BeccaKirstyn

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  1. And yet, we live in a fallen world! How about that.
  2. Why does he want to go to BYUi? Or similar schools?
  3. And if you want my opinion: if your boyfriend hasn't even started school yet and you are halfway through undergrad, AND have the opportunity to get a law degree for free: stay where you are. Your boyfriend/future husband (if that's the case) can get his degree where you are at and you'll both practically be done at the same time, AND you'll save a ton of money, if you're wanting to start making those "big move" decisions. At the end of the day though, this decision should be made with a lot of prayer and attendance to the temple.
  4. Oh wow. I can't even begin to start commenting on all the ridiculous nonsense you have stated, so I'll just keep it at this. A woman can EASILY know if she can't have children BEFORE being married. The fact that you made this statement is beyond me (or the majority of your statements).
  5. Many, if not most, will not provide validation. But we are here for support as your brothers and sisters through Christ in your trials. If this is the life you choose, then that is up to you. As @Just_A_Guy said, I would hope that those you interact with would still love you any way. Because that is one of the most important teachings from Christ.
  6. I'm confused of what kind of responses you are looking for. Are you looking for an answer to this question? Because you've made it clear that it doesn't really matter what the answer is. You, as you said, will still "choose your fiancé over God every time". So does any response/answer to your question actually matter? I don't think so. So beyond that, the next thing I can think of is are you looking for validation for your feelings/reasons? I can promise you that you won't find that here. If you peruse any other "advice" seeking column about scenarios looking for validation for their sin-like decisions, you will see that the members here will not give you a validating "perspective". They will give you what the doctrine of the Church says, and why they find it important. Since you've made it very clear that you would "choose your fiancé over God every time", I don't know what other information you could possibly be looking for on a mormon forum, outside of validation for your decisions. At the end of the day it is your life, your choices. Because God gave you the agency to do that in this Earth life. Does that agency come without consequence? Absolutely not. But it does come with a full, free rein to do whatever you'd like. So no one is going to stop you from making your own choices--not even God himself. He won't stop you from choosing your fiancé over Him. Because that's how important you are to Him. Your ability to decide for yourself is something He will never take away from you. So fair warning to whatever other responses you get.
  7. @In Idaho Many here have given you great advice concerning your situation. So is there any follow up to that advice? Have you heeded anything that you found worthwhile? Or are you still looking for something?
  8. I don't see anything wrong with doing what you've said (talk to her via Facebook, get her number, then go from there). I actually just recently helped my cousin do the exact same thing as he didn't get a chance to talk to this girl at church either but wanted to find a way to ask her out. I helped him find the best way to say "hey" over Facebook and then get her number, and it worked. I say go for it!
  9. Friends (in case you thought not to use it--it has resurged with my generation)/ Law and Order: SVU (again, not necessarily new, but very popular) Brooklyn Nine-Nine Prison Break Designated Survivor How I Met Your Mother Modern Family Criminal Minds New Girl (No idea if some of this have actual tv theme songs--just know they're popular)
  10. Your feelings of you feeling bad about letting people down that you care about are valid. You said it affects you, and no one can try to tell you otherwise. Try to come to figure out why it affects you, and maybe that will help you reconcile those feelings. If anything, this is a learning process and the feelings you have right now will help you to grow in a new area that you might need some development in that the Lord sees in you.
  11. Or maybe there are some opinions (like yours concerning women, relationships, dating, marriage, etc.) that are better left not said.
  12. Had to reset my password, but it worked out fine.
  13. Looks like there are some neurological issues going on there. Or just a broken leg.
  14. Where does this imply that all women are perfect and would never cheat? And what are you being blunt and honest about?
  15. Oh. My. Gosh. What is your problem??? Can you just not stop yourself from making false, generalized statements about women? Did you have a bad experience with dating women and now can't help yourself from making overgeneralized remarks about them? Your statement (while not helpful to the OP) could have easily been phrased "I would get a divorce. When people lie about cheating, you have to say that's it. She may continue to cheat and lie about it in the future." Doesn't that sound SO much better?? No, your OPINION about women is not needed her in this column. Your OPINION about how women act is not necessary to give this person advice concerning the issue they have posted about (which has already been very well addressed by others and really your comment wasn't needed or helpful).
  16. ............probably not even worth my time to respond to this ridiculous statement.
  17. Next time someone says that (if you're asking to meet up/go out with them) just say "oh, well I was looking to go on a date. You know, where you talk and get to know someone better and find out if this is someone you would like to spend time with. Oh, that sounds like what you're looking for in your 'hang out and chill' scenario? Interesting. Looks like you have a fear of commitment. I'd recommend talking to a psychologist about that so you can move forward with your dating life." But probably don't. Just keep it at the back of your mind and then laugh at the person when they use the "hang out and chill" excuse and when they ask what is funny, you can just smile and say "oh, nothing".
  18. Oh yes, good 'ol Mutual. It really should be the Mutual "I just like to flirt and get attention from multiple people and can't really commit to anything" app. And again, that goes for both sides. I wouldn't waste your time on that app. While it does provide you with a way to potentially meet a lot of new people, most of the time you'll find what you've come across and it's not worth your time. Just stick to the regular "meeting people at church/institute/stake activities" way.
  19. I would have to disagree with the end of your statement. There's a generational trend right now (with the age group The OP is in, along with myself) where people don't really want to be in a committed relationship. They want to just travel, hang out, and have "fun" (which includes all the "fun" parts of dating, but not labeling it as that). We went from one extreme of getting married young, to the other of not wanting anything to do with the idea of marriage at "our age". They want to be independent for awhile and enjoy that time of their life before "settling down". (I am using quotations because I don't align myself with this type of thinking--but I know plenty who do). While there may be some that have said no to dating because they couldn't just be honest with @Danny Phantom, I honestly believe most of them are truly not wanting to date seriously right now. And this goes for both girls and guys.
  20. If you're not comfortable yet just creating conversation out of nothing, then find another activity (institute, FHE, before/after sunday school) to find her and talk to her. It's a lot easier to spark up the "hey! how's it going?" conversation when you're both at an activity that you didn't *necessarily* go to specifically to talk to that person (like a date). Then from there you can either continue to make smaller steps towards feeling more comfortable about asking her out, or you can ask her out after the activity/get her number and call her later (or text--as that seems to be the norm now). As someone probably around your same age range, most girls are pretty open to going out on a first date with someone they just met. I say most, cause some weren't taught the "say yes to every first date" rule (barring the obvious creepers and jerks that you know are not worth your time).
  21. Just when I thought the hole you dug yourself into was starting to refill itself with some common sense...*face palm*
  22. You must be one interesting fellow.