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  1. The credit card issue is not something to be taken lightly, hiding things like that is not fair to you. I echo the others please go to your Bishop.
  2. It certainly sounds as if you have a lot of strain and turmoil lately, after reading all of this I cannot really offer anything new except talk to your Bishop about possible help with counseling for you and your wife. Your sister-in-law having lost everything recently is likely struggling and might also benefit from counseling. I wish you all well. I recently had an adult daughter move home, she brought her live-in boyfriend and a cat. None of this was ideal, but, as she was quitting a drug addiction and trying to clean up her life, I agreed he could come. This was in July of 2016. They are both clean, and working, and now beginning a house search (2 months later than my you must move out by date) She may not live the life I want her too but, I will let her take her path and hope it arrives at a healthy and happy place for her. As a parent, it is really terrifying and hard to watch a child succumb to a bad path and to a drug addiction, so I had to say yes in just the tiny flicker of hope she could find her way back to real life and happiness. Helping others is stressful, they don't often work as hard as they could, or get jobs as quick as they could, I really thought we were faced with the possibility of kicking them out, but we backed completely off and sure enough they came around on their own. This was after we stopped mentioning jobs, and moving, and paying her bills on her own....they both got jobs, started paying some bills (baby-steps). In the end, my husband and I (as well as her younger siblings) are tired of them being here. But, I have done my piece, helped out a loved one. I wait patiently for them to leave. What I have learned is: 1. helping others who are coming out of trauma or addiction is a slower process than we would like, we don't always get to decide how fast it goes (Ha, I told them jobs and move out in 90 days). 2. It is REALLY trying, if I had it to do again I'd get them a place for 2 months and the rest is up to them. 3. They will likely cause tension and other fights in the household. I don't care for her points of view or the ridiculous thinking she exposes her sisters too but in the end we will all survive. It reminds me to help in a smarter way in the future. Lesson learned. I truly wish you the best and hope the SIL finds a job and you will have one less thing on your plate soon.
  3. In summation: Jesus was real and some people wrote some things so we have an outside view of his life and early Christians practices and that is really cool, ALSO, there are even more things to consider about fountain and roller ball pens and especially when trying to create a 0.5mm pen with amethyst colored ink and we all now know much much MUCH more about them! Therefore ... Jesus loves fountain pens (and chocolate chips)! That was a pretty entertaining threadjack @zil and @Carborendum ! BTW, I vote for semi-sweet chips! Thank you for putting me in a great mood this morning. When I checked my email and it had something about pens on this post , I was like, what? (which then made me log in and read, which resulted in a laugh and smile). <3 Happy voting day, please use blue or black ink! Any pen will do!
  4. True, and most scholars actually believe that the Bible is an accurate and true historical narrative of its times. So the fact people still argue about it is interesting . I feel it's really a lack of knowledge of what is out there for proof and being attached to the ideal they are right,even when the evidence says otherwise.
  5. I am not sure why people always want to pro e he wasn't real. It is just too well documented to make a good argument out of it.
  6. Agree. I feel that a common argument is that there is nothing written while he was living and while all of these accounts are written atleast 7 years past his death, some a hundred, they all acknowledge that he was very real and I feel that cannot be ignored! I really appreciated the description of the way the early Christians worshipped together. That was just plain interesting! Glad you enjoyed it !
  7. Ancient evidence for Jesus's life and death I recently stumbled across this article and thought it was a good breakdown of outside proof of Jesus's life. Most may know about this but if not you may find it very interesting and exciting !
  8. I'm sorry, this sounds very tiring and just sad for you. It sounds as if their "Rich = Rude and Materialistic" attitude has actually made them the rude and materialistic ones? They must feel threatened about your wife and her family causing a rift in your family and sadly they have caused the thing they feared. Here is what I feel you should do. Nothing. Why? Because there are 3 kinds of business, your business, GOD's business, and other people's business. How do you know the business that is yours? It is what you have been given the power to change by God. You can pray to Heavenly Father about this and give it over to him, because, it honestly is not your problem, it is their problem. Whenever we take ownership of another person's problem it causes us tons of distress and misery and at the end of the day they are the only people who can do anything about the situation. You can lead people to solutions, insights, and conclusions...but as long as there is free will you cannot make them see the light or the error of their ways. It is usually best to make a decision that you will not let others cause discord and unhappiness for you. Is this easy? Not at first, we all love to believe we can make other see their errors and that common sense or love can prevail and force them to change. But you said it, they most like will not unless they change their thinking, and who can change their thinking? Only God or they can change this. Instead, model for them how happy and fulfilled you are by your wonderful relationship with your wife's and your wife's family. If they want to actually be a part of your happiness and life they will need to change, if not, that is their sad decision. All you can do is love them. Love them for being incorrect in their attitudes and misguided with their actions because we are all imperfect beings and we do our best, even though we are often very far off base. Let me try to give you an analogy. The more you fight things the harder they become to bear. Say your parents are like sea. You would like them to be more kind to your wife and her family, but they cannot, at this time their waves and attitudes will keep coming in like the tide. You can rush out into their waves and fight them and say no stop stop this! If you have ever stood in the ocean and faced the incoming waves they are hard, they hit you and knock you down. If you, however, embrace the waves the way they are, and trust that God has your back and doesn't give you more than your own business to handle, those waves now hit hard but you can roll with them to the shore where its solid and safe. It is like this with you, let the shore be your love, peace, and happiness, the place where you can still love both sides as they are without trying to fight their waves. Does that mean you do nothing? Not exactly. But I am out of time for my suggestions at some ways to curb this behavior from your mom. Suffice to say you can merely make a decision to create a loving and happy atmosphere when she is around, to include her in it and realize this is her struggle instead of yours. It will help ease feelings of anger, guilt, and confusion, you can't hold beach balls down underwater and still swim! You cannot control her behaviors, only your own. I wish you peace and happiness, and I hope you find a way to accept what is, give to god what you cannot change, and still have the love your families both can provide.
  9. My foster brother is African American and he is married to a caucasian. They have been in the church for 20 years at least, and I know of other bi-racial couples as well, I do not feel it is all that rare here, can't speak for all areas but there is nothing against dating outside your race I am aware of, its a matter of who you meet and are exposed to. I suppose in large cities it would be more common than rural areas but I really don't know.
  10. We might be relatives then! Really? That is really really awesome!! Maybe I should be looking for Journals of the people in my tree!
  11. That's wonderful! Good luck on your genealogy adventures and congratulations on your baptisms!
  12. I had read a very good review of this one so I am happy to see it another recommend it! Thank you!
  13. Speaking of JS, he is my 4th (5x removed) cousin, so naturally anyone in my family tree is always instantly the most interesting to me. What is the best biography on him any of you have read? I would like to read a great, thorough, fair, and accurate history of him. But there are so many!