trying to find something for me & the girls with what little we have left....Thats obviously a long process & way down the line...if we get to it. At the moment we are living under one roof & I have been telling myself for the last year that I will just put up with it....we have to live together & thats that. I thought I could carry on like that, but now I feel that I can't. I have asked him to leave before, but he won't, the other alternative is that me & the girls leave (a much harder job). Has anybody managed to carry on living with their spouse because there is no alternative, even though emotionally its over and all you want is them gone