curious_mormon
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I'm attracted to both Man and Woman...there I said it. Now flood my board with hatred. As you know, I am a member of the LDS church....I admit it, I am attracted to both Men and Women. I have had 1 past sexual relationship with a man. I want to change my ways, I've come back to church because I feel really bad! I just acted on my desire! Do I have a chance if I repent?!
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I'm 25 years old, male, and I've never really dated any mormons out there. I've dated outside non-members but I know I have to adjust to mormon standards to be able to be accepted socially. I feel that I have been a failure in my love life. I feel that no woman wants me. I'm too introverted, insecure, and unconfident. I don't think I am good enough, I don't think I have the face to be in a relationship. In fact, I think I'm just a potato! I'm nothing special. God made me a potato. I'm not handsome or anything like that. But I really want to get married someday. I have plans to have kids with my future wife, raise a family, take care of my wife and family, I'm not in a hurry or anything, but I'm getting old! at 25, I should be married. The mormon church is very confusing because they don't really teach us how to "approach", "flirt", etc...
I'm afraid I will be forever alone
Help? How do I even start at dating?
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I've always wondered where my tithing is really being used. I know it's used to build temples, churches, and such. But I'm also skeptical ever since I heard of Anti-mormon people or just people in general...talking about our church...that the church is another scam and a system trying to manipulate people in getting their money and such... I know this is not true, but part of me (like 20%) is saying it could be true, because it doesn't hurt to have an open mind!...Without tithing, it would also be hard for the church to progress in building more churches and such...
I'm also aware of the possibility of corruptions in the church, like the Roman Catholic Church, they taxed people for good reasons but I later found out that they were also using that money for corrupt reasons!
How do you feel about tithings?
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Hey, I always wanted to ask this question: is it okay to use little amounts of caffeine (25 mg, amount found in coke)? I keep the word of wisdom, I TRY. but I'm a student...a very exhausted student who needs more energy to focus and concentrate on what needs to be done. I have drank coffee in the past but I no longer use it because I really want to keep the word of wisdom. Since coffee is not allowed, am I still allowed to use caffeine? Like straight up caffeine powder or caffeine pills? I only use 25 mg because anything above that makes me anxious and jittery, but I need it to focus. It's so hard to not get sleepy while studying....
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On 9/19/2016 at 1:27 PM, MormonGator said:
LDS are brothers and sisters and we should treat each other as such. With this issue, the gloves come off and it's a bare knuckle brawl! I'm like "Can we talk about something that isn't controversial? Like gay marriage?!"
Ah, gay marriage...God made Adam and Eve. Not Adam and Steve. hehehe
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On 9/7/2016 at 2:00 PM, ldsnet said:
To eat meat, or not to eat meat: that isn't the question Hamlet asked himself as he contemplated suicide, nor is it the question most members of the Church ask themselves as they dig into the latest relief society casserole — but maybe it should be. 1. We Have Access to Grains All Year Round 12 Yea, flesh also of beasts and of the fowls of the air, I, the Lord, have ordained for the use of man with thanksgiving; nevertheless they are to be used sparingly; 13 And it is pleasing unto me that they should not be used, only in times of winter, or of cold, or famine. D&C 89 In the Word of Wisdom we are admonished to use flesh "sparingly" and not to use it unless we're in "times of winter or of cold, or famine." Today — in most developed countries — winter, cold, and famine are nearly inconsequential when it comes to the foods we choose to eat. Globalization has brought access to all foods, year round. Fruits, vegetables, and grains exist in...
My family eats meat all the time. Everyday. I recently have been eating less meat...and I feel better. As in, I don't that much "fatique". I tried doing that for at least 2 weeks. But then I "love" meat. I probably should have a balanced diet anyway. Eat meat and Veggies equally ...
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I'm just curious, Where did the Nephites, Lamanates, Amnicites, etc.. and all those people in the Book of Mormon Stories lived?
Where was their location? Was it in the America's? If they did live in the Americas, did they leave any ancient artifacts, etc?
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As a BYU student, why are beards not allowed on school campus? It's on the HONOR CODE. And, as missionaries, they are not allowed to have facial hair too. To me, this is something new. Why is it prohibited when living under the Honor Code or as a missionary? I mean....it's a natural thing to have facial hair when you are a growing man...
Do beards make us look evil or something?
Brigham Young had a very long beard. and the 1800's prophets had long beards too.
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15 hours ago, anatess2 said:
Lami mulang! Sige lang ug lakwatsa kay daghan ug maid. Diri sa America, trabaho na, inig-uli mangluto pa ug manglaba! Haaaay kapoy!
O, kana si Herbert Bautista nga mayor sa Quezon City, usa na siya sa mga bagets!
haha, tino-od. daghan ug maid didto. hayahay kaayo. Tinood pod nga sige ra trabaho sa America, pina ka kapoy diri. Pero daghan kwarta...ahaha si Herbert Bautista, ka hinom dom paman ko ani, mga 12 years old pako.
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17 hours ago, anatess2 said:
Uy, di tingali na siya kasabot ug astig kay 80's man iyang mission. Kanang panahona popular pa ang "Ka bagets gud nimo, nag serbisyo ug mission sa Pilipiinas!".
ahaha kalataw-an man ka brad. 90's naman ko natawo..wala gani ko kabalo anang "bagets" nga word. Gi ganahan ka sa pilipinas? Lami kaayo didto, pero America moy pina ka lami.
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9 hours ago, askandanswer said:
I started my mission in the Philippines Cebu Mission but while I was serving, the mission was split and I finished my mission in the Philippines Cebu East mission, At that time, all the missions in the Philippines were classified as English speaking even though many of the people where I served could not easily understand English. I learnt little bits of several regional languages - Illongo, Cebuano and Wary Wary, but never mastered any of them, and almost nothing of the national language.
Kumusta ka? Taga asa ka? Ang astig mo, nag serve nang mission sa pilipinas!
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6 minutes ago, Sunday21 said:
Thanks for your posting! Did I understand you correctly? Did you try cognitive therapy? With success? Do you have any suggestions for getting those with social anxiety to greet new members? Is a smile and wave too much to ask?
Yes, I tried CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy but did not continue it as I couldn't afford it. However, I found a cheaper alternative to it, there are numerous CBT books out there in Amazon or in the library. It has been a success...CBT is all about being courageous and that not everything is awkward as you think it is. For those with social anxiety, I would suggest that doing groupwork or teamwork is very helpful, if it looks like the socially anxious person is uncomfortable (signs like sweaty palms, being too quiet, shy eyes, anxiety), I would probably challenge the person (at least twice a week) to stand up (optional) and let them give their opinions to what you are questioning or about your lesson. If they don't feel like speaking up, I would encourage them and cheer them up and say that no one is judging you in this room. This is what CBT is all about. Being comfortable about being uncomfortable. Socially anxious people may have very minimal person to person interaction and may have been bullied or called names in the past....that's why encouragement and cheerfulness really helps on their part. FOr those with social anxiety, they will hardly ever approach people to greet, it's better if a third person initiates the small talk for them...for example:
Hey have you met my friend Robert? he's really cool...
something like that.
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I know about the Word of Wisdom. But I am curious about many things. I know we don't use caffeine or any other harmful substances that may harm our bodies as our bodies are Temples and are sacred.
But what does the Church say about Herbal Tea? No caffeine. What if there's a tea that has good effects on the body? Ginseng, Red Ginseng, Rosea, and many other teas have health benefits. I am assuming that the church is saying not to consume teas with caffeine (green and white teas have a little flouride which is harmful), but what about other teas?
Also, I want to ask you if Supplements are allowed in the church. I could not find any reference about taking supplements in the church.
I had depression. and I had psychiatrist and psychologist. They have prescribed my Zoloft, and Flouxetine (a long time ago). I found out about this stuff and it's even more harmful for the body during prolonged use and brain as the updated news have confirmed it through scientific research. I asked my doctor about it and he confirmed that there are many side effects on these antidepressants! So I got off it.
Now, I still had depression, but when I started to research about alternative medicine, I tried L-tyrosine, 5HTP, Mucuna Pruriens, Vitamin C, and other supplements....I've never felt any better! It works for me! I don't think these supplements are harmful unless taken in excess (anything in excess can be harmful), but I'm curious...what does the LDS Church say about taking supplements too?
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On 9/11/2016 at 2:48 PM, Sunday21 said:
Dear Sisters and Bros,
i am teaching a lesson in a few weeks about welcoming others into the church. I was considering drawing a scale on the board and having one end of scale represent an unfriendly person and the opposiate end of the scale be Jesus Christ. Jesus would be very friendly to a new person in the church. He would introduce himself, learn the newcomers name, smile and wave on future meetings, take an interest in the person, have a conversation wth that person from time to time, nod to that person if they passed in the hall and so on. An unfriendly person would do none of those things. I was thinking of asking the sisters to place themselves on that scale and to write a brief description about what they do now for new members at church, do they
1) frown, say 'oh no not another person! I hope they leave soon and never come back!'
2) ignore the person and hope they go away
3) smile and wave but otherwise make no contact
4) smile and introduce yourself and immediately forget the new persons name
5) smile, introduce yourself, remember persons name, thereafter smile and wave
6) smile, wave, introduce yourself, introduce others to the person, on next meeting have a brief conversation
7) introduce self, ask person to sit with you in church, try to become friends
the idea is to teach that at the very least, we need people to smile and wave and if you are doing this to do one step more.
My question is, what about those with social anxiety, what is reasonable to expect these people to do in terms of welcoming others to church?
is social anxiety the same as shyness? Can we expect these people to be friendly to others? What are your thoughts?
I too, have suffered social anxiety. I know what it is like. I still have it, but less. I suffered even more because of social anxiety, it lead to depression. Having difficulty making friends sucks bad. As my brain automatically reacts to little things. What I did was get familiar with the environment, get help, talk with the family (I know this is difficult, but we need the support), I read some self-help books about social anxiety. Try reading "Love yourself like your life depends on it" and "The Gifts of Imperfection", I also gave my life to our savior Jesus Christ, as I got closer to God and Jesus Christ, and reading more of the scriptures, I became a calmer as I approach stranger (it really helps to smile and think of positive things)! Pray to Heavenly Father for guidance in relieving social anxiety. I challenged myself to be in uncomfortable situations. Try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
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Anybody married to a foreign guy? Asian, Latino, etc?
I always see caucasian couples. and asian and hispanic and black couples. but I never really see inter-racial couples. As a matter of fact, diversity beats racism. Is there such thing as racism in the LDS church? Because I rarely ever see inter-racial couples in the LDS church.
Is it against the caucasian culture to date an Asian, latino, and black guys?
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you guys are horrible. If you love the man, then do what it feels like in your heart. THere is no perfect marriage.
Of course, this doesn’t necessarily mean you can have a fantastic life with everybody. Just because you don’t have to wait for the one doesn’t mean you should settle for just anyone. President David O. McKay taught, "In choosing a companion, it is necessary to study . . . the one with whom you are contemplating making life's journey."
Factors such as money, life goals, mental health, differences in religion, pre-marital cohabitation, relationships with family, and basic personality should all be accounted for. Braithwaite concluded through his graduate work that studies can predict the likelihood of success or failure in a marriage with up to 94 percent accuracy based on many of these sorts of issues.
But no matter whom you pick to date or marry, there will still be troubled times. Braithwaite showed the thinking of many couples as such: “If things start to go wrong in my marriage, it is a sign I married the wrong person. You start to think, ‘I need to get out of my marriage.’”
Not so. If it’s up to us to choose whom we wish to marry, it’s also up to us to make it work. The one person with whom life will be eternal bliss with nary a conflict does not exist except in tween romance novels. Love can conquer all, but only with a healthy dose of compromise, humility, charity, service, and a whole lot more thrown in. Look back at President Kimball’s quote: “Almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.”
No matter where you are in life, you can take this into account and apply it. If you’re married, realize that whatever problems you have don’t mean you can’t be happy, that you weren’t actually meant to be together and someone else would have made you happier. And if you’re single, remind yourself you don’t have to have fireworks exploding in the sky to give you confirmation this is the person you should date. If he (or she) makes you happy, go for it! That’s what I’m doing.
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In the beginning, when all else was perfect, Satan was also an angel...and I know he was cast down from heaven because he opposed God. But my question is...did Satan get tempted by another angel or something? how did he know how to do evil and oppose God if he was perfect. Does that mean that in heaven at that time, the angels had free will?
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I'm losing faith in the most painful way. I don't even think I am worth it anymore. I don't think I'm worth anything to Heavenly Father anymore. I've lost so much of my innocence. I've been stuck in the world's influences. I can't feel what I felt a long time ago when I was young...when I still had a good character. I've sinned so much and I just think I am to the point that I am also evil. I have a history of abuse in the family (when I was young), that's what probably triggered my rebellion and depression. After the abuse, I felt like my world fell apart. I didn't belong or fit in, in any of the kids in high school. I should've listened to the church...but I gave in to the peer pressure. I have tried many "substances" before, to take away the pain from the abuse..I got addicted to drugs in high school, but I got help from that. I know this is really personal to me but I am writing this as my last resort because I'm trying to find hope in these dark waters...I also got addicted to pornography, ever since me and my ex gf got together in high school...I was introduced to this stuff...and it could ruin my life. I want to stop it. When I got bullied in school, I think I completely changed my personality, I became an anxious person and very moody, violent and very angry. It kind of drove me away from my family. Now, I'm sitting here, now 24 yrs. old, still addicted to pornography and wanting to stop it..I'm just lucky enough that I still have family support.I am trying to find help, it can be really hard to find help sometimes...it's hard not to get judged by other church members...it's hard to find reliable friends these days. Times are hard when you're an adult. and I don't really feel like I belong to the church community. Regarding that I get social anxiety and am afraid of being judged because I might say something weird or bad or out of the ordinary...I really want my spirit to be in line with God again. I feel empty and depressed. It feels like my spiritual side is gone. It feels like I've been numbed down.
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On 8/29/2016 at 10:23 PM, Carborendum said:
Curious,
Since this is your first post, we have no idea what kind of person you are, so I have to ask something.
Is this a joke list?
No, this is a serious list (im serious), I looked them up online...since I have no knowledge of dating and experience whatsoever.
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On 8/31/2016 at 0:52 AM, Latter-Day Marriage said:
Believe it or not, when I proposed to my wife, we had had only one date, and it was 3 years before that night.
wow.lol only one date!
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Hi there, I'm a mormon all my life and have been in and out of the church many times. I have finally decided to stay in my faith and chose to stay in the church's standards and expectations. Because I have lack of knowledge about mormon dating, how do I ask out a mormon girl on a date? What pickup line do I use? I have provided tons of these...lol I have no idea where to begin with. This girl is from Peru, she's beautiful, she speaks good english, and she's kind. I really don't want to mess this up. I know her as a friend. So what do I say to her?
The 13th Article of Faith requires me to ask you out (“If there is anything virtuous, lovely or of good report, or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.”)
If Eve was tempted by an apple than you must be my fruit.
Even with the Liahona, I get lost in your eyes.
You remind me of the fruit in Lehi’s dream. Precious above all others
Can I introduce you to my friends to prove that angels really do exist?
God broke the mold when He made your sweet face.
I want to be like the Spirit, to be with thee whithersoever thou goest.
What’s ur favorite temple? I’m lookin’ at mine.
If we were around with Noah… then you, me… pair.
my spiritual gift is my good looks… it lifts peoples spirits
The tree of life called, it wants it’s sweetness back.
The tree of life called, it wants it’s sweetness back.
welcome to the christian family… the only family where brothers and sisters can marry each other.
I would leave 99 sheep to come and find you, then I would carry you home joyfully on my shoulder
I just got back from my mission and I’m looking for my next companion!
now i know why Solomon had 700 wives… Because he never met you
Are you the spirit? Because whenever I think about you I feel a burning in my bosom.
Are you the iron rod? Cause I wanna hold onto you for the rest of eternity.
Is the spirit telling you what it’s telling me?
Is your name virtue? Cause you garnish my thoughts.
Use this at your singles ward. I knew I’d feel the spirit at church, but I never thought I’d see an angel.
Are you a gadiaton robber? Because u just stole my heart. (If they do not know that this is one of the Mormon pick up lines they are not Mormon)
Don’t I know you from the pre-existence?
Guy sees girl and says: Oh good! Now I can break my fast. Girl asks: Why? Guy: Because I see the answer to my prayers.
What time do you have to be back in heaven?
I just got back from my mission….. i’m looking for another companion and i just found one.
God told me to come talk to you
No, i’m not coveting, I intend to make you mine.
Have you ever held the Priesthood? Guys puts his hand out
The Bible says “Give drink to those who are thirsty, and feed the hungry”; how about dinner?
For a moment I thought I had died and gone to heaven. Now I see that I am very much alive, and heaven has been brought to me
Did it hurt? …… When you fell from heaven?
What’s your name and number so I can add you to my “prayer” list
If God made anything more pretty, I’m sure he’d keep it for himself.
I’d pick you over Satan any day.
God was just showing off when He made you.
I know milk does a body bood, but how much have you been drinking?!!!!!
Even with the Liahona, I get lost in your eyes:)
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I don't feel like I belong in the Mormon community.
I feel that I am isolated toward other church members. I am of Pacific islander descent, but I don't think it has anything to do with my race, it might be.... The Mormon community here is mostly white/Caucasian. I came from a very poor family and background. I have been exposed to so much ghetto in my life and I may have picked up some bad habits while in high school. Even though I'm educated, those habits tend to slip up...things like cursing and just being myself. When I am being myself, and I slip( I am trying to change that)..people tend to judge me while at church. I am beginning to ask myself, is it my fault that I was exposed to bad influence all throughout my life? Should I look down upon myself? There's nothing wrong with change, but this whole thing is making me anxious. I am trying to belong but people at church don't seem to be "welcoming" to me. I gave a testimony when I first moved to my ward and I was being completely honest about myself.....that i was exposed to the ghetto and bad influences, that I used to drink, smoke, party, was a juvenille,I got wild and i ended up in jail and that one day the missionaries saved my life and gave me a book of Mormon to read and changed my life...
I feel like I am constantly being judged fpr who i was. When i look at the people and say whats up or say hi, nobody says hi back?! I feel isolated in the church. Sometimes I want to quit going there!
I'm attracted to both Man and Woman...
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Well yeah thanks! Now you make wanna kill myself. I'm not saying I am, but I want to. Oh...so much for "being like Jesus"....this religion is absolute BS.