nbigler4

Right. I guess I was just hoping someone else had some insight on the topic.

Sorry to bring up a dead thread... MichelleHubbart - what ever came of this? I am exactly in this same position, but reversed. My ex is getting sealed in the temple and wants the kids sealed to him. He is the custodial parent. I had the bishop come over tonight and explain some things to me, he did read exactly what MarginOfError said- But what I'm not understanding is that if the kids are sealed to their father and then to her, their step mom, do I for sure need to give up my parental rights legally in order for this to happen?? Or does it just mean that my kids cannot then later be sealed to me in the future?

I was born into the covenant, got married civilly at 19 and in the 8 years we were married, we had 4 children. We never got sealed together. We got divorced in 2011 and while I have taken a slightly different path, he has moved on and is now getting married in the temple. He is asking me to have the children sealed to him and his new wife. I'm extremely torn up over this. I'm not looking for anyone to come down on me, to tell me that I'm being selfish if I were to say no. But honestly, I feel that if I let them be sealed to him, I would be giving up my maternal rights to them in the afterlife. My kids are 13, 11, 9 and 6. From what I understand, what my kids have been told is that if they are sealed to him and his new wife, they will all live together in heaven, eternally, as one big happy family. And that I will still be their mom and they can come see me and visit anytime in heaven. I feel like they're not being told the entire story... The kids live with him, 2 hours away. I suppose to explain myself, thru the marriage I wanted a divorce so many times and tried to make it work, only to have him tell me that "we don't need counseling" and that "our communication was just fine" etc. By the time he finally let me out, I was so desperate that when he threatened to take me to court in front of a judge and jury for custody of the kids, I felt I would lose the battle anyway and because I had wanted out for so long and knew a custody battle would prolong things, I granted him custody of the kids, a decision which I now regret with all my heart. A quick overview on my current beliefs- I'm still Christian, I still believe in the Holy Trinity. I'm a good person but I've made some terrible mistakes that are not good for my salvation. I don't go to church anymore and I have questions and mild doubts about some of the teachings. I'm very open minded but realistic. I'm one of those kind of people that like factual answers to my questions as apposed to "just have faith". Can anyone tell me how this is all going to work out? For me and for the kids? Am I completely insane and selfish for not wanting the kids to be sealed to him and to let them make that choice when they're 18?