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  1. Ironhold

    Commercial Racism

    MBA here. The employee in question is a lawsuit waiting to happen. It's cheaper to fire an employee with a documented history of racist behavior than to handle the lawsuits caused by their actions. You'd actually be doing corporate a favor.
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    Depression - What are we to do?

    An extreme failure to process social cues can be a sign of various issues, everything from "on the autism spectrum" to "raised in an environment where they never got to properly socialize with others". If she has both going for her, then it's going to be extra hard.
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    Depression - What are we to do?

    During one of his many reflections on his time in the military, comic book industry figure Richard C. Meyer made the following observation: "It's not the bad soldiers you really need to worry about; it's the good soldiers who start sliding into being bad soldiers". What he learned from hard experience is that if these good soldiers start to come apart, it's a sign that their personal life is coming apart and that it's robbing them of the energy and focus they used to put into doing their job. Simply punishing them as if they were bad soldiers would only make matters worse, as it'd add to whatever the issue is. Rather, the better course of action was to sit down with them, have a talk, and find what the root cause of the issue was. That allows for a better determination of what's going on. For example, many business owners try to take advantage of younger soldiers by tricking them into bad contracts, usurious interest rates, and the like. If a soldier is distracted by their financial woes, they're not going to be at their best. This may require a talk with an on-base attorney or a financial counselor to sort out. Yes, some military bases actually do keep record of companies that mess over their soldiers and spread the word to avoid them. In the situation you're talking about, something has led to her feeling that she's worthless, which is leading her to slide into apathy and generally not taking care of herself, which is leading to the social outcast status that's reinforcing her feelings of worthlessness. Her desperate efforts to get attention suggest that she's being starved for attention she should be getting elsewhere, such as from her family or her local social circle. She's down low, wants someone to acknowledge the good in her, and that's not happening. What she likely needs is a friend, someone who she can talk with and who can gently inspire her to be a better person. Telling her to "just get over herself" is simply going to send the message that she's at fault for every little thing that's going wrong with her life, even if it's something she has no control over, like emotionally distant family or bullying from peers.
  4. 04.16.21&utm_term=Editorial - Military - Early Bird Brief The reports that Russia may have placed a bounty on US soldiers in Afghanistan may have been incorrect, and that this may yet again be a failure on the part of the intelligence community. So... oops?
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    Child support/ temple recommend

    If memory serves, church policy does indeed require that people be current on child support. So yes, bring this up to your bishop if you can prove it.
  6. As I've noted before, at the time I turned 18 there were some serious issues going on with my family to where my attempting to go on a formal mission would have been a hardship on my parents. Instead, I spent the next decade getting laid into by local and stake priesthood leaders and even largely shunned by many local members. This is because at the time, the mantra was "all young men must serve missions, and all young women are to only date returned missionaries". I was in defiance of this mantra, and so there were consequences. When I was in high school, most leaders were of the opinion that outside of e-mail and the barely-functional church website, the internet was literally nothing but porn. What they didn't understand was that this kind of mentality was keeping members off of the internet at a time when members online were few and far between. As such, those of us who were online were often the only member on any given internet forum. 20 - 1 odds in a "discussion" were depressingly normal, and this made critics of the church so brazen in displaying their overt hatred that "getting your first death threat" was a rite of passage. Talking to hundreds of people at once from all over the world? Being the personal bogeyman of an entire counter-cult ministry? Getting a writer for an alt-media platform to knuckle under with a single carefully-worded e-mail showing at length how badly out of date his research was? Didn't mean anything to the folks who thought that a mission involved a name tag and a bike. Then once the Bloggernacle somehow just "magically appeared out of thin air", suddenly the internet was a glorious place to be and a ready tool for missionary work. Forgotten were the people like myself who drew the lines in the sand and built the defensive fortifications that allowed it to thrive in the first place. Folks, you don't need a name tag to go on a mission. You being a member of the church means you're on a mission, and that mission is to be out there in the world as best as you can be. And even if it looks like you're not having any success, you could be laying the groundwork for more than you'll ever know.
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    Non-Traditional "Missions"

    Once upon a time, talking about the church on the internet was "scalp or be scalped". I have the wall full of scalps to prove it. So whenever I hear some young buck or some of these former leaders talk about how fun and happy their mission was and how they love such-and-such platform because it lets them chat with family and friends, a part of me wants to say "You're welcome" because I know they don't understand what had to happen to make it so that they could do what they're doing online. And I've just heard a few too many people going on about their missions lately... edit - Yes, at one point I had been singled out by a counter-cult ministry because I embarrassed their leader. I successfully blew a hole in one of his conspiracy theories, and so that made me a priority for harassment and mockery. This was not the first time I'd been singled out by semi-prominent members of the Christian counter-cult or other such groups, hence the death threats. It wasn't a fun time, but it had to be done.
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    Non-Traditional "Missions"

    I *specifically* referred to the local and stake leadership in my area. Most of them were horrifically narrow-minded and old-fashioned, to the point that during one stake priesthood conference a speaker even advocated that parents remove the doors from their kids' bedrooms so that the kids couldn't hide anything from their parents.
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    mass shootings

    I've been researching mass shooting incidents in the US for decades now. What I keep finding is that in the vast majority of cases, not only was the shooter mentally ill, there were warning signs that were ignored. Bell Tower Sniper? He himself wrote in his journal that something was wrong with him, but he refused to get help. Turns out he had a massive brain tumor. "I Don't Like Mondays"? She was disturbed and possibly on illegal drugs. No one noticed. Columbine? The kids were being treated by a mental health expert who prescribed them medication that was *not* approved for use in minors due to... risk of psychotic episodes. Couple this with the parents not paying attention even as the kids were building *bombs* at home, and the inevitable happened. And so on, and so on, and so on. There was a warning sign at some point, but it got ignored. The guy here in Texas who shot up a church to get back at his ex-wife? He was dishonorably discharged from the military for domestic violence. The military was supposed to have reported this to the FBI, but they never did and so his name never went on the official registry; this is why he was able to get the weapon he got. It's as much about people not acting on what was right in front of them as it is about the weapons themselves.
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    So... Easter

    For those who don't know, I'm the entertainment writer for a series of local newspapers. I do two columns a week, an op/ed and a movie review (et al). When it comes to certain major holidays, I try to find ways to mark them. In the case of Easter, I try to have both a column marking the day and a review of a faith-based movie (even if it's an older one). For the latter, I've got that sorted. Mom wanted to watch "The Cokeville Miracle" some time back, so done and done. But for the former... 2020 nearly destroyed me for how I had to parent my parents through the crisis as well as helping pretty much the entire town out. 2021 isn't much better, with a lot of personal issues hitting me as well as the disaster here in Texas. As much as I want to be grateful for what I do have and what I've been able to make it to, I'm just so badly drained from a solid year of drama that I'm having trouble putting thought to paper. Anyone else not entirely feeling the Easter spirit this year?
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    Current Event - Stairs strike back

    For the record, when I was younger I had a hard time convincing my parents that the odd pains I was feeling, especially in my back, were more than just the normal "growing pains". By the time I was an adult and able to get enough money together to go see a doctor, the "odd pains" had turned into scoliosis so bad that it had led to my hips and legs being warped to compensate. In addition to being in near-constant pain (it'd take multiple rounds of surgery and months of therapy to correct, as one leg is actually longer than the other), I also have a bit of trouble with steps and can potentially stumble if I'm not holding onto a railing or something similar. So I can understand Trump going for the railing or asking for a bit of help getting up and down if he's likewise got back or knee issues. But for Biden to just stumble like that, even when attempting to grab the railing, raises very unfortunate questions about his ability to move.
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    Current Event - Stairs strike back Within mere days of being appointed, Biden's new Secretary of Housing and Urban Development may have violated the Hatch Act.
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    Chesterton's Fence

    The newspaper I write for is rather short-handed even on a good day, so two nights a week I do deliveries in order to help pick up the slack. I often have a parent or someone else riding shotgun with me, both to teach them my route and because being together in a car for a few hours is a chance to talk in private. There have been more than a few instances where someone insisted on asking why I made this stop before that stop, why I used the route I used, and so on. "I did a major re-adjustment of my route so that I could factor in delivering newspapers to the schools during the school year. There are three schools along this seemingly indirect route between A and B, and it has the advantage of helping me avoid what is often a busy intersection." "Traffic flow at this particular intersection is such that I do multiple right turns in a row when servicing this neighborhood and simply loop around rather than attempting to turn left." "Deer live along this road, which is why I usually go below the speed limit when I take it." "I typically park *here* when servicing that business over there because the space most directly in front of it is a loading zone that is sometimes in use." "Even though the customer wants their paper in a specific slot on their mailbox, the shoulder of this road is crumbling into the drainage ditch and so it's not safe to actually pull up right next to it." Things like that. Usually, after a night or two of riding with me, they understand why I do what I do.
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    Chesterton's Fence The Wikipedia article on this type of road shows a stretch of FM 218, which serves the city of Hamilton. Hamilton is northwest of me, and you pass through it on the way to Stephenville, home of Tarleton State University and the Hard 8 Barbecue.
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    Chesterton's Fence

    I was born in Utah, but since my dad was in the military I wound up in Texas.
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    Chesterton's Fence

    Had something similar happen. Here in Texas, you'll see "Farm To Market" or FM roads. These roads were created to serve as main roads for farmers looking to bring their crops to a larger city for sale. Despite their status as main roads, however, they're often quite narrow (one lane each way, plus turn lane), and there are frequently an eclectic mix of businesses, convenience stores, churches, and even private residences just off the road. Even though the city I live in is the largest in the county, the county seat is actually 25 miles to the north. The road that connects the two towns is an FM, and for much of its distance it's on the narrow side. Not only that, there are a lot of hills. This alone makes being called for jury duty at the county courthouse unpleasant, as it's not an easy drive either way. I'd been dismissed from the jury pool (they usually call 4X as many people as they need, then wind up dismissing most of them), and was on my way home when I realized that a bit up ahead of me was a semi truck with a large cargo of gravel in an open and uncovered gravel trailer. This is often a recipe for disaster because of how easily gravel can be blown out of the trailer at highway speeds, so I slowed down enough to put about two truck lengths' distance between us. Some yahoo in a newer, more powerful car couldn't see the semi because we were going up and down a series of small rises, and so used the center turn lane to illegally shoot around me. This put their vehicle right between mine and the semi. Oops...
  17. Many critics of the church argue that we don't count as "Christian" because we don't have crosses on display everywhere. But when I ask if the open display of a cross automatically makes a person "Christian", they always either waffle or become deeply offended. There's a department store here in the town I live in where 1 - 3 times a year you can literally get crosses and other religious symbols out of one of their vending machines. Drop in your $0.50, turn the crank, get the plastic bubble that comes out, pop it open, and you have a cross or Virgin Mary icon. It's meant to appeal to kids who are religious, but since it's a regular old vending machine it doesn't ask what your faith tradition is before you drop your money in. It just takes your money and dispenses product like it's supposed to... unless it's jammed up or broken or something. I often have to use this as a metaphor to remind people that all too often, the louder someone is about how much they "love" Jesus, the more likely they are to be the kind of person Jesus would have to dress down. Whether it's the people who presume that they're the "correct" kind of Christian just because of the church they go to or the people who use their professions to hide their sins, it's not enough to go off of the symbols and trinkets. You have to go off of how they live their lives and what they do in the community.
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    New Wine

    Even today, so many people think sacrament = wine that they can't grasp anything else. I've even seen critics of the church openly mock the use of anything but wine and adopt an attitude of "so what if someone's a recovering alcoholic?" over the matter. These people have, on numerous occasions, explicitly told me that they'd rather go without communion than use anything other than the "proper" elements.* Joseph had already been told that the items used in sacrament aren't quite as important as the spirit and intent behind it. Now he's being told that wine should not be used unless he can ensure who and what made it. This is him slowly being brought away from using it altogether. *I've heard numerous accounts of members who are in the military having to use whatever's available for sacrament on Sunday, both because of how few of us there are in the US military and because of how long it took for the military to even recognize the need for us to have our own religious services. This includes instances where people didn't even have actual bread available to them and so had to use things like potato peels or the crackers out of their rations to have sacrament with.
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    Basically, the state energy authority never expected a blizzard of this magnitude going for this long, and so didn't take the proper precautions to ensure that the mechanisms to keep the wind turbines and natural gas systems going were actually in place and functional. Because of this, when we needed those mechanisms the most they weren't working. Cue blackouts over much of the state. The governor is furious, and is demanding an investigation.
  20. A large word-of-mouth campaign on the internet has led to surges in the stock prices of retail chain GameStop and several other companies who are so financially troubled that many investment firms had been betting against them. These firms are now losing billions of dollars because of this, and so things are getting crazy fast.
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    Are we losing our rising generation?

    In my experience, a key part of that is teachers and local leaders being slow to respond to changes in society and culture. There are a number of additional challenges out there today that often aren't being addressed, in large part because too many adults don't even know these problems even exist. or if they do know, they don't fully understand them.
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    Stock Market Explodes Over Stock Surges

    A few days ago there was a report that the wife of Melvin's CEO had divorced him, possibly as a result of the impending demise of the company.
  23. In the United States, breaching the Emergency Alert System is a federal offense, and is taken so seriously by the FCC that there *will* be federal officials after whoever did it. The legal consequences can and will include time in federal prison.
  24. BaoFeng products have a very bad reputation among the Emergency Alert System community because of several incidents in which people have used BaoFeng-manufactured products to hack into their local emergency alert communications network. There was actually an incident from a few months ago where a 14-year-old used one to shout out his friends during the middle of an alert, and literally did not know that what he did was a crime. It wasn't until after the video he put online got a deluge of comments telling him he needed to confess to his parents so they could find a lawyer that he realized he'd done something very, very wrong and was now in danger of life-altering consequences.
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    Stock Market Explodes Over Stock Surges

    RobinHood was actually caught selling peoples' shares without their permission, so now they're facing both a class-action lawsuit and a Congressional investigation. This is all a part of a larger effort to prevent more people from buying shares, leaving the hedge funds to try and force the prices back down.