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  1. I never said I was fat - actually, I am not... you seem to think there is something wrong with being old? that happens to everyone... so the advice from this forum is to get plastic surgery and airbrush myself? This is what Mormons believe a healthy relationship is, one that is based on looks? nevermind, this is my last post here.
  2. I'm in a situation where I must work. As I stated in my first post, my husband has health issues - gets horrible migraines, and I suspect will not be working much longer. but I guess everyone else has shiny perfect lives - good for you.
  3. you must be young... actually, you are not in direct control of your body.... just wait until you get old.
  4. I'm old enough to have varicose veins, scars, and a few other things that exercise will not fix. I specifically stated that I was "interested in hearing from older couples" who could fill me in on what a marriage is when you get older. so, to the older people out there - what is marriage like when you get old? when it is not about physical attraction anymore? Can you hve a healthy relationship without physical attraction? If there is nothing there but physical attraction, than imo that is a pretty superficial relationship anyways, and I am not interested in that...
  5. I'm taking the kids on their first backpacking trip next week - hoping they can handle 5 miles a day. We're renting Lamas to haul some of the food/water - I can't wait!
  6. I'm guilty of bringing food - one Sunday it was a lesson on following directions/obedience, so we went to the kitchen, and I had the follow directions to make no-bake-cheesecake. we made enough for everyone to have a little cup-cake sized cake, and one more that we gave away as a service project. Another lesson on missionary work - I came in with a bunch of vegetables. I told the kids that I do not like vegetables, and it was their job to talk me into eating it (that this is what missionary work is - talking someone into doing something good). We went to the kitchen again, they had to wash, cut and prepare it. Then they had to eat it themselves to show me how good it was (I was not going to eat it if they did not like and eat it too). The lesson was a great hit - I even had extra students who were ditching their other classes show up.
  7. that's wonderful! date night is a good idea... wish me and mine had started that tradition.
  8. I'm interested in hearing from older couples and how they were able to handle getting old together. My spouse and I are having problems. We now sleep in separate rooms from one another, work schedules are different and we are both very busy so every second of sleep counts - the difference between 6 hrs and 7hrs a night etc. Also, my spouse gets horrible headaches if they have disrupted sleep so they cannot sleep with another person. Anyways, this combined with our changing now old ugly bodies means we have not been with one another for a very long time, and that is taking a toll on me. I feel like we are not married, I feel ugly and unloved. You know the Harlow study on monkeys? I feel like one of those baby monkeys - alone. I talked to my spouse about it a week ago,he said he was sorry and that he did still love me. We went to the temple together and he has now started holding my hand, but that is it. We still sleep in separate rooms. I used to have my cloths upstairs even though I have not slept up there for a long time. He suggested that I switch the craft closet for mycloths closet, and yesterday I made it official - I moved all of my cloths downstairs. He now has his side of the house,l and I have mine. We are polite and friendly to one another, love one another in a friendly sort of way, but ourmarriage feels like it is over. I'm now too old and ugly to have anything more than a friendship. I tell myself it doesn't matter, at least he's a good guy, he works, he's a good father - but I am just depressed, and I don't think it is healthy for the kids. What to do?