I'm interested in hearing from older couples and how they were able to handle getting old together.
My spouse and I are having problems. We now sleep in separate rooms from one another, work schedules are different and we are both very busy so every second of sleep counts - the difference between 6 hrs and 7hrs a night etc. Also, my spouse gets horrible headaches if they have disrupted sleep so they cannot sleep with another person. Anyways, this combined with our changing now old ugly bodies means we have not been with one another for a very long time, and that is taking a toll on me. I feel like we are not married, I feel ugly and unloved.
You know the Harlow study on monkeys? I feel like one of those baby monkeys - alone.
I talked to my spouse about it a week ago,he said he was sorry and that he did still love me. We went to the temple together and he has now started holding my hand, but that is it. We still sleep in separate rooms. I used to have my cloths upstairs even though I have not slept up there for a long time. He suggested that I switch the craft closet for mycloths closet, and yesterday I made it official - I moved all of my cloths downstairs. He now has his side of the house,l and I have mine. We are polite and friendly to one another, love one another in a friendly sort of way, but ourmarriage feels like it is over. I'm now too old and ugly to have anything more than a friendship. I tell myself it doesn't matter, at least he's a good guy, he works, he's a good father - but I am just depressed, and I don't think it is healthy for the kids.
What to do?