David13
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7 hours ago, LiterateParakeet said:
Just because we disagree does not mean I am the one who is wrong.
Well, it certainly does in this case if your agenda is that racism is wrong.
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23 minutes ago, LiterateParakeet said:
Just because you don't believe it doesn't change the facts that blacks are more likely to be pulled over, more likely to get sentenced, more likely to get higher bails etc. Those are facts.
Affirmative action is a good thing. It is necessary because of racism. It's a shame that we need a law to give minorities fair chance, but unfortunately we do...thats why it's there.
No, affirmative action is racism. Racism is a bad thing, not a good thing.
Let's get our agenda straight here.
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7 hours ago, LiterateParakeet said:
PC, it pains me to disagree with you. But on the other side of the fence what I see is that sometimes officers can be more likely to use lethal force with blacks because of their implicit bias (or in some cases blatant racism, but I don't think that is always the case.) The link I will share is a perfect example of what I think happens. The video is only 5 minutes long, well worth 5 minutes IMO...but here's the synopsis: a police officer follows a black man into a gas station. The black man, unaware apparently, steps out of his vehicle, and the officer asks him for his license etc. As the man is reaching into the vehicle to get it, the officer panics and shoots him.
The black guy on the ground can be heard saying, "Sir you told me to get my license, I was just getting my license."
Then you hear the police officer telling his side of the story...which leaves you shaking your head because it doesn't match what is seen on the video at all.Finally, some sort of expert explains that likely the officer was not lying, but really believed his version of the events....the problem the expert says is implicit bias. He mentions another case where he feels this happened...it was years ago (Malcolm Gladwell shares that story in detail in one of his books, and comes to the same conclusion...implicit bias.)
So here's the article with the video: http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2014/10/listen_sc_cop_who_shot_man_while_reaching_for_his_wallet_tells_his_side/
Studies have shown that people are quicker to shoot a black target than a white target:
More about implicit bias (relating to blacks being shot)
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/pdf/ps/racialbias.pdf
http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2015/08/study-shows-racial-bias-shootings
A lot of it has to do with technique.
When the cop asks you to get your license, in any case, black or white, you should say to the cop, calmly, well, my license is in there on the seat (in the glove box) I'll have to dig around in there to get it. Then let the cop say ok, or let him get it.
Particularly if you can tell the cop is antsy or agitated.
Instead of just doing it, tell them what you are going to do. Then let them approve or not.
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There was a case down in Florida a year or two ago. A ccw holder got out of his truck and the cop who had stopped him went absolutely beserk and shot him. Just from seeing the gun on his hip.
There was a great outcry from the ccw holders about how job incompetent the officer was.
Of all the people in the world who should not "freak out" when they see a gun, it's a cop. Just about everybody agreed the cop needs to get into some other field of employment.
The same is clearly true of I think it's the Minnesota case. After killing the driver the cop is still screaming like a banshee andwaving his gun around like a lunatic, with his finger on the trigger, pointing it at the girlfriend and the child.
Pure insanity and job gross negligence, far beyond incompetence.
If you don't think we believe 2nd Amendment rights apply to all then you need to find out who Colin Noir is.
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Emilyloo
I have been a divorce attorney for the last 38 years.
I never advised anyone to get a divorce and I wouldn't so advise you, either.
But there has been some good advice given here.
(And some off topic flak which is best ignored)
But I can tell you that many times filing for divorce caused a spouse to take actual notice of a problem, when they had not previously done so.
And I had quite a few after the divorce was final, and the dust settled, got back together, having finally realized that it was their best opportunity.
Sometimes it takes something to wake a spouse up, either an emotional outburst or some divorce papers.
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8 hours ago, anatess2 said:
Yes, there are options for you. Medication is one option. My husband and I both decided we won't go this route. My mother-in-law went this route for her psychosis and she's now like a zombie so my husband assured me we can get through it without meds. Went through ppd without meds too. We went with sheer force of will... and a lot of patience and understanding and study and research and monitoring triggers and preparing kids and... it can be quite exhausting...
By the way, this is relevant to the OP because emilyloo might have to go through this if her husband shows that his gaming addiction is a form of psychosis. It would be a good first step for the husband to acknowledge the problem and agree to a visit to a therapist. My husband's gaming wasn't a form of psychosis. It was just simply his choice of coping mechanism.
I can certainly sympathize with your experience, Anatess. And I agree, it's on topic. It's unfortunate that anyone would give you flak about it.
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8 hours ago, MormonGator said:
I don't care if you give me a quarter or not. Abusive behavior is abusive behavior. It's not cool with men, it's not cool with women. I've seen to many people use things like that as a crutch for violent behavior.
And you don't consider that bullying? And completely off topic? You need to take off your rose colored glasses.
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None of those cases have anything to do with the second amendment.
They have to do with issues with the police or those confronting or interfacing with the police.
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I don't know what part of 'basic manners' is making false accusations.
No one threw any mud at her.
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On 7/1/2016 at 5:19 AM, Edspringer said:
No, no need for paper!
I wish I could see a live session in Manti or SL temples one day.
I see you are in Brazil.
Perhaps someday you will have the opportunity.
I would recommend coming to Salt Lake to attend the conference. They will give you reserved front section tickets, and you can attend the Salt Lake Temple.
Manti, the only other place live sessions are available is 125 miles to the south.
So it's all possible for at least a one time trip.
I hope you do make it some day.
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3 hours ago, yjacket said:
Jayfaye,
I'm not passing judgement.
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When you get to the point that a look will shape them up, it isn't exhausting.
yjacket
I think you are 100% right here.
When I hear parents who say "my kids are the most important thing in my life" I cringe.
The most important thing for any parent is to be a parent, not a follower of the children. The children do not know how to lead the way.
I know a lady that has raised 4 good children, now adults and they knew what the "look" was when they were not doing what the mother demanded. They learned discipline, and most importantly, self discipline.
It sounds like you have learned how to do it right.
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I think there is another common problem out there today. Every parent in the world thinks their kid is "special". Smarter, more energetic, more clever, and better looking.
They aren't. And they shouldn't be raised that way. It's all that false pride that is promoted today.
Trying to raise children to think they are "special" ruins them. I think there is another thread here about that.
It's the link about the "GYPSYS" in another thread.
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2 hours ago, yjacket said:
It's because you're doing it wrong. Being a parent is actually quite easy and natural, but due to modern parenting dogma it has become a drain.
Modern parenting dogma, has children as the center of the family. Everything must be for them, ...
Proper parenting is not exhausting in the least bit, it is exhilarating!!
I certainly agree with you about that. We have today adults who cannot be adults, nor leaders nor teachers. And so the children are raised to be selfish monsters. Very common here in the Los Angeles area.
Again, the traditional way is the best way to go, where the children are children and the adults are adults.
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And we are confirmed or reaffirmed in our own faith in the Temple. The Temple is the great symbol of our membership in the church and a great symbol of our faith.
It also affirms that we are living righteously. It should be a goal for all members, and members should teach and prepare their children for the Temple.
There is a certain glorious aspect to attending the Temple that brings spirituality to anyone who attends.
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2 hours ago, Traveler said:
In a thread defining faith – I gave the opinion that faith in false principles is nothing more than superstition. I have a similar opinion about patriotism – that is patriotism without true principles of and devotion to the True and Living G-d is nothing more than an excuse for tyranny and treachery.
The Traveler
I like this. I like that you posted this. Because I am going to have to think about this more.
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49 minutes ago, Jane_Doe said:
David, that was uncalled for. Be nice.
My idea of 'being nice' is to give the best (for the op) advice possible, which is what I did.
End the relationship now, as that is the best thing for you, Coll79.
I guess some others here think being nice means encouraging someone to do that which is not right (for them).
I disagree.
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You're not alone.
I have been refused by the missionaries also, and the Bishop was out of town and the others were all busy or something, and I was leaving town the next day, but I was only suffering from stage 4 cancer, so the missionaries finally got permission from the Mission President and did give me a blessing.
But that's just the way it is sometimes.
Other times they go out of their way to get me, even if I'm not interested or in need of it at the time.
I guess it's like hunting and fishing, and major activity periods. Sometimes the spirit is active or not amongst the people.
Just go back to the basics and wait til the time is right.
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6 minutes ago, LeSellers said:
Well, that may not be accurate. She said:
Seems they know each other more than they ought to.
Lehi
Those are future tense statements, Lee, not past tense.
34 minutes ago, Jane_Doe said:David, that was uncalled for. Be nice.
Truth hurts the worst, but that doesn't mean it's not truth.
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You are in Missouri. He is in Maine.
You get along wonderfully.
Yes! Because you never see each other and have no idea who each of you are.
This isn't a 'relationship'. It's a distant acquaintance.
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Find a new boyfriend closer to home, of the non denominational persuasion who doesn't attend church.
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I can't get any more spiritual than that.
I'm a man and I have no kids.
It's unfortunate that you are in this situation.
I think finding his reasons and then trying to compromise is the best course. Maybe settle on 3.
As a child we were 3, one brother and one sister. But we did, i think, miss a lot or group fun or whatever it was that we saw the big group families doing.
I think your husband might think of the kids. Only two results in a somewhat lonely childhood. 4 or more certainly will give them a lot more close relations which will, if in a good loving home, benefit them.
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I look at all LDS women and think ... "she would be a good wife".
However, that does not mean "she would be a good wife ... FOR ME."
They are good wives for their LDS husbands.
Don't over interpret any perceived message.
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I look at all LDS women and think ... "she would be a good wife".
However, that does not mean "she would be a good wife ... FOR ME."
They are good wives for their LDS husbands.
Don't over interpret any perceived message.
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How do you feel forgiven?
in LDS Gospel Discussion
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This is the second time today I saw a reference to askgramps. I had known about them, but didn't read, til now.
I think they are helpful.
I think the original question was when do you "feel" clean, and perhaps also feel forgiven.
The hardest part is forgiving yourself.
I think we look for that feeling of release that we get when we forgive someone else. It doesn't necessarily feel good, but it not longer feels bad, when we truly forgive someone else.
But the most helpful I think is, when the change of heart comes.
Then we feel forgiven and clean.
The change of heart can only come some time after we have followed all the steps toward forgiveness.
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