NeedleinA

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    NeedleinA reacted to mordorbund in Where's the "recent posts" button?   
    On the upper right of the page there's a "unread content" link you can click. You can also mark an entire thread as "read" so it doesn't continue to come up.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in How Do You Handle Politics And World Events During Church?   
    We have a few members at church that have zero issues voicing their opinions when they disagree with "off" statements.
    I admire them for not just sitting there. Over the years, I would like to think that when I hear something at church that is inappropriate that I too say something. I don't want to sit silent and let others think I agree with them. 
     
    I've been in about a dozen wards during my life. Each ward was sure to have members who ranged from "wow, why are they not translated yet?" down to the "yikes, what a fruitloop" (not very Christlike, I know). Not everyone makes accurate/appropriate statements in church. Speak up when you hear wishwash is my thought. 
     
    Picture for a moment sitting in another denomination and them discussing "Mormons are evil" instead. I would hope some of our non-lds friends would step up and call "bull".
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in How Do You Handle Politics And World Events During Church?   
    We have a few members at church that have zero issues voicing their opinions when they disagree with "off" statements.
    I admire them for not just sitting there. Over the years, I would like to think that when I hear something at church that is inappropriate that I too say something. I don't want to sit silent and let others think I agree with them. 
     
    I've been in about a dozen wards during my life. Each ward was sure to have members who ranged from "wow, why are they not translated yet?" down to the "yikes, what a fruitloop" (not very Christlike, I know). Not everyone makes accurate/appropriate statements in church. Speak up when you hear wishwash is my thought. 
     
    Picture for a moment sitting in another denomination and them discussing "Mormons are evil" instead. I would hope some of our non-lds friends would step up and call "bull".
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    I read a quote on here about house cleaning and young children a couple months ago(?) that I believe came from Eowyn(?).
     
    "Trying to keep your house clean with little kids at home is like trying to brush your teeth while eating Oreos, it doesn't work"
    (something like that)
     
    So much more to life than keeping my house looking like the temple with 4 kids. After reading that quote, I take life a lot easier and don't beat myself up so much. Thanks!
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    I read a quote on here about house cleaning and young children a couple months ago(?) that I believe came from Eowyn(?).
     
    "Trying to keep your house clean with little kids at home is like trying to brush your teeth while eating Oreos, it doesn't work"
    (something like that)
     
    So much more to life than keeping my house looking like the temple with 4 kids. After reading that quote, I take life a lot easier and don't beat myself up so much. Thanks!
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    NeedleinA reacted to The Folk Prophet in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    Clean is so subjective.
     
    Compared to the temple my house is...um...shameful. Compared to some people's homes that I've been in my home's quite tidy.
     
    So am I following the command to keep my home clean?
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    NeedleinA reacted to prisonchaplain in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    Gals tend to come in and express heartache about their spouse's cheating, porn viewing, yelling, etc.  This guy comes in with cherry-picked quotes from a licensed counselor, endorsed by the church--accusing the counselor of apostasy.  The temptation to read into the OP was truly overwhelming.  If nothing else, it struck me as inappropriate to come to a forum with snippets from a private counseling session, seeking affirmation (ammunition?).
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    NeedleinA reacted to estradling75 in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    The most recent revealed word on the roles men and woman play in a family is in the proclamation of the family.
     
    It states clearly that a man is responsible for the "necessities" and the women are responsible for the "nurturing"  It further states that both man and woman are to help each other in the fulfilling of their roles and adapt as necessary to the reality of the situation they find themselves in.
     
    This is the revealed word of the Lord on this matter as far as we know it.
     
    This allows for both structure and flexibility.  However no where does it state who has the responsibility of cleaning the toilet, mopping the floors or doing the dishes.
     
    If you view such as "necessities" then it clearly falls to the man.  If you view such as "nurturing" then it clearly falls to the woman.  If you view it as crap that needs to be done then it can go where ever it best fits.  No matter what, the couple chooses, always remembering the command to help each other.
     
    As for cleanliness yes it is a command.  However remember the direction of President McKay.  If you think his remarks of about Success in the home was based on how "clean" it was you really don't get it.  Success in the home is when the people who live in that home are thriving and growing closer to Christ.  Failure in the home is when the people who live in that home are not thriving and not growing closer to Christ.  That is the success that matters, not how clean it is.
     
    Now in my personal experience a young child who is thriving... one of the signs that they are thriving is that they are a chaotic little mess makers (My little daughter has the nick name The Hurricane for precisely this reason).  Part of the nurturing process is the teach them to clean up after themselves while still having them thrive, but that takes time.
     
    So sometime a Successful home is not the cleanest of homes, but I will take success any day and be content
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Sunday21 in Any good ideas for giving church lessons?   
    Second idea
    I looked over the topics/lessons of the entire year in advance. I took one thought provoking question from each lesson. I then compiled an anonymous survey of about 30 questions. I spent the very first Sunday doing the survey with the entire class, NO lesson, just the survey. 
     
    Then each week I would share the results of the survey question that pertained to that week's lesson. Example if the lesson was on following the Prophet:
    Question: If the prophet asked us to all move to Utah today (we don't live in Utah currently) what would you do?
    a. Pick up and leave immediately
    b. Pray about it first, wait for your own personal revelation and go only if you received your own answer.
    c. Wait it out in town and let others go.
     
    I would read the anonymous results back to class that would tie into the lesson. It almost always generated deep discussions and the class could go on auto pilot often.
     
    I personally learned a lot about my fellow members by studying the survey, not all of it was heart warming either :)
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Sunday21 in Any good ideas for giving church lessons?   
    Piggy backing on JAGs thought...
    When I taught GD (also), I would do the same thing. I would send out emails to the class asking for specific items. I taught a class to about 100-120 each week. I used a projector and pull open screen, both from the library. 
     
    The last year I taught was D&C so there were several core themes: Missionary work, celestial marriage, temples, etc.
    In the email I would ask members to submit photos of "themselves" to share during class the coming week. If the subject was missionary work, I would spend a couple minutes sharing the 15-20 submitted pictures of members on their actual missions.
    This worked for a variety of lessons to engage members and give everyone a glimpse into others lives and it was fun to guess as you looked at everyone's old pictures.
     
    The spirit is key to a successful lesson, BUT you need to have an audience who is engaged to hear the lesson to feel the spirit. An audience who is 60% asleep is most likely going to have a hard time feeling the spirit anyways.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Is it okay to cheat...sometimes?
    "The Ogden Utah Temple was the first temple dedicated in the state of Utah; the four previous temples were dedicated in Utah Territory over 78 years earlier."
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    NeedleinA reacted to Just_A_Guy in Trivium -- Temple   
    In 1875 David Whitmer said it had been washed to the bottom of the hill, and a Smith family acquaintance said the stones had been removed as of 1893.
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    NeedleinA reacted to Vort in Trivium -- Temple   
    Seems like it fell apart and washed away.
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    NeedleinA reacted to Just_A_Guy in Trivium -- Temple   
    What I've heard is that code names were also sometimes used in revelations dealing with the United Order or Church-initiated business ventures, for fear that enemies of the Church might try to torpedo the plans by filing strike suits against their principals.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Winners! Winners! Turkey Dinners! (no leftovers from the Chicken dinner, sorry)
     
    "Some of the earliest revelations received by Joseph were directed at specific individuals in the Church. During the winter of 1831-32, secular newspapers in Ohio, after acquiring some of the revelations, began ridiculing Church leaders whose names were mentioned. To lessen embarrassment to his officers, Joseph began in March 1832 to identify certain individuals in revelations by code names. Joseph himself became "Enoch". He gave such names as "Ahashdah" to Newel Whitney and "Pelegoram" to Sidney Rigdon. Years later the real names were added in parentheses and the 1981 edition of the D&C no longer listed the names at all."
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Winners! Winners! Turkey Dinners! (no leftovers from the Chicken dinner, sorry)
     
    "Some of the earliest revelations received by Joseph were directed at specific individuals in the Church. During the winter of 1831-32, secular newspapers in Ohio, after acquiring some of the revelations, began ridiculing Church leaders whose names were mentioned. To lessen embarrassment to his officers, Joseph began in March 1832 to identify certain individuals in revelations by code names. Joseph himself became "Enoch". He gave such names as "Ahashdah" to Newel Whitney and "Pelegoram" to Sidney Rigdon. Years later the real names were added in parentheses and the 1981 edition of the D&C no longer listed the names at all."
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    NeedleinA reacted to pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    I think it has something to do with the D&C and original names if my memory serves me but I can't remember anything more than that.
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    NeedleinA reacted to Vort in Trivium -- Temple   
    I'm guessing they were all used as substitute names in many of the published revelations.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Is it okay to cheat...sometimes?
    "The Ogden Utah Temple was the first temple dedicated in the state of Utah; the four previous temples were dedicated in Utah Territory over 78 years earlier."
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Is it okay to cheat...sometimes?
    "The Ogden Utah Temple was the first temple dedicated in the state of Utah; the four previous temples were dedicated in Utah Territory over 78 years earlier."
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from pam in Trivium -- Temple   
    Is it okay to cheat...sometimes?
    "The Ogden Utah Temple was the first temple dedicated in the state of Utah; the four previous temples were dedicated in Utah Territory over 78 years earlier."
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    NeedleinA reacted to The Folk Prophet in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    Eowyn, I apologize for the sarcasm I injected into the discussion. It was inappropriate.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    Sometimes the counselor you "get" (location wise) isn't a perfect fit for you, perhaps a different one would work out better. You are not limited to just the one or having to travel hours away. While not in person, there are LDS Fam. Service Counselors who can meet with you via the internet: Skype, etc. 
     
    Also, suppose Skype sessions didn't work for a moment (pretend)...
    Is working on/saving your marriage worth driving several hours away? I would hope so. Make a trip of it. See some sights, go on a date with your wife while you are there and go to an extra long session with your new counselor. People drive for sports, camping, events... surely working on your marriage would be a top priority?
     
    Finding a counselor you enjoy/trust will be vital to you even caring about what they have to say in the first place. I would never avoid a counselor because they gave you advice you found hard or difficult to swallow. If you (myself included) had all the answers, you wouldn't be at a counselor's office in the first place. You are not looking for someone who simply agrees with you on all points.
     
    I'm not taking sides on this subject, you vs. the counselor, just saying there are alternatives.
    If this were me, I would be asking myself, "How bad do I want to work on/save my marriage" and then act like I better jump through hoops to get it done.
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    NeedleinA got a reaction from Jane_Doe in LDS Family Services counselor told me line about "Most important work you can do is in the home" isn't true   
    Sometimes the counselor you "get" (location wise) isn't a perfect fit for you, perhaps a different one would work out better. You are not limited to just the one or having to travel hours away. While not in person, there are LDS Fam. Service Counselors who can meet with you via the internet: Skype, etc. 
     
    Also, suppose Skype sessions didn't work for a moment (pretend)...
    Is working on/saving your marriage worth driving several hours away? I would hope so. Make a trip of it. See some sights, go on a date with your wife while you are there and go to an extra long session with your new counselor. People drive for sports, camping, events... surely working on your marriage would be a top priority?
     
    Finding a counselor you enjoy/trust will be vital to you even caring about what they have to say in the first place. I would never avoid a counselor because they gave you advice you found hard or difficult to swallow. If you (myself included) had all the answers, you wouldn't be at a counselor's office in the first place. You are not looking for someone who simply agrees with you on all points.
     
    I'm not taking sides on this subject, you vs. the counselor, just saying there are alternatives.
    If this were me, I would be asking myself, "How bad do I want to work on/save my marriage" and then act like I better jump through hoops to get it done.