Floridagal

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    Floridagal reacted to Laniston in Church releases picture of seer-stone   
    You just reminded me of the brazen serpent Moses was commanded to put on a staff to cure Israelites bitten by fiery serpents. How looking at a brass serpent would counteract venom in the bloodstream is a mystery, but certainly those who merely looked at it did live.  Another object, not particularly notable in and of itself, producing a miraculous result when combined with faith in God (faith for me is hearing the word of God and doing it ie hope+obedience/action).
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    Floridagal reacted to yjacket in Hi, new & need perspective   
    I've said it before , but why are you owning his problem; it is his problem-he has to be the one to solve it-not you. Yes it does affect you-but you cannot solve his problem. You must be his wife, rather than his mother. Unless there is something you aren't saying, I do not believe divorce is justified in this case. Marriage can be extremely difficult, especially when the marriage couple are not husband and wife.  You are not being his wife and his is not being your husband-if you want your marriage to work-then you must be his wife (and he must be your husband). 
     
     
    I will probably catch flak for this; but I believe ADHD is a bunch of modern age psycho-babble that "Parenting" magazine, CNN, etc. and all the rest of the county is brainwashed into believing.  It is a bunch of junk. I have a little boy who I guarantee would be labeled as ADHD-but I won't test him b/c I don't care about a label. What he lacks is discipline and that is what my job as a parent is-to raise a future adult and to be an adult requires discipline.  How to cure ADHD-pick the battles worth fighting. Do I care if my son runs around crazy-no go outside and play, climb a tree knock yourself out. Will he get disciplined for being destructive and mean-yes, disciplined for not completing assignments-yes. Will he disciplined for not doing what he is told-yes. 
     
    By the time a child is 13-if you have not instilled in them a sense of strong obedience to authority figures (namely mom and dad) - good luck b/c you are certainly going to need it. At 13 the time to learn obedience is over and the time to be mentored starts.  If she is having obedience problems at 13- by 16-17 she'll be having sex, drugs, etc.
      Due to the nature of some of the sites he visited, I thought he might be meeting other women. He assured me he wasn't, that I was always the only woman for him, and if I ever doubted, I should just look on out Find My iPhone app to see where he is. Tonight, for the second week in a row, when he is supposed to be at his ARP meeting, he is disconnected from the app.
     
    Umm, is he visiting Ashley Madison or something? If so, well the cat is out of the bag.
     
    If you read nothing else, please see my final questions and comments.  Over the past 13 years, since you've had kids-who has taken a bigger role and precedence in your life? Has it been your children or your husband? I bet that you've been sucked into what has been called the "Good mommy club" that a wife's primary role is her children and that during a significant portion of the last 13 years you have paid more attention, done more for your children than your husband; that from his perspective he probably feels ignored and pushed aside as simply an appendage. That in parenting with your children, they have driven a wedge between you and your husband-that you defend them from him and they are able to play you and him against each other.
     
    If you want to save your marriage-be a wife first, mother second. Allow your husband to be a husband 1st and father 2nd. If you want to know how to be a wife . . . well go to the scriptures.
     
    But that's my 2 cents.
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Windseeker in The LDS church is planning to build a small city in florida   
    This isn't terribly far from where we live. (we are right between tampa and orlando in the woods).
    I hate seeing what has been done to Florida-once I could drive down hwy 50 and see nothing between clermont and orlando but orange groves and pastureland. Now there is absolutely NO break between clermont and orlando and the groves and pastures are gone. And yes, I hate Disney and Universal for what they have turned FL into.
    Now because of developers the area and surroudning towns where I live has been or is in the process of being rezoned NON agricultural. Understand that this used to be the green bean capital of the world out here-more peppers and peas and cuckes and melons came out of this area and shipped out of the packing houses on trains into the early 90's. No longer since developers moved in.
     
    Now, my family on my dad's side have been farmers and ranchers since before FL was a state-and now the lands out here are being bought up because the farmers and ranchers can no longer afford the taxes because everything was re calssified non agricultural...and subsequently there is more housing developments. THere is a big housing boom going on here now...really big, and very few can afford to farm.
    That being said-if this boom has to happen I at least am glad the Church will be a strong presence. I am holding on to the hope that the Church will continue the ranching and groves and such and treat the land and aquifer with respect as they build the city that is planned.
    I guess I just liked the old swampy and woodsy Florida best. :)
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    Floridagal reacted to Windseeker in The LDS church is planning to build a small city in florida   
    Here an article on it. - http://www.tampabay.com/news/business/corporate/st-joe-co-selling-382834-acres-in-northwest-florida/2151305
     
    I think they will be good stewards.
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Windseeker in The LDS church is planning to build a small city in florida   
    This isn't terribly far from where we live. (we are right between tampa and orlando in the woods).
    I hate seeing what has been done to Florida-once I could drive down hwy 50 and see nothing between clermont and orlando but orange groves and pastureland. Now there is absolutely NO break between clermont and orlando and the groves and pastures are gone. And yes, I hate Disney and Universal for what they have turned FL into.
    Now because of developers the area and surroudning towns where I live has been or is in the process of being rezoned NON agricultural. Understand that this used to be the green bean capital of the world out here-more peppers and peas and cuckes and melons came out of this area and shipped out of the packing houses on trains into the early 90's. No longer since developers moved in.
     
    Now, my family on my dad's side have been farmers and ranchers since before FL was a state-and now the lands out here are being bought up because the farmers and ranchers can no longer afford the taxes because everything was re calssified non agricultural...and subsequently there is more housing developments. THere is a big housing boom going on here now...really big, and very few can afford to farm.
    That being said-if this boom has to happen I at least am glad the Church will be a strong presence. I am holding on to the hope that the Church will continue the ranching and groves and such and treat the land and aquifer with respect as they build the city that is planned.
    I guess I just liked the old swampy and woodsy Florida best. :)
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    Floridagal got a reaction from MormonGator in Converts only please.   
    Absolutely. And before this I was all about feeling free and unhinged by any religion. (I have studied religion just about my whole life) yet now...it's exactly as you say. I am happiest now since joining the church than on my worst day-than my happiest back then. Overall I find it ironic that I feel more free now by being in the church.
    Great stuff. :)
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    Floridagal got a reaction from MormonGator in Converts only please.   
    Absolutely. And before this I was all about feeling free and unhinged by any religion. (I have studied religion just about my whole life) yet now...it's exactly as you say. I am happiest now since joining the church than on my worst day-than my happiest back then. Overall I find it ironic that I feel more free now by being in the church.
    Great stuff. :)
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    Floridagal reacted to MormonGator in Converts only please.   
    So true. It's something only converts can describe (no, I am NOT insulting lifelong members, but if you've never been out of the church, you may not know how it feels). 
    "I once was lost, but now I see" 
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    Floridagal got a reaction from MormonGator in Converts only please.   
    Absolutely. And before this I was all about feeling free and unhinged by any religion. (I have studied religion just about my whole life) yet now...it's exactly as you say. I am happiest now since joining the church than on my worst day-than my happiest back then. Overall I find it ironic that I feel more free now by being in the church.
    Great stuff. :)
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    Floridagal reacted to Traveler in Just a matter of time - plural marriage challenge   
    Hmmmmm the legalizing of plural marriage could be a windfall for the church and those members with ancestors dating back to the Missouri and Nauvoo periods   (perhaps even pre 1890 Utah) that lost property under the extermination order and property that was confiscated by state and federal governments because of polygamy.  It would be better documented and more recent than current reputations being sought for by certain other "minorities" for loss of civil rights.
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    Floridagal got a reaction from NightSG in Grandma baptized without permission   
    First thing I did when I got baptised was start importing my already existing Ancestry account to familysearch and start preparing to start doing the Temple work for my family. I was really very happy to think about havin my son do my grandfather's work. My grandfather passed less than 15 years ago at the time and my son actually shares his birthdate. I quickly found out someone else did the work-and should not have as there are no relatives that anyone knows of who are in the church, (other than myself and husband and children). A recent convert cousin of mine found the same thing with HIS grandfather-same person who won't respond to emails.
    Ironically, on my mother's paternal side-the one with many LDS relatives in Utah and Iowa-there's a lot of Temple work left to be done!
    It was a little painful, so yeah the same thing has happened here.
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    Floridagal reacted to MormonGator in Why do you think LDS doctrine is "cool"?   
    I have some strong feelings about this. 
     
    Being LDS is counter culture. Like Thomas Monson said, many years ago our morals were the same as mainstream American culture. Not so today. The dominating view of society is a secularized view of morality and lifestyle. If you want to buck the trend and be "cool" you have to not do what mainstream society does. Therefore, actually having morals and behavior codes becomes counter culture and cool. 
     
    The annoying hipster elite thinks it's cutting edge and anti establishment but in reality they are as counter culture as a pair of Croc sandals and Justin Beiber music.

    Really being cool means having the ability to think for yourself and not listen to pop culture. 
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Backroads in How do you stay-at-home moms do it?   
    I've been a stay at home mom to my 6 well...forever, haha! Seriously-we have 6 ages 21(and newly married) 19, 17,15,7 and 2. The biggest thing I have learned is that the dishes will keep, and childhood is a short season. Go easy on yourself and have fun. Yes, housework needs to get done but it can be made fun with little ones. It really can. :)
     
    I'd also say to get the little one involved in some (age appropriate) crafts that require some time to do-clay, sewing, loom crafting. Keeps the hands and mind busy. I have been known as the craft mom for years-when things get nuts out comes the clay and glitter and glue, etc.
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    Floridagal reacted to rameumptom in Early Pioneer historical fiction or non fiction?   
    The journals/writings of some of the early Church members is a good source.
     
    http://www.boap.org/LDS/Early-Saints/
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Windseeker in The God Who Weeps   
    Resurrecting this thread but I am about half way through this book and just have to say so far it is stunning and just what I needed to confirm so much of what I am thinking and feeling.
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    Floridagal reacted to Latter-Day Marriage in Fiance cheated   
    If somebody copies test answers off another student they are cheating, if they deal from the bottom of the deck they are cheating, if they replace regulation footballs with under-inflated ones they are cheating.  Cheating means to seek advantage by breaking rules.  Relationships have rules and breaking those rules is cheating and it certainly fits into what happened here.  I didn't call it adultery because it wasn't that kind of cheating, but it was cheating.
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    Floridagal reacted to Latter-Day Marriage in Fiance cheated   
    When you get engaged, even if you are just boyfriend/girlfriend, the relationship has boundaries and obligations to be loyal to those limits. Not being married just means a different set of boundaries and an easier time ending the relationship.   He did betray her, he was disloyal and it was cheating.  The outward act was not the same as having sex with somebody else, but in terms of what was in his heart there is very little that is different.  Cheating is what happens in the heart far, far more than what happens with the body.
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    Floridagal reacted to Bini in Fiance cheated   
    I disagree.
     
    Married in the temple, not married in the temple but are a couple, or unmarried but are an exclusive couple - if one partner engages in romantic kissing, sex, or otherwise activity that should be reserved for your significant other - is cheating, that's my opinion on it.
     
    OP should be very careful and proceed with open eyes, whatever she chooses to do.
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    Floridagal reacted to Vort in Fiance cheated   
    To be clear: The fiance did not "cheat on" his fiancee, because they have no formal covenant. And he did not commit adultery; a kiss is a long way from sex.
     
    That said, I agree with the general tenor of the comments. If you were my daughter, I would plead with you to break off the engagement.
     
    Of course, what we know of the situation is only what you have told us. We have no other context in which to view these actions, or even to know how accurate your description is. So take everyone's advice here with a large grain of salt.
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    Floridagal reacted to EarlJibbs in Fiance cheated   
    This isn't the movies. The woman at work was married with 5 kids. That doesn't sound normal at all. He isn't just a cheater, he is a covenant breaker. Add that with the fact that it was on a few different occasions? If he did this under whatever pre-marital stress he was under, what is he going to do with actual marital stress? 
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Backroads in Fiance cheated   
    Another voice to the chorus saying to go with your gut and give this time, his actions aren't just cold feet or 'normal'.
    That being said I don't believe 'once a cheater always a cheater'-but honestly there needs to be such a level of transparency and openess that needs to happen in order to regain trust. Is this happening? Any 'questionable' moments" that he can't explain?  Any hiding of the cell phone or anything? That's not transparency, and that is a major red flag.
     
    Anyway, yeah, listen to your Bishop and good luck.
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    Floridagal reacted to Windseeker in The God Who Weeps   
    I really enjoyed the audio book and sometimes listen to it while long-boarding. I highlights that truth, that all of us born to this earth, no matter during what age or what culture, have an inboard compass or instinct that gently point us to the truth if we will but listen. These truths we attain have as much to do with remembering as discovering. 
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    Floridagal got a reaction from Backroads in Fiance cheated   
    Another voice to the chorus saying to go with your gut and give this time, his actions aren't just cold feet or 'normal'.
    That being said I don't believe 'once a cheater always a cheater'-but honestly there needs to be such a level of transparency and openess that needs to happen in order to regain trust. Is this happening? Any 'questionable' moments" that he can't explain?  Any hiding of the cell phone or anything? That's not transparency, and that is a major red flag.
     
    Anyway, yeah, listen to your Bishop and good luck.
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    Floridagal reacted to Bini in Fiance cheated   
    I concur with others, these are red flags, and I'd strongly suggest against marriage to him.
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    Floridagal reacted to David13 in Fiance cheated   
    Well.  Good advice.
    He's losing feelings.  He doesn't know if he loves you.  He's getting involved with a married woman.  He's fighting with you.
    He's crying and emotional and depressed.
    Doesn't sound normal to me.
    dc