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    zil got a reaction from mirkwood in Death Note   
    From what little fanfic I've read, it stinks - as in, the writing stinks.  Sometimes someone has a good story idea, but the execution is awful.
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    zil reacted to Vort in Death Note   
    Bingo.
    I started watching the anime Death Note a year or two ago, probably two. I watched quite a few of them; I found the style interesting and the storytelling engaging. But about a third or halfway through, it became much too unremittingly dark for my tastes, so I abandoned it and haven't regretted what I didn't see. Not something I would have chosen to have my baby girl exposed to as an impressionable teenager.
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    zil got a reaction from Anddenex in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Pure would love the light, not hide in the dark (encrypted files), not forbid disclosure to the Bishop.  IMO, it is this "keeping secret" business that is the red flag - I cannot find a way to believe innocence so long as encryption and "no one else must ever know" are in play.
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    zil reacted to person0 in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    I tend to think of healthy/unhealthy in terms of habits rather than specific food items.  I really don't see anything particularly unhealthy about traditional potato chips; however, I would certainly agree that eating large quantities would be an unhealthy habit.  Even for some of the more complex flavors, like Barbecue, if anything, the only specifically 'unhealthy' thing might be the caramel color; everything else are likely to be found within many so called 'healthy' meals.

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    zil reacted to mordorbund in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    Huh. Those don't contain lead anymore either.
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    zil reacted to MarginOfError in Revelation that separates spouses   
    If you really want this behavior to end, you might consider encouraging him to say this to her.  Any woman with half a brain would run away screaming. (Note: this isn't very good advice. But if he did say this, at least you and she could bond about what a psycho nut job your husband is)
    Approaching your Relief Society president would not be inappropriate here. In fact, I'd encourage you to speak to her over speaking to your bishop.  
    More importantly, I'd strongly recommend you ask your husband to go to counseling with you.  And keep in mind, those that resist the suggestion of counseling the most are the ones that most desperately need it.  
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    zil reacted to Openmind in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Spiritual is definitely more concerning as it can prevent exaltation. I will be taking further action on this and have already begun doing so. I have already reached out to priesthood leadership and will continue to do so to get this resolved. Thank you.
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    zil got a reaction from mordorbund in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    Would you feel better if I said "not good for you" rather than "bad for you".  IMO, it's the same thing.  Look at the list of ingredients - by the time you add all that grease and salt (and sugar in some flavors) and carbs, I'm pretty sure it's just bad for you.  Your body's ability to deal with the bad without an instant coronary doesn't change that the one chip was bad.
    And anyway....



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    zil got a reaction from askandanswer in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Pure would love the light, not hide in the dark (encrypted files), not forbid disclosure to the Bishop.  IMO, it is this "keeping secret" business that is the red flag - I cannot find a way to believe innocence so long as encryption and "no one else must ever know" are in play.
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    zil got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in Revelation that separates spouses   
    PS: The bishop is not swine.  (Just saying.)
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    zil got a reaction from askandanswer in Revelation that separates spouses   
    I wasn't meant for a laugh.  Casting pearls before swine is indeed foolish or worse, but in this case, the pearls may be fake, and the bishop is not swine, so casting these pearls before the bishop to receive guidance from one with keys seems wise.
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    zil got a reaction from NeedleinA in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Pure would love the light, not hide in the dark (encrypted files), not forbid disclosure to the Bishop.  IMO, it is this "keeping secret" business that is the red flag - I cannot find a way to believe innocence so long as encryption and "no one else must ever know" are in play.
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    zil reacted to Openmind in Revelation that separates spouses   
    I know it was in all seriousness. Believe me I know. But the idea of my bishop being swine did relieve stress and tension. Thank you for that.
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    zil got a reaction from Vort in Revelation that separates spouses   
    I wasn't meant for a laugh.  Casting pearls before swine is indeed foolish or worse, but in this case, the pearls may be fake, and the bishop is not swine, so casting these pearls before the bishop to receive guidance from one with keys seems wise.
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    zil reacted to anatess2 in Opposition is a necessary part of learning and growth   
    "Russ" was not set up for failure.  He chose failure.  A challenge is not a set up for failure - born without working legs, born with low IQ, born to drug-addicted parents, born in the slums of the Philippines, born blind/deaf/mute, born with mental health issues, born to a mother who threw you in a dumpster.... These are not "set up for failure".  These are challenges to act upon - an exercise of free will.
    The opposite is the same - born to privilege... born in the USA to 2 loving, upper-middle-class parents, born smart, born healthy, born with the proverbial silver spoon in one's mouth - these are not "set up for success".  These are also situations to act upon - still an exercise of free will.
    Everybody have their own sets of challenges and privileges.  Even "Russ" had his set of privileges to go with his challenges.  What you do with them determines your lot in life.
     
     
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    zil reacted to Openmind in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Thank you all...I know it's hard to help people when you have only one side, I have tried to give you his side as much as possible from his own words and actions. I know it's hard to deal with and I feel ashamed that I have to deal with it directly. Please accept my Gratitude for ALL your help in sorting this out. My original purpose in posting was so that anyone else dealing with similar questions could find an acceptable path in dealing with this sort of issue. Now I know that my posting helped me too. Thank you so much!
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    zil reacted to mordorbund in Not believing in the traditional Christ   
    What if my belief is that serious error should be corrected, and that an incorrect understanding of God is a serious error?
    Maybe you should give up then. Since you're not Pentecostal and you're certainly not @prisonchaplain, maybe you're just not qualified to see it from his point of view.
    Or maybe you should give PC some credit for fraternizing among us as long as he has and engaging in these discussions.
    Sure we do.
    I don't think this position is defensible from the Latter-day Saint perspective.
    This sounds like a variation of the "general revelation" argument.
    Eternal Life is defined as knowing the only true God and His Christ. If this life is the only time to work our our salvation then waiting for the future eternities will reveal all about the Godhead and presto bango you'll be damned.
    Additionally, if a person's beliefs about God are too far off, it will lead to some really awful acts performed in his name.
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    zil got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Revelation that separates spouses   
    Crap.  The two of you are to be one.  The encrypted file and private trips to the bathroom with his cell phone (ahem) are not the two of you being one.
    Do what @anatess2 said!
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    zil got a reaction from Anddenex in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    Would you feel better if I said "not good for you" rather than "bad for you".  IMO, it's the same thing.  Look at the list of ingredients - by the time you add all that grease and salt (and sugar in some flavors) and carbs, I'm pretty sure it's just bad for you.  Your body's ability to deal with the bad without an instant coronary doesn't change that the one chip was bad.
    And anyway....



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    zil reacted to anatess2 in Revelation that separates spouses   
    My take:
    Whether the revelation is real or fake doesn't matter.  The revelation is for him.  The wife has not received such (you can ask God yourself to confirm a revelation that affects you directly).  Therefore, the wife can only act upon her own revelation.
    The wife cannot control the actions/thoughts of the husband.  She can only control how she reacts to it.  
    This is my advice on ways she can react to it:
    1.)  Tell the husband you haven't received such revelation and, therefore, you cannot approve of such a wife.  In the commandment for multiple marriages, the first wife has the power to approve or reject a 2nd wife by God's revelation to the wife herself.
    2.) Tell the husband that because you haven't received such revelation, you're going to consider his emotional attachment to this other woman as a transgression on your Marital Covenant.  It is therefore imperative that he either speaks to his bishop himself or you talk to the bishop together.  In any case, you are going to talk to the bishop about it to get his advice/blessing through his special priesthood keys over the power of discernment.
    3.) Tell him that as your wife, you want access to the encrypted file to make sure he is not headed down the path of destruction.
    4.) Tell him that you want him to see a mental health professional to deal with his feelings of isolation or depression.  Tell him you'll go with him if he needs you to.
    5.)  Continue being a good and loving wife to your husband and a good and loving mother to your children.
    No need for too much drama.
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    zil reacted to NeedleinA in Revelation that separates spouses   
    President Ezra Taft Benson, Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson shared:
    The path your husband appears to be going down now:
    How has this supposed 'revelation' impacted you, as his only actual wife?
    Q: Do you, as his wife, believe that our Father in Heaven (knowing all) would provide your husband such a 'revelation' given what it is doing to your marriage now?
    Q: Has the Spirit testified to you of the 'truthfulness' of said 'revelation'?
    If not, why not? Moroni 10:5
    Why would our Father in Heaven give your husband a  revelation that would drive this wedge between you both? A wedge that is sending him down a path of actual action, that if followed even further very well could destroy your marriage? The feelings you described are not the fruits of the spirit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith

    I agree with @Just_A_Guy, "makes me think there may be some mental health issues at play here."
     
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    zil reacted to person0 in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    Really?  Like how Lucifer lived in the very presence of God and rebelled against Him?  Knowledge is only one part of the path to perfection.
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    zil reacted to classylady in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    I admit I don’t often get up and share my testimony in Fast and Testimony Meeting. But, when I do share my testimony whether in Fast and Testimony Meeting, or in a Primary lesson, Sunday School lesson, or Relief Society lesson, I feel the responsibility that is on my shoulders. My responsibility is to teach or share with the Spirit, and to help my fellow members and/or investigators feel that Spirit. Because I do have a testimony and have felt the Spirit testify to me of the truthfulness of the gospel I feel I will have let my Savior down if I don’t testify. So, I will use the terminology “I know”, or “I testify in the name of Jesus Christ that ...”. And then I try to clarify why I know. I feel because I do know, I need to help those who are struggling. I want them to learn for themselves and know without a doubt so that when trials come their way, they have an anchor to hold on to. If they don’t know for themselves, when a a pivotal point comes in their life I hope they might remember me, Sister Classylady, and remember she knew! I hope they can hold onto my knowledge until they get their own. This is a responsibility I feel very strongly about. 
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    zil got a reaction from Vort in Are We Overly Compelled by Church Culture and Human Tendencies to Say I Know This Church is True?   
    Actually, I pointed out the demonstrable fact that you called those who use the phrase self-righteous liars.  Then I pointed out that you don't know what's in another person's head1, and therefore cannot accurately make that claim.
    1Unless you're claiming God revealed to you what's in everyone else's head, or claiming to have telepathy and to have read everyone else's mind.
    If you don't like the phrase, grand, say you don't like the phrase.  But you didn't stop there, you went on to accuse those who use it of being self-righteous liars:
    Yes, your first sentence is about the incidence of using the phrase, not the people, but the rest is accusing the people who use it.