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I believe technology allows for information to travel free and fast, something I didnt grow up with in the 1990's. My kids absolutely love eating at Mcdonalds (so do I), last month they came across a youtube video exposing Mcdonalds for the way they made their hamburger, it was sickening to watch. My kids got grossed out and no longer ask to go there. Knowledge truly is power and the more our kids learn of the corruptness and evil in this world through the internet they will learn how to pattern their decisions in the opposite direction, so yes I agree with your post.

ok so "the spirit is willing but the body is weak." I have heard that the addictions we develop here on earth will follow us to the afterlife, if our spirits are pure in the pre-mortal and then we inherent a sinful body temporarily here on earth wont the spirit be free from the sinful body at the time of mortal death and become pure again when it is on its own?

just thinking out loud here....sometimes its much easier to go with the grain then against. the first 6 years of my marriage i always came home from work to a dirty messy home because our little child was a tornado. If my wife cleaned up the toys it would be all messy again an hour later. my wife was not good at organizing which didnt help the situation. I overcame this problem by lowering my expectations and accepting the fact that as long as we have kids under the ages of 10 in our home, the home will always be messy. Our youngest is 5 so 5 more years im expecting a consistently messy home.

Thanks for caring and thinking about me

i dont think of myself as bipolar or depressed but i do use withdrawel as a solution to my relationship problems, it might not be healthy but its better then fighting and physically abusing my wife. when i go into withdrawel i am able to think and ponder and have time to reflect on the current/past and future problems, the gospel and love of jesus christ is what keeps me sane and bring me back into focused. without the gospel i would probably be depressed/suicidal or addicted to some kind of drug. i use the compatibility excuse all the time when me and wife get on the topic of divorce, it seems like the easy answer but in reality no two people are naturally 100% compatible its all about how much YOU WANT to be compatible one thing that i love about my wife is that she does not at all micromanage me. for example i am the only one with an income, she is a stay at home mom, she leaves all the financials to me,she doesnt care what money comes and goes as long as she is able to have a budget to grocery shop and maybe a little spending of her own she is very happy. I have a cousin whos wife is a stay at home mom too and she monitors their banking accounts online every day. every penny he spends she knows about. that is just to sufficating to me.

I canceled cable 7 years ago, i go on the internet daily for news, weather or sports information. we have netflix, i usually end up watching documentaries or stuff from hgtv and natgeo. my kids have a "kids" account on netflix and i never have to worry about them browsing inappropriate shows under that account.

Bless your heart yoyoteacher I like your enthusiasm. Personally if I was in your situtation I would go to the singles ward because you might meet some other cool singles, there might even be some prospects.

What role did other people close to you (spouse,sibling,parents etc..) play in your coming back to the LDS church?

maybe both of you should try hypnotherapy. its helping my wife cope with me, i do see a change in her which helps me change too. as much as we believe that our LDS church has all the answers we really dont. for example, the word of wisdom is an LDS guideline from God to living a healthy lifestyle allowing for the "destorying angel" to pass us by. However taking zumba classes twice a week and yoga every morning as well as following the Richard Simmons foodmover program and Dr. Oz's healthy lifestyle tips I have reached optimal health levels. another example is tithing, sometimes LDS members get stuck believing that all they have to do is pay tithing and the Lord will bless and prosper them financially....really! well a college education, business networking and good old fashion hard work will allow the blessings to happen. You are having relationship problems you should seek out relationship experts not religious leaders in your church. I would guess that you and your husband are not living in accordance with the teaching of our church because if you did you would have less problems that would be more manageable within your own capacity. Your bishop and his wife are probably living a lifestyle more in alignment with what the church demands and therefore it seems like he has a perfect marriage, if you and your husband cant commit to live the same way that your bishop is living then he cant solve your problems because he will suggest that you do what he is doing... - pray everynight - fast once a month - FHE once a week - fullfill your church callings - pay tithing the list goes on. good luck sis!

Thank you!

That is my suggestion too as they all speak english very well as opposed to a Thai or Russian bride. One thing you may need to accept is that philippine women will want to send some of your money home to help support their family's.

Good luck bro, you need to seperate the two, when you walk out that door put your business hat on, when you come home take it off. My father in law is a police detective and does just that, he is the most happiest funniest guy I know even though he deals with murder cases atleast once a week. The world needs people like you or else the world won't turn I commend you for persuing such a difficult profession.

oremonians have become immune to being offended :)

thank you so much, u guys are awesome, those are the best answers and I really needed the support.

if you want to have friends then don't offend them, plain and simple. when i was living in orem utah their best friends were their spouses or children so they offended the hell out of anyone and everyone else in church (visitors and members), its so much of a cultural norm in utah to offend that the people have become immune to it and no longer get offended when someone offends them. the church outside of utah has cultural differences according to that region of people so to offend or tell the truth will vary place to place but like what another poster said, just use common sense.

My wife had a witness of the spirit and its truthfulness and now is in total opposition of it, technically i feel that her actions and words cause her to "deny the spirit."

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I am 38yrs old (born n raised mormon) and have a strong testimony of the gospel and faith in HF/JC. - at 14 I had an internal knee injury (sports) in which I prayed and the pain dissapeared the next day. - at 18 I was comforted with a warm blanket of the holy ghost and felt its warmth and light through my whole body - at 19 in the mission field I had another warm blanket holy ghost feeling - at 26 in the hospital on the day of my childs birth i felt the holy ghost again - at 31 a few days after my grandfathers passing he visited me in a dream and simply said "you know what to do" dont live life looking for signs but live life and pay attention to the signs that are all around you.

Utah is one place where if you dont feel like you fit in then you need to leave. Like mrmarklin said, once you get into your career and start making some money the women will start to notice and relationships will be easier to start. There are a lot of beautiful available LDS women on dating websites. I got married at 26 but wished I waited till about 30. The first 10 years of our marriage we were in depth and couldnt enjoy vacations or other expensive things, now that I am making more money we do have a savings and spend a little more freely I just wished that it could have been like that from the begining of our relationship. I do envy you in that I wish I was your age again and I wish I was more career oriented like you are. I only have an associates degree and work in the labor field.

thanks twistedfairytales for the support.

Silhouette, your husband is mean and disrespectful to you and doesnt deserve to be in a relationship with any woman.

Silhouette, after hearing the behaviour of your husband, I have to admit (in much disgrace) that in some instances he sounds like an extreme version of me. If I can attempt to explain your husbands behaviour from my point of view just to give you some comfort I will try. I was raised in a good home but I never saw any outwardly love and affection from my father to my mother, thats just the type of man my father and grandfather was. subconsciously I guess I picked up on that and I have never felt comfortable showing love and affection toward my wife in public, maybe a kiss or hug here and there. Athough I pinpoint my lack of affection as a personality flaw, pornography can also be a source and in my case sporatic porn outbreaks helped to magnify it. your husband is a porn addict which is the extreme. The lack of affection is sort of a gateway to lacking in other areas like empathy or sympathy. When my wife encounters problems I am always telling her how she caused those problems upon herself. Im embarassed to say that my love for her is conditional, over the years I have been learning to get rid of those conditions and try to be more unconditional, its hard and its a process but I think that as far as I am willing to try then progress will and has been made, God/church/Jesus Christ/atonement all give me hope. Your husband is not trying and by leaving the church (any church for that matter) he has cut God out and I believe there is no hope. What this all boils down to is the level of respect that he has for you. He has none. I have found that over the years I have hit those bottom levels before and at that point my wife was not only "not important" to me but she was almost like an enemy. that is not healthy and extented periods of being in this state makes it harder to get out of and eventually leading to physical abuse and total disreguard of your existence like how you explained to us. I agree with you that you need to divorce and get away from him. Like I said earlier, your husband sounds like an extreme version of what I could have possibly become had I not subdued the natural human and carnal desires, which brings me back to my point that man/woman need some kind of moral compass and that it is usually found in organized religions.

Is a life without God a life without restrictions? curious what others have to say.

Hi Misshalfway, great insight and i particularly liked what you said in the above quote. I am going thru the same thing and it brings me comfort to hear those words you just said. But you are refering to the act of the wife going down the inactivity path alone and not the wife turning against the church causing strife in the home between spouses? just wondering because my wife is doing her best to steer my kids away from mormon doctrine and I dont believe that I should just stand by and be submissive.

id probably go rLDS, and not because they have polygamy but because its closest to LDS