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I served as the scoutmaster of my local troop until last January. I had knee replacement surgery and I could no longer kneel to build a fire or even drive tent stakes. I now still serve on the scout committee. I am also the male committee person for the older single adults in my ward. I made my needs and interests known to the relief society and the ward at large as a speaker for older single adults in a presentation last March. Nothing happened, so I have explored those avenues of finding a good LDS wife in my ward and stake. Being divorced from a childress marriage, I have absolutely no skills in dealing with nursery age children. Emotionally, I am better equipped to deal with with feral animals and snakes rather than a human infant.

On a March, Saturday night a few months back, I was at Penn's Peak, located in the Pocono Mountains of eastern Pennsylvania, in the snowstorm with friends for a concert by a Bruce Springstein cover band. The music was great. They played for two and one half hours straight! It was such a great experience! The hall was less than 25% full due to weather, so it was like a private concert with about 300 of your best music loving friends. All my close friends that night were married or were with their significant other. Sadly I had to sit there alone. The one thing that would have made it a perfect night would have been someone like you to dance with to all that good music. The snow was still falling when we left. I did not make it home until after 2 AM. The ride home was so cold even with the heated seats; I wished I had someone to cuddle as I sat in the back seat alone. All my friends and I still made it to church on Sunday. We are a hearty lot when it comes to partying but also devoted when it comes to God. After a certain "age," our society just assumes you are married or you have a significant other for just about everything from dinner or the theater. I find it so annoying to go alone to even a respectable dinner, and they assume that. The wait staff asks, “Will your partner be joining you soon?” or simply, “Table for two?” When you admit it is just yourself, they attempt to sit you at the bar or counter service, when there are plenty of perfectly good open tables available. They make you feel like social pariah because they label you the outcaste, loner in a “couples standardized world. Even your friends want to socially heal you, each time they want to “fix up you with…” We are not societies broken people. We are just alone!

Presently, I live in eastern Pennsylvania with no immediate desire to move west. There are few single women in the 50 plus age group available in my stake. To clarify my intentions for service, currently I am proudly serving as my Bishop's Secretary. I do not wish a calling as a Bishop however there are other callings where I am excluded due to my lack of spouse. I am seriously seeking a good LDS woman for a wife. Where can I find support in finding a compatible woman?

Greetings: I am a relatively new convert, April 2011. Last May on my birthday, I turned 65. Currently I am a member of the Elders Forum in my ward and a Melchizedek Priesthood Holder. I was told to continue my journey to perfection that I should be married. I also need to be married to be considered for any higher calling positions in the LDS Church. I truly desire to be married to a proper LDS woman. At this time, the church provides little support to those single persons who are fit and in 50 plus age group, who are actively seeking a spouse. This demographic will continue to increase as many members mature. I am seeking your help and guidance in this matter.

I am a recent convert to the church, 2011. I wish dearly to get married. I am told that I am limited in my spiritual progress without marriage and there are many earthly recommended appointments not available to me because I am single. I am well educated with a lifetime of great experience and wish to serve at a leadership level. Where is the church support for those fit members in their 60 plus age group who desire marriage?