Deborah Mofford

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    eastern US
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  1. Atheist for sure. Members of my family have been in various churches, and so far only the LDS Church actually feels right. My family's been members of the Methodist, Episcopalian, Baptist, Catholic, and a number of other churches. No offense to anyone, but I just never felt comfortable till I found the LDS. And that's even with my family all turning on me!
  2. Hi Guys, I'm new to the list and am an active LDS member. A few months ago my husband (a non-member) was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The average life expectancy is 6 months, though his great shape when he was diagnosed tends to make the doctors think he may be more in the 12-24 month range. I'll take whatever the good Lord gives us. I hope to be able to become a regular poster here, and also receive some spiritual support from fellow LDS who are caregivers going through a rough time. I'm from the eastern US and I look forward to a long and fun experience with the good folk on this forum!
  3. Hi Guys, I'm a member of the LDS Church, my husband is not. He was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer, and while I've been dealing with it pretty well, I'd love to just have a discussion here with other members who have gone through losing a spouse, in particular, but any relation is okay. What's particularly difficult for me is that we don't have children. His entire care is up to me, and it does get difficult to do all my chores, his chores, our chores, plus take care of his needs due to the illness, drive him to doctors' appointments, do all the shopping alone, and just well... watch him slowly deteriorate. The Relief Society has asked me if there's anything they can do, but the problem is what I need is just a 15 minute thing here and a 20 minute thing there, never consecutive, and we live in the boondocks, so it's not convenient to call on members for help. I do have a small staff of people I can talk to like the social worker at my husband's oncologist, my husband's palliative care doctor (who also works with spouses), and my BFF in the church. My husband's cancer is a form of lung cancer, even though he's never smoked a day in his life, and this form has no risk factors. It's called adenocarcinoma of the lung ALK positive. I'm still strong in the gospel, and I know what the future holds after death. But what is bothering me is watching my husband die, knowing that some day I'll have to die too, and wondering if I'll experience this much pain. Also, the time between his death and mine. What do I do? Of course the counselors tell me that there's no guarantee that he'll go first, I may die in a car accident tomorrow, there's no guarantees. I don't know, I'd just love to talk to other caregivers who are spouses and LDS, or as I said just family members and LDS. Hopefully that all made sense. Thanks in advance!